Bridal Registry - Page 3

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@willomenia wrote:
@haddon9 wrote:
@bargainsgirl wrote:
We just got an invite to a nephew's wedding a few hours away. Included was the wedding website etc...so we checked out the registry. One choice was to "donate" to their "first house fund". I never saw anything like it! But as hubby pointed out, what is the difference if you give to that or just give a monetary gift (like we got most of!). I guess that is one way of looking at it. Just caught me off guard. They sure do things differently these days!!
@bargainsgirl When my daughter got married last year she also had a registry. One of the items was to give to a Honeymoon fund. I told her that I thought that it was tacky but she said that a lot of her friends just don't give checks....they don't have checkbooks. Instead they pay for everything online. By giving to this "fund" it's the same as giving a check in a card.

I really only use paper checks now for gift giving and an occasional bill. Yes things are always evolving.
That is so tacky!

@willomenia Well thank you...aren't you sweet?

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@bikerbabe wrote:
It’s practical and I see nothing wrong with it.

Better than previous generations when newlyweds received tea sets, candle sticks, formal dinnerware, and serving pieces that no one ever used. Or 3 fondue pots and 4 crock pots.🤣 What a waste of money.

@bikerbabe Agreed. It may be tacky to some but it is silly to get so many repeats or items that one will never use.....what is the point?

I can remember getting multiple crock pots among several other items when I got married in 1982. Most people just gave cash via check when I got married for which as a young couple we were grateful for.

sann · ‎05-30-2012

@Love my grandkids wrote:
I know this has been around for years but I find it tacky and tasteless, regardless of who is doing it.

In my opinion, have a honeymoon you can pay for **yourselves**. We did and so did everyone else I know, inclulding my DS and some even younger couples.

I think a 'house fund" is equally tacky.

@Love my grandkids I agree ....pay for your own honeymoon and your own house...never heard of such a thing.... absolutely ridiculous

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Carmie I think that is terrible you weren't invited! I could never imagine inviting someone to a wedding without inviting their spouse as well!

Most new brides to be now have wedding sites with all of their wedding day information. This includes pictures of the happy couple, a map of the wedding location & venue, hotel information, the wedding day schedule, things to do in the area, etc.

The formal snail mail invitation will usually only mention the site's email address but never a registry.

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

@Love my grandkids wrote:
I know this has been around for years but I find it tacky and tasteless, regardless of who is doing it.

In my opinion, have a honeymoon you can pay for **yourselves**. We did and so did everyone else I know, inclulding my DS and some even younger couples.

I think a 'house fund" is equally tacky.

maybe but why end up with a bunch of "gifts" that you don't need or want.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@haddon9 I don't think the couple wanted to exclude me. They were just too stupid to know that if your name isn't on the invite, you're not invited. They expected us to assume since we were married, the invite was for both of us.

When my daughter got married, quite a few people responded that they were bringing extra people that we did not invite....equally wrong and stupid.

SoCal Bred · ‎05-04-2020

If you're spending so much on a wedding and then asking for cash gifts for your honeymoon, house fund, etc., that's pretty tacky and bold. It's like asking guests for a reimbursement on the cost of the wedding! JMO.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@SoCal Bred wrote:
If you're spending so much on a wedding and then asking for cash gifts for your honeymoon, house fund, etc., that's pretty tacky and bold. It's like asking guests for a reimbursement on the cost of the wedding! JMO.

@SoCal Bred I believe that a registry is not seen as "asking" for gifts. It's a suggestion if people just have no clue as to what a couple may want or need. I think most people see it as a helpful resource, guide and suggestion. Registries have been around for decades.

Of course one is free to give whatever they want or even nothing at all.

Jo1313 · ‎02-02-2021

Some brides and grooms expect people to give a cash gift that at least covers the cost of their meals!.That's crazyness!

When our sons got married..We asked them what they wanted..the brides never said anything about it(Love those girls!) (no one else should be told what to give)..

One had a destination wedding in Las Vegas..We picked up the bill for the afternoon reception and pre wedding dinners.

The other one said a trip to Hawaii..so we paid for that. That was our choice to do what we did..No guest should be asked for certain things(money or gifts)..As parents we did what we wanted to do..We were fortunate to be able to do these things.

One said he wanted a box of cash for their engagement..That's what they got a box of 1 dollar and 5 dollar bills!

SoCal Bred · ‎05-04-2020

@SoCal Bred wrote:
If you're spending so much on a wedding and then asking for cash gifts for your honeymoon, house fund, etc., that's pretty tacky and bold. It's like asking guests for a reimbursement on the cost of the wedding! JMO.

@haddon9 wrote:

@SoCal Bred I believe that a registry is not seen as "asking" for gifts. It's a suggestion if people just have no clue as to what a couple may want or need. I think most people see it as a helpful resource, guide and suggestion. Registries have been around for decades.

Of course one is free to give whatever they want or even nothing at all.

@haddon9

I know what a registry is, I myself have given a cash gift to the newlyweds to help them purchase whatever they need outside of the registry, but downright asking for cash to help fund their honeymoon, etc., is tacky IMO.