Re: Advice please - delicate situation. - Page 4

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

@house_cat wrote:
The mother's words to me were, "We feel blessed to be bringing this baby into the world, no matter how brief a time we have to share it with her". For this reason, I was feeling that she should be acknowledged in a loving way. The little girl has a name and the mother uses it regulary, so in some sense, I feel as though she's already here. I understand that although she is quite close to her due date, she is in danger of premature delivery. If I'm going to give it to her, I don't want to delay.

@house_cat I would personally take that cue from the mom and do exactly what you did the first time.

And not to give false hope but my sister was told that my niece might have this disorder early in her pregnancy. She did not. I know that's probably not this mother's situation but sometimes the worst doesn't happen or it isn't as terrible as it could have been. Prayers that everyone gets through this trying time.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

I would give it to her. It was meant to be given to this baby.

If you don't give it to her, what would do with it?

CANDLEQUEEN · ‎03-09-2010

I would give it to her as well. I think it is very hurtful to people who lose a child, no matter the circumstances and people do not acknowledge the child. I think she will love that you did this for her baby regardless. God Bless her and her family...

qvcfreak · ‎03-10-2010

I agree with Queendiva. I would give her the blanket. She will cherish it, I'm sure.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

A tough call to make and I can see both sides as I read the various responses.

Group 5 minus 1 · ‎03-11-2010

Back in the 50s I had a relative that had a baby stillborn It was a very sad time for all. Her husband and my grandmother put all the clothes and baby furnishings away.I do not know what to tell you or what to do.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

Not knowing any of you, I just wouldn't have a clue about telling you what to do

The mother might want to keep the blanket as a memento of her baby, or it could just be a stab in the heart for her

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@house_cat wrote:
The mother's words to me were, "We feel blessed to be bringing this baby into the world, no matter how brief a time we have to share it with her". For this reason, I was feeling that she should be acknowledged in a loving way. The little girl has a name and the mother uses it regulary, so in some sense, I feel as though she's already here. I understand that although she is quite close to her due date, she is in danger of premature delivery. If I'm going to give it to her, I don't want to delay.

Based on this and the fact that you thought enough of your coworker to crochet a blanket for both of her children, I agree with what appears to be the majority—give her the blanket, now.

And I would either include a card with your heartfelt feelings, or tell her face to face, even if you both get emotional. As someone who has recently endured a painful loss (not a child, though), those moments of sincere sympathy and empathy are extremely appreciated.

Thank you for being such a kind and caring person.