Among Friends

[Mom2Dogs]

@jlkz   You sure have had an interesting career!

[Skyegirl21]

Your friend seems to have an issue with every suggestion to help her. She doesn’t want help- cannot help people who won’t help themselves- She is lucky to have a devoted friend. I don’t think I would have your patience…

[Alsace Gal]

@NEvans2 

You have a husband, the woman the poster is referring does not, she never married and has no children.

'Your husband is home with you, there's a world of difference.

[Mom2Dogs]

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@Alsace Gal wrote:

@NEvans2 

You have a husband, the woman the poster is referring does not, she never married and has no children.

'Your husband is home with you, there's a world of difference.

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Yes, I understand that and also mentioned it in one of my posts.

[Biftu]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

@LuvSoCal    Covid made it difficult for the business to stay open. It was not a high powered job...but it was the center of her life....yes, she can be difficult on a good day...I would call it 'prickly'.

She could have had a job but the pay was not what she wanted...I suggested she take it until something that paid more came along....it's her fault that she is not working right now.

It's summer there is plenty to do outside, garden, read outside but she says she is very tired, no energy.

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If she is too tired to even read outside how does she expect to get or hold a new job?  Sounds like she is depressed.  Loneliness can be a killer.  I hope she can find a new path.  Bless you for being such a good friend.  Hope she realizes how blessed she is that someone cares.  True friends are lifesavers.

[Sooner]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

@Kachina624   She is collecting SS.   She is looking for part time, but wants what she wants.  This is a small area, there are not a lot of jobs to be had especially a 'fun' job, and volunteering is not something she will do.

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@Mom2Dogs You can't help people who don't want help. 

[Desertdi]

Your friend is not depressed.    She is FRUSTRATED because she feels OBSOLETE.   

[NEvans2]

@Alsace Gal  I guess what I was trying to say is I believe we are all responsible for our own happiness. I have never depended on my husband or children to make me happy. I sometimes feel that women tend to base their happiness on others and I feel we should make our own.

I have been accused of being too independent, but that's just how I am.

[speedy girl]

This sounds like something she is going to have to figure out on her own since your suggestions don't seem to agree with her. I would invite her to lunch or coffee or just running errands and that will help her to know you are trying to help her through this. 

[Imaoldhippie]

I doubt that any company will hire her for a top notch position.  Her age as well as her health record will deter that.

Since she is a take no guff person then straight out tell her like it is.  She will have to accept that or not, its her choice.  Nothing else you or her sisters can do.