Among Friends

[this is my nic]

momtodogs, my husband is like yours, not social at all.  He has no friends at all!  Fortunately our 3 children live nearby, so he and our sons do guy things together.   You sound like my kind of woman to befriend!  

[this is my nic]

Thanks Peaches!  Our neighborhood did have a garden club which I belonged to.  Unfortunately, it disbanded.  A member has joined another club in town and I plan to attend a meeting or two to see if it's a match for me! 

[this is my nic]

@Silkeej, thank you for your kind response; I do appreciate it!  However, even though I am "a certain age", I don't care to socialize with only old folks!  Sounds awful, I know.  Living in an over 55 community seems sad.  I realize they can be lively places, but to me they're the waiting room for death.   Everyone discussing their most recent doctor's appointment, etc.  Yikes!  

You are very sweet to offer suggestions, thanks again! 

[this is my nic]

@Kalli, We could be friends!  I find myself walking through our town's shops wishing I had someone with me.  Someone to laugh with, you know.   Yes, becoming an introvert too! 

[ECBG]

I would suggest church or people you strike a cord with where you get your hair done.  I've met a few friends through where I work.  DH and I spent most of our time rearing children and being at church.  He has friends who haven't moved and having his own business, they all get together there for an hour after closing early on Fridays.

People's lives and their focus change.  A very close girl friend I worked with moved two states north of us and thinks it's enough to "watch my facebook" and not even speak on the phone or message eachother.  Personally, I don't call that a relationship. 

I use social media, but I don't substitute it for life.

[BeccaLou]

Try your Senior Center, but don't be to eager for friends,, make your friendships wisely. I have had some very bad choices that were worst than being alone. Get to know them well before you get to close. And that is sometimes a hit and miss. Good Luck.

[Snowpuppy]

I'm checking in as The Friend Who Left.

I made the decision to move 8 hours away from my hometown after a bad breakup. I had good friends, or so I thought. All of them are married and seemingly happily. And one by one they drifted away out of anger at me.

Because I was single I was usually available for that late night phonecall or last minute Saturday lunch.  I wasn't any more. I got occupied with my own life and interests after I moved but I tried to stay in touch. A card, a phonecall, a gift at the holidays. 

After awhile, no response so I gave it up.

[BeccaLou]

You can always come here and chat, that you can do it anytime, no matter the weather or time of day. And if it's not compatible there is not loss. You can try that until you figure it out.I tell my husband people don't chum around like you do when your kids.

[BeccaLou]

Life changes , make your way and be HAPPY !!

[AngelPuppy1]

I understand your feelings.  Right now I still work, have health issues as does DH, so I don't have a lot of spare time and don't have a lot of energy.  I spend what free time I do have with DH and we love being together.  However, occasionally, I would like to share a luncheon out or a small shopping excursion, etc.  But at present I really have no-one.  Most of my good friends have moved out of state and others that I am not that close with are so busy with their families and close friends.  Maybe through church?