Re: Bridal Registry

willomenia · ‎07-31-2011

@haddon9 wrote:
@bargainsgirl wrote:
We just got an invite to a nephew's wedding a few hours away. Included was the wedding website etc...so we checked out the registry. One choice was to "donate" to their "first house fund". I never saw anything like it! But as hubby pointed out, what is the difference if you give to that or just give a monetary gift (like we got most of!). I guess that is one way of looking at it. Just caught me off guard. They sure do things differently these days!!
@bargainsgirl When my daughter got married last year she also had a registry. One of the items was to give to a Honeymoon fund. I told her that I thought that it was tacky but she said that a lot of her friends just don't give checks....they don't have checkbooks. Instead they pay for everything online. By giving to this "fund" it's the same as giving a check in a card.

I really only use paper checks now for gift giving and an occasional bill. Yes things are always evolving.

That is so tacky!

willomenia · ‎07-31-2011

@bargainsgirl wrote:
We just got an invite to a nephew's wedding a few hours away. Included was the wedding website etc...so we checked out the registry. One choice was to "donate" to their "first house fund". I never saw anything like it! But as hubby pointed out, what is the difference if you give to that or just give a monetary gift (like we got most of!). I guess that is one way of looking at it. Just caught me off guard. They sure do things differently these days!!

I wouldn't even attend a wedding that wold request this! Thee people are so rude, that it's disgusting.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

It is no different than giving a cash gift or gifting to their honeymoon which is something couples do now.

Tori3569 · ‎06-27-2010

I don't think it's tacky at all. Many couples these days already have basics for their home and not many are looking for the traditional china, crystal, silverware, etc. I'd rather put money toward an experience they can enjoy than another blender, etc.

lgfan · ‎10-19-2012

If buying a house is so important to a couple they should elope and use the money saved for the wedding on a house.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@Goldengate8361 I enjoy giving gifts to people I know well or am close to. Happily anyone I've known who had a gift registry had pretty darn reasonable "asks".

i knew someone who posted her son and future DIL's registry and it was the most outrageously expensive thing I'd ever seen

speedy girl · ‎06-03-2018

Every wedding that I go to, they will get an actual gift from me. Most have things on their registry and I pick something from that. I don't really like donating to a fund and much prefer buying a gift. It just seems so much more personal in my opinion!

bikerbabe · ‎03-09-2010

It’s practical and I see nothing wrong with it.

Better than previous generations when newlyweds received tea sets, candle sticks, formal dinnerware, and serving pieces that no one ever used. Or 3 fondue pots and 4 crock pots.🤣 What a waste of money.

FancyPhillyshopper · ‎05-02-2017

Of course everybody on here saying it is tacky to give to a fund can probably remember when social media and online payments did not exist, but young people today live virtually, and have a completely different outlook on life. And yes, checkbooks are disappearing among the younger crowd as well--many do not even have bank accounts! Plus due to Covid, cash has become a no-go.

Houses are a priority these days, and eloping just to save the wedding money adds no joy to a special family celebration. In fact, young people today are fans of destination weddings and try to create something memorable and unique.

When I was married decades ago, there were many registry items that I did not receive. I also received some pretty lousy house gifts which did not fit with my taste, or might even have been pass me-downs, because our parents invited so many of their own friends who were determined to gift whatever they wanted, no matter how useless.

I think putting money towards a house is a great idea, even though I love to travel, and I had a fantastic honeymoon.

I hope the young people today who choose to marry have happy and blessed futures full of love and special memories.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I only give cash gifts for weddings. I have never purchased a wedding gift, just shower gifts.

I don't even check the registry. For wedding invitations to mention gifts of any kind is considered to be in bad taste.

I have seen some pretty awful invitations in the past few years. In most recent one, only my husband was invited. My name wasn't on the invite.

The RSVP had to be made online. When I responded, there was no place to say how many people were coming.

My husband went with his brother (brother's wife was not invited either). My husband's cousin, grandmother of the bride, asked him why I didn't come.

He told her I was busy. I wish she would ask me. I would tell her the truth...I wasn't invited.

Both bride and groom are college educated.

I also received an invite from my brother's son's fiancé that was addressed in black magic marker in extra large script. The address was in a different printed handwriting in blue sharpie. Our first names only were used and the name of the town was wrong...zip was correct, so it was delivered. It looked like it was done by a child.

My nephew is a physician and his wife is college educated.

I would be so embarrassed to send out invitations that were addressed sloppy or incorrectly , or that mentioned gifts.

Times have changed, but good manners and grace never go out of style.