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[Shanus]

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@151949 wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

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@PINKdogWOOD wrote:

@151949  took the words  out of my mouth

I know for one sometimes I read posts here that are just down right obusive, disgusting, harmful, hurtful, ugly and for those of us who've been here for years know this is true and we know who these posters are.

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@PINKdogWOOD So, I’m asking do we remember the nicks of those posters and ignore at all costs, never engage w/ an opposing opinion or thought for fear of being shut down? Is that fair to the rest of us?

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IMO - when you constantly ignore another poster because you don't want to have to engage with what you know will be vicious behavior in return, then the only opinion out there is theirs. If someone says something that you KNOW is not true, do you or don't you have a moral obligation to correct it? For instance when someone puts a statement about medicare that is not correct and you don't want the poor person who originally asked about it to believe incorrect info and base a decision on something not true.

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@151949  So you feel express your opinion, as nicely as possible, even at the expense of raising the hair on the necks of the offending poster. 

[Shanus]

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@151949 wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

I wonder if people do this because it makes them feel some how superior to the poor person they are attacking?It definitely takes on a mob mentality once the pile ons start.

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@151949  Oh absolutely. I’ve seen it happen mercilessly to a new poster recently...OP asking a question. I could just imagine her crying or close to it. She probably never expected a hostile response from the same group who usually hang together in gang style. I tried to come to her defense by answering her question and reprimanding the offenders & they came down on me. For what? Being protective?

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As president Obama used to say - you need a thick skin to be in this place.

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@151949  ....because some have never learned to play nicely.

[Winkk]

I think the forums are just fine.  In the "old" days there were posters who were very intimidating and I hardly ever posted because of what response I got from them.

These forums are on a shopping network web page.  If anyone needs a forum for controversial subjects there are plenty out there.  Discussions about current events have been posted as long as everyone stays objective. 

There is way too much negativity in our world today and it's nice to be able to post an opinion without backlash. 

[Shanus]

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

I wonder if people do this because it makes them feel some how superior to the poor person they are attacking?It definitely takes on a mob mentality once the pile ons start.

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@151949  Oh absolutely. I’ve seen it happen mercilessly to a new poster recently...OP asking a question. I could just imagine her crying or close to it. She probably never expected a hostile response from the same group who usually hang together in gang style. I tried to come to her defense by answering her question and reprimanding the offenders & they came down on me. For what? Being protective?

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@Shanus. Who is the gang group? Never noticed this unless you mean posters that have the same opinions. 

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@proudlyfromNJ  I certainly can’t call them out by name...against regulations. There are few in each forum I frequent that seem to hide in the bushes, waiting for my posts. No, not paranoid. It’s happened enough that it’s a pattern. It seems they will have any opinion as long as it disputes or discredits mine. Very frustrating. 

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@Shanus wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

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@151949 wrote:

I wonder if people do this because it makes them feel some how superior to the poor person they are attacking?It definitely takes on a mob mentality once the pile ons start.

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@151949  Oh absolutely. I’ve seen it happen mercilessly to a new poster recently...OP asking a question. I could just imagine her crying or close to it. She probably never expected a hostile response from the same group who usually hang together in gang style. I tried to come to her defense by answering her question and reprimanding the offenders & they came down on me. For what? Being protective?

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@Shanus. Who is the gang group? Never noticed this unless you mean posters that have the same opinions. 

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@proudlyfromNJ  I certainly can’t call them out by name...against regulations. There are few in each forum I frequent that seem to hide in the bushes, waiting for my posts. No, not paranoid. It’s happened enough that it’s a pattern. It seems they will have any opinion as long as it disputes or discredits mine. Very frustrating. 

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@Shanus.  Oh. I thought you meant in general. I guess that's why I hadn't noticed.

[Justice4all]

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@Mistreatedbycs wrote:

I seriously don't have an opinion one way or another.

There is life after the Q forum.  

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Yes sir, yes sir, you're so right sir, 

Black is white sir,

'Scuse me while I genuflect.

[I am still oxox]

I am really sitting on my hands for this one 

[Pook]

It's all in the wording and there are posters that you just know are going to be negatively bashing most of the time and those are the ones that are often shut down or their posts removed and rightly so!!!  To state a host is spending too much time talking about things other than what is being presented and is missing details of the product is one thing but to say this host is narcissistec, wanting attention, and unwatchable 

(to only a small  group of posters who are annoyed with just about everything), wearing bizarre clothing and makeup and needs to be told and reprimanded ASAP just because the person does not like that particular host.  That type of post is meant to be rude and needs to be removed or shut down!!  It's all in the wording and you can't tell me that those type of posters don't know exactly what they are doing with their bashing posts!!

[NickNack]

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@Shanus wrote:

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

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@NickNack wrote:

I think the threads that were shut down should have been shut down.  Most were written by the same person complaining about the same thing over and over again.  I think the mods have a tough job, and QVC's forum standards are very clear.

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@NickNack.  I agree with this post 100%.

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@proudlyfromNJ  @NickNack  & others: I agree the mods have a tough job and the threads I did see should have been poofed. Did that do anything to change those posters’  behavior who started multiple complaining threads?

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@Shanus  I think possibly it caused the person who started those numerous threads to leave, which IMO is a good thing.  If someone is so unhappy on these forums and with QVC why on earth would they want to continue posting here?  That's what I always think when I see the same people complaining about the same things over and over again.  I don't point it out though.

[GAQShopr53]

@Shanus I was not going to respond to this question but I can attest to being a new poster and seeing how some respond to certain posts.  I understand that there maybe several threads/post stating the same thing but how are newcomers to know this? I read a comment after a new forum poster asked a question the response was "here we go again" and I thought why not just navigate the person to the previous thread or in a nice way tell them there are several posts or just answer the question again.  I saw the comment to your post about the offenders and thought why do people have to be so confrontational/snarky for lack of a better word in their responses.  I have found that social media gives people a chance to say what they feel without consequences. They say things that hurt people intentionally, say things that make people feel they are wrong for stating their opinions; especially if it does not sync with the rest who think the same or feel the same way. My question is would you respond the same way if you were face to face with that person.  I have a very thick skin and don't have an issue with someone disagreeing with my post but I feel it's not necessary to get downright nasty with someone because you disagree with the post. It's not that serious and this is just a forum no different from Facebook or Instagram...Sometimes it is not what a person says but the tone in which they say it. I do think some posts should be taken down especially the ones that start talking about an individual and just get out of hand.  Sometimes we need to ask the question how would we feel on these forums if we were the target of the opinions about our looks or how we dressed?