Re: Baby Shower for Co-Worker

Rockycoast · ‎03-02-2016

Simple solution, don't go. There is no reason to go if you do not care for the person. You do not have to give a gift. You are under no obligation to do so. I'm sure your coworkers know by now how you feel about this person. You not attending the shower would be no surprise to anyone. You should not feel forced to grin and bear it. You are doing enough by doing her work for her while she is out on Maternity leave. Don't give it another thought.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Everyone who has ever worked in an office can relate to that. Just give $5 to the collection, sign the card, eat some cake and be done with it until the next collection comes around. It's not worth pouring energy into and she doesn't know or care that you are having this internal fight with yourself. However, if you like me and don't give a flying fig what people in the office think of me, you don't contribute anything to people you don't like.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@Curlstotame wrote:
First things first.... shed the angst and stress over a co-workers baby shower your experiencing. This is definitely not worth the anxiety. She doesn't sound like an appreciative co-worker, so even if you gave her an amazing gift, you probably wouldn't get the proper appreciation from her. It's called manners, and it doesn't sound like she has many. So give her a gift bag with bibs, baby socks, a little hat, and a baby book. You could get all those thing at TJ MAXX or Marshall's. They too have curb side pick up. Or, just give her a baby book and a hat. Or just two baby books. You could put this gift together for $10 to $15 dollars, max. And then you've taken the high road. It's good to give. But you want to do it with the right attitude. Nix the aggravation your stirring up for yourself! Give it to her and be thinking of the baby, not a difficult co-worker. You'll feel better.

@Black Cat Back - Here is what I think - My first choice would be to plan to be out that day or leave early that day. You could skip the entire thing by being out. If you can't make that happen, do what @Curlstotame suggested above. You won't have to spend much at all.

Good luck. Let us know what you decide.