Bad decisions vs. good decisions - Page 3

this is my nic · ‎03-30-2010

My husband and I eloped! At age 19 my parents didn't want me to even date the young man I married, however, I made the decision to elope with him. Looking back now after many years, I am amazed I had the courage to do it. My new husband was fresh out of the Marine Corps and recently home from Vietnam. He was starting college a couple weeks after we married. We had very little money, no wedding presents and my parents told me to collect my clothes and few possessions and never to return. A couple months later I was pregnant! My husband was still in college, 15 months after the baby was born, I was pregnant again. Since DH was on an accelerated program, he was able to graduate with an engineering degree in 3 years. Almost 53 years later, we're still together! BTW, a third baby came along, but we were in a much more secure place, financially! So, what many would call what we did a bad decision, it actually was a very good one.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

@qualitygal wrote:
How many really bad decisions do you think you've made in your life, vs. how many good decisions? Have you ever been lied to or duped?

For me, I off the top of my head, say bad: 4 maybe bad ones, 3-4 really good ones.
I really wonder how many times someone has told a lie, to get something they've wanted, or turned to go their way.

How's your life's track record?

Of course I've been lied to and duped when I was young and naive, but I don't put those events under the heading of bad decisions. I learned not everyone was as straightforward as I was, but I now look back and see it was a learning curve in growing to adulthood.

I also don't look at any decisions I've made as good or bad. They are and were judgements that were required at junctions in my life. I've never told a lie to get something I wanted. I went out and earned it, or did without.

~The only difference between this place and the Titanic is that the Titanic had a band.~

Sweet Caroline 1 · ‎12-12-2017

From age 14 till age 33 I made a lot of bad decisions. Wild as a march hare but never a part of the drug scene. I had enough fun for several lifetimes. After my worst decision of my life, my ex husband, I have made only good decisions. Now I want to reminice and think back on some of that fun...

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Sweet Caroline 1 wrote:I
From age 14 till age 33 I made a lot of bad decisions. Wild as a march hare but never a part of the drug scene. I had enough fun for several lifetimes. After my worst decision of my life, my ex husband, I have made only good decisions. Now I want to reminice and think back on some of that fun...

I@Sweet Caroline 1

Some fun is good!

hckynut(john). =^..^=

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chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

It is hard to know if the decision was good or bad unless you could see what would have happened if you made a different decision. Some, however, I know were not good decisions. I don't even trust myself anymore to make good decisions. I think I made decisions based on emotions and hormones instead of good intelligent unemotional thinking.

Sweet_Serenity · ‎01-22-2016

Early retirement and moving to be closer to family! Best choice I ever made.

tends2dogs · ‎05-08-2010

@this is my nic wrote:
My husband and I eloped! At age 19 my parents didn't want me to even date the young man I married, however, I made the decision to elope with him. Looking back now after many years, I am amazed I had the courage to do it. My new husband was fresh out of the Marine Corps and recently home from Vietnam. He was starting college a couple weeks after we married. We had very little money, no wedding presents and my parents told me to collect my clothes and few possessions and never to return. A couple months later I was pregnant! My husband was still in college, 15 months after the baby was born, I was pregnant again. Since DH was on an accelerated program, he was able to graduate with an engineering degree in 3 years. Almost 53 years later, we're still together! BTW, a third baby came along, but we were in a much more secure place, financially! So, what many would call what we did a bad decision, it actually was a very good one.

@this is my nic Did things ever get set right with your parents? If not, it is their loss, but sad for you and your children. Congratulations on 53 years!

Fear not Brothers and Sisters! I have read THE BOOK..........we win!!!

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

@this is my nic, Congratulations on almost 53. I read that and realized tomorrow's our 52nd anniversary. Whoosh, where'd that time go? Time goes by even faster now.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

I am blessed to look back on my life and be content with all my decisions. I wouldn’t go back and change anything, as I do not feel I made any bad decisions; nothing that caused regrets. I did go about something important in the wrong way, but it turned out very well in the end.

I was never lied to or duped, nor die I lie to or dupe anyone else. Life has been good to me, and I’ve enjoyed the ride.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@qualitygal wrote:
How many really bad decisions do you think you've made in your life, vs. how many good decisions? Have you ever been lied to or duped?

For me, I off the top of my head, say bad: 4 maybe bad ones, 3-4 really good ones.
I really wonder how many times someone has told a lie, to get something they've wanted, or turned to go their way.

How's your life's track record?

@qualitygal What kind of question is that? There are those who are of course perfect and will respond accordingly here and be happy to alert us to their perfection; those who will say they've screwed up from day one; and those who will say I guess I'm just average.