Re: Am I cold hearted?

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

NO. Keep what you enjoy only!!!!

RescueLover · ‎02-06-2022

You’re not heartless if you donate them, so they become another person’s treasure.

And it’s a win win since you’ll feel good that you did something to bring Joy to others.

Just don’t throw them away. That’s not a feel good memory.

Melzie · ‎08-01-2010

No you aren't. I got rid of a lot of stuff when my parents passed away but kept certain items that meant something to me or invoked some happy memories. You can't save everything. Some day someone will be cleaning out your things and your special items may end up who knows where, maybe Savers or Salvation Army. Pass them on now so YOU know who got them while it still matters and that you know they'll appreciate them. 🌹

@catmama wrote:
My mother passed away several years ago but when she was alive she was really into ceramics, took several classes and made many many items

I have quite a few of her pieces and some of them I love and treasure BUT there are some that are just not my style or I don't like them.

Am I heartless if I just get rid of them?

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

my mother is now 85.

she already knows that some of her things will be given away or sold or donated. she has nice things, very nice, but they dont always go with what we all have nor do we have lots of space for her things.

decluttering is tough, but i have been encouraging her to do it now.

i have no doubt that my kids will be doing the same with me soon!

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Pooky1 · ‎12-23-2015

No I don't think your heartless. Its not like your getting rid of all your moms things. Just the stuff you don't like. Nothing wrong with that.

cindyNC · ‎08-01-2019

No, you are not heartless. Keep the ones that involve good memories, off relatives the rest and donate the balance. The donated ones could be a treasure for someone else.

conlt · ‎03-16-2010

We are struggling with my mothers things. I would ask family members if they want some pieces. Then I would sell or give them away. Somebody is sure to enjoy a piece and that would make your mother happy.

We sold mom's car, we had lots of inquires, some scamming. We ended up selling it to a father, who's son was going to college and needed good transportation.

Mom would have like a young man like that to have her car.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

Offer them to family and friends. Get rid of what you don't want. It's ok. It's taken a long time for me to let go of things I don't want but I finally did it. Your mom won't care.

I have notes for my kids. One list says to trash, donate, or sell what they don't want. I don't want them feeling guilty.