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05-17-2019 01:52 PM
Hedge, no one, I'll speak for myself is "keeping score". As I mentioned, it just is a nice thing. Yes, one can see thru compliments that are manipulative. Most people respond to sincerity.
05-17-2019 04:12 PM - edited 05-17-2019 04:19 PM
Its a good thing I dont get my self esteem from others complimenting and saying nice things about me lmboooo
I dont keep score at all. It is just very noticable when others are saying nice things to others and you are not included.
I dont give out fake compliments to others. I will when they look nice or have a pretty outfit or their hair looks nice etc!!
Thanks everyone!
05-17-2019 04:13 PM
My comments weren't directed to you, @roster .
OP's OP does indicate she keeps score, at least among certain people. And most unfortunately, she yearns for compliments that are based on her physical appearance.
This makes me very sad.
I deal with lowlifes whose sincere compliments are frequently used to camouflage lewd intentions, and test a trusting person's malleability for eventual exploitation.
05-18-2019 04:41 PM
Compliments are 'one and done.' Meaning, you give a compliment and it's over. Zero expectations that compliments will be returned. Either you're someone who compliments others or you're not. Has nothing to do with how others behave or respond. IMO- life's easier when we keep it simple and 'ease on down the road.'
05-18-2019 10:16 PM - edited 01-10-2020 02:34 AM
@FlowerBear wrote:
I dont keep score at all. It is just very noticable when others are saying nice things to others and you are not included.
I agree. Sometimes you just can't help but notice when certain people don't ever compliment you.
05-18-2019 10:40 PM
When people do not compliment me or anything mine, I pretty much stop complimenting
them on anything period.
I know people that never compliment anyone or anything, I find that to be strange and pretty much just kind of rude, whether they really like it or not is not the point. I compliment on things to be friendly and polite.
Some people can take a compliment with no problem,
but when it comes to giving one ...
I guess if it is not directed towards them, they could
give a hoot about compliments period.
Perhaps some people were just born in a cave...
(Well no, cave men probably had their own form of a complimenting grunt! 😂)
05-18-2019 10:53 PM
Our family is very supportive and loving, we compliment each other all the time. We had a family gathering today to welcome our newest baby and we told her parents how beautiful she is. My SIL showed us prom pictures of my very handsome nephew, this kid looks likes a movie star and I told her so. I'm old and my brother always tells me,"you look good Sis". I love to compliment people, I don't care if I am complimented or not, but I like compliments and have no problem accepting them.
05-18-2019 10:59 PM
Keep doing all the nice things you do. My guess is that you always look nice so they just expect that of you.
05-18-2019 11:01 PM
@FlowerBear I did not come from a family where anyone gave compliments; in fact, quite the opposite. I do give them depending on the circumstances. Sometimes people need to hear something nice. Sometimes they just look great.
It might be that you do it so often that it seems like you are asking to get a compliment. My suggestion is to limit the compliments that you gvie and only do so when it is truly sincere.
05-18-2019 11:59 PM
Always! Even if I don't know the person. Today, at the deli counter was a nicely dressed older lady with a beautiful Coach tote bag. I told her how much I liked herbag&how nicely she was dressed. She seemed surprised!
Me on the other hand -- dressed like a bum painting furniture & gettinghouse back in order. ran to pick-up lunch in basketball shorts, crappy t-shirt & flip flops. My cc was tucked in mybra🙄 -- hmmmm didn't get any compliments but maybe some 😳 looks.
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