Bad decisions vs. good decisions - Page 2

Shanus · ‎05-17-2010

The first college I went to in 1966 had a crazy, wild and “carefree” art department...students and professors, too. Alcohol, drugs, s*x, etc. was abundant after class, at night, in the empty studios, teacher’s lounge, bathrooms, wherever. Oh, the 60’s!?!?! Things could have gone downhill really quickly for me.

I called my folks before the semester was over and told them I was coming home. In Dec., I was accepted at another university and making up the lost semester in both summer school sessions, was able to graduate on time.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@reiki604 wrote:
I look at my bad decisions as learning experiences so they are really not bad. Sitting in judgement of yourself and others without action is setting yourself up for insecurity, anxiety and depression. Coulda, woulda, shoulda are all a waste of energy and time.

Sorry but not always.

If you don't analyze your mistakes and what you could have, should have, could in the future do in a similar situation, you are risking making more bad decisions and mistakes.

Taking realistic looks at your life and it's decisions and their effect on your life (and sometimes on those of others) doesn't have to be a set up for insecurity anxiety or depression. Those are underlying things that should be dealt with separately and could be caused by the fact one never takes realistic looks at life in general and doesn't understand that analyzing the past holds the key to changing one's present and future.

reiki604 · ‎03-09-2010

@Mominohio wrote:
@reiki604 wrote:
I look at my bad decisions as learning experiences so they are really not bad. Sitting in judgement of yourself and others without action is setting yourself up for insecurity, anxiety and depression. Coulda, woulda, shoulda are all a waste of energy and time.

Sorry but not always.

If you don't analyze your mistakes and what you could have, should have, could in the future do in a similar situation, you are risking making more bad decisions and mistakes.

Taking realistic looks at your life and it's decisions and their effect on your life (and sometimes on those of others) doesn't have to be a set up for insecurity anxiety or depression. Those are underlying things that should be dealt with separately and could be caused by the fact one never takes realistic looks at life in general and doesn't understand that analyzing the past holds the key to changing one's present and future.

Well, all I can say is that at 64, I am happy with my life and see no reason to alter the way I deal with mistakes (bad decisions). Everyone is free to find what works for them and I was only stating what has worked for me. Never would I presume to tell someone that their choices weren't the right ones for them unless they expressed a dissatisfation with their methods.

'I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man'.......Unknown

kelsey17 · ‎04-10-2012

I have made a few bad decisions....things i might change if i had the chance................but mostly i have made good decisions and am happy with those choices..

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@qualitygal

Life decisions I have made?

Good=90%

Bad=10%

Now because MY decisions were/are considered good, does not mean they all turned out well. Same as "good people" sometimes do "bad things", it's a part of learning from experience. Lived most of my life learning much more from living it, not sitting in a class reading or hearing about it.

I'm very content and happy with my choices, both good and bad. My present and our future is where my mind focuses, not in/on the past. Hopefully my good decisions follow the same pattern.

hckynut(john)

lulu1 · ‎03-29-2011

As an adult, the only major bad decision I can remember was trusting a co-worker and loaning her money. The other bad decisions more than likely had to do with fashion or hair.

In college, let's say I used poor judgement on "several" occasions.

The best decision I ever made was agreeing to go steady with my husband when we were in 6th grade.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

I had life goals every 5 years or so from the time I was a teenager. I've never made a life decision I've suffered from. I can say that the time I gave it my all.

On rare occasions, I have trusted someone because I believe all people I meet are usually good and ocassionally it has led to my being sad. Sometimes I am too trusting.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

My life has gone unbelievably well, provided I experienced misfortunes in childhood. I do regret hurting someone I love when I was 23. I was selfish and this person is still in my life and has forgiven me. When I came to my senses, I never wanted to be an unkind person again and I've kept my promise to self. That aside, making good decisions is a priority for me and it's paid off. Grateful.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

I've made more good than bad.

Snowpuppy · ‎03-09-2010

I wonder how people lead such charmed lives that they are only ever presented with a good choice or an even better choice?

Like gee, acceptance to both Harvard and Yale? You meet Tom and Bob in first grade and you they both want to marry you. And of course they're loaded with cash.

Or who loves you more, your parents or you in laws?

Do we vacation in Tahiti or Bora Bora this year?

Such truly charmed lives.