@January121 wrote:
@Carmie wrote:
@ECBG When my daughter was pregnant, her girl friends had a baby shower for her. I gave them the list of my family members and my daughter's husband family members and the girls sent out the invites to the women on the list. They planned everything.
On the day of the shower, all the women on dad's side showed up with their husbands and their children. I was shocked. The bridal shower theme was a tea party. One of her friends inherited a collection of tea cups and plates from her grandmother. The tables were set up girlie style with all of this delicate tableware and fine linens. All of these males were like a bull in a china closet and there were not enough seats or tables.
I noticed that there was not enough food either for all of these big guys as well as everyone else. I jumped in my car and drove to Sam's Club and purchased trays of sandwiches, salads, shrimp and cookies, paper plates, paper napkins...whatever I could get an hurried back to the shower and added food to the buffet table. I missed the opening of the gifts.
I asked my daughter's SIL why all of these men showed up when they were not invited...her husband was there too. She said the whole family always does this because the men want to be included in the surprise. She said they did this at her bridal shower and her family was not thrilled either. She could not convince her DH to stay home.
I don't know if this is a thing or not, but in my family, if your name is not on the invite, you don't go.
the last baby shower I attended was catered in a gourmet deli style restaurant. It was a small place and once you were seated, you couldn't get out of your chair. The gifts were expensive and most of the women were wearing nice dresses and heels.
It took hours to open the gifts and I couldn't wait to leave. I know all of those people in there exceeded the limit and if a fire broke out, we wouldn't be able to get out in time.
Since then I have been invited to two Sprinkles, but I don't do Sprinkles.
@Carmie ...... I don’t like “sprinkles” either .... there is no reason to have a baby shower for the 2nd baby ... the mother to be has to be very inconsiderate to want to have a “Sprinkles” baby shower .... people already spent money for the first shower & expecting more gifts for the second shower is redicilious... I refuse to attend a “Sprinkle Shower”
I'm an "old timer." We had a baby girl in 1980. Our second child, also a girl, was born in 1989. We didn't know the gender of either until they were born. Our church decided to give DH and I a "baby shower" after Sunday evening services after the birth of the second child. Since each girl was born in a different season and were different weights, the shower was appreciated but certainly not expected. It was nice to have clothing that fitted the second baby for the season. We got a lot of diapers and diaper service (remember that?!) as gifts which helped a lot. Both men and women attended. We had a great time. It makes me sad to read that there are those who may have had second thoughts about attending that second shower. Neither DH or I expected it; just several in our church wanted to share in our joy and invited the church to participate. There are circumstances where "Sprinkle" showers occur that perhaps the new family were not aware were being planned. We found out the night it happened. That DD is now about to turn 30 and I still remember that evening as if it were yesterday. What I remember is the love our friends embraced us with that night. They wanted to show their love and this was the venue they chose.
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