Re: For Some Reason I Just Can't Stop Crying

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@rms1954 wrote:
@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@rms1954 I had a friend that lost her husband, it was not expected.. She took 30 days off...no family, no calls, no going anywhere. She said those 30 days of no connection with any one really helped her.
That's what I wanted also ... just some time on my own; but it was not honored by my family. I got bullied and taken advantage of in my time of need. Telling me what was proper and what I NEEDED to do. So the family got what they needed and they go on and here I am alone and lost.

No, you are not alone, @rms1954 we are here. You can do whatever feels right for you. Your family will either support you or they won’t. That is OK.

Greeneyedlady21 · ‎01-06-2015

@rms1954 wrote:
@smoochy Daniel. He would have been 48 this December. He took his own life and I have so many unanswered questions. Nothing will ever be the same.

My sincere condolences to you @rms1954 . You are allowed to grieve for however long you want in all the ways that you want and need to.

If you feel like you are feeling certain ways that you don't want to be feeling please try seeing a doctor for medication if they recommend it. It can be helpful.

I can't understand your pain of the unanswered questions of what happened to your son. But I do have a friend who experienced that in her family and she attends a suicide support group and she finds it very helpful. When/if you are ready maybe you could try that? There is comfort in being around others who have experienced the same thing. You don't even have to talk in the group, even if it's just to listen at first.

"Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@rms1954 wrote:
@smoochy Daniel. He would have been 48 this December. He took his own life and I have so many unanswered questions. Nothing will ever be the same.

Suicide adds another layer to the already unfathomable grief you are dealing with.

When you are ready, please tell us about Daniel. @rms1954

HLP · ‎04-02-2015

@Silhouettes shadow wrote:
I'm so sorry you are feeling so terribly sad. I don't know if it's personal or because of all the horrible things that are going on all around the world. Either way, it is difficult to be in a position where deep sadness is so horribly overwhelming. I can't say things will get better even though I wish I could. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed with sadness and feeling helplessness in not being able to help in certain situations the way I'd like to regardless of if there my own issues or pain other's are going through.

"Be Blessed" Praying for you. SilhouettesMidnightShadow

Guess I've never allowed myself to be in your condition. Why do you let yourself go there.Is there no happiness you can think of doing.You need to get professional help with that, and I wish you well.

smoochy · ‎03-10-2010

@HLP wrote:
@Silhouettes shadow wrote:
I'm so sorry you are feeling so terribly sad. I don't know if it's personal or because of all the horrible things that are going on all around the world. Either way, it is difficult to be in a position where deep sadness is so horribly overwhelming. I can't say things will get better even though I wish I could. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed with sadness and feeling helplessness in not being able to help in certain situations the way I'd like to regardless of if there my own issues or pain other's are going through.

"Be Blessed" Praying for you. SilhouettesMidnightShadow

Guess I've never allowed myself to be in your condition. Why do you let yourself go there.Is there no happiness you can think of doing.You need to get professional help with that, and I wish you well.

are you always this obtuse and insensitive? Obviously you have never had one of your children die.

MICHIGAN STATE MOM

ChiliPepper · ‎01-16-2015

@HLP wrote:
@Silhouettes shadow wrote:
I'm so sorry you are feeling so terribly sad. I don't know if it's personal or because of all the horrible things that are going on all around the world. Either way, it is difficult to be in a position where deep sadness is so horribly overwhelming. I can't say things will get better even though I wish I could. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed with sadness and feeling helplessness in not being able to help in certain situations the way I'd like to regardless of if there my own issues or pain other's are going through.

"Be Blessed" Praying for you. SilhouettesMidnightShadow

Guess I've never allowed myself to be in your condition. Why do you let yourself go there.Is there no happiness you can think of doing.You need to get professional help with that, and I wish you well.

@HLP

Are you for real???

Or hopefully I'm reading your post wrong!

No one "ALLOWS" or "DOESN'T ALLOW" themself to be distraught when they lose a child. It's not a choice - it just is!

I am so sorry to the OP & the other posters who are living through this - I can't even imagine.

I will keep you all in my prayers.

weezer35 · ‎04-03-2024

I JUST READ THIS rms1954, AND I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR SON. THERE ARE NO WORDS SO I {weezer111}, AM SENDING MANY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS YOUR WAY. YOU HAVE MANY FRIENDS HERE ON THE FORUMS, SO NEVER FEEL ALONE.

TAKE CARE XO

SilleeMee · ‎05-22-2016

@rms1954

I'm sorry for your loss.

I lost my entire immediate family in a matter of a just a few years. There were five of us altogether. I'm the only one left and sometimes it's difficult to go w/o tears. Holidays are the worst. Try to stay busy and focus on your own well-being.

rms1954 · ‎06-06-2019

@HLP wrote:
@Silhouettes shadow wrote:
I'm so sorry you are feeling so terribly sad. I don't know if it's personal or because of all the horrible things that are going on all around the world. Either way, it is difficult to be in a position where deep sadness is so horribly overwhelming. I can't say things will get better even though I wish I could. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed with sadness and feeling helplessness in not being able to help in certain situations the way I'd like to regardless of if there my own issues or pain other's are going through.

"Be Blessed" Praying for you. SilhouettesMidnightShadow

Guess I've never allowed myself to be in your condition. Why do you let yourself go there.Is there no happiness you can think of doing.You need to get professional help with that, and I wish you well.

I hope you never find yourself where I am right now. I wish you well also.