Among Friends

[lovesrecess]

I am surprised to see so many totally opposite takes on my cousin. My cousin has always been quiet and reserved, but strong. I think I will feel better giving my niece a call and see if she brings it up. If she does know, I am sure she would mention it.

[AnikaBrodie]

Only they and their attorney know the reasons for the divorce after 50 years but to me it's a very sad decision.  Just be there to support your cousin.  She's opened the door by advising you of their pending divorce.

[KarenQVC]

I kind of agree with @Reever in the "bet on the most likely" sense.  If he is healthy, I would take a small bet that he has a new friend and a bottle of Viagra.

[sidsmom]

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@KarenQVC wrote:

I kind of agree with @Reever in the "bet on the most likely" sense.  If he is healthy, I would take a small bet that he has a new friend and a bottle of Viagra.

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I find the only people who automatically blame it on sex is....

those who, never in their entire life, have had good sex. 🤷‍♀️

[KarenQVC]

@sidsmom Aye, that's the thing.  Each person, literally each person, has a different idea of good sex.  If we had a deep dive conversation with many people we would find a variety of interests.

[hckynut]

@lovesrecess 

Would I say anything? Not unless asked, period!

hckynut

[Annabellethecat66]

Wow!  I agree with you @Mom2Dogs.  

I was was happily married for 38 years when my husband died suddenly.

However, if we’d been divorced, I would have zero income.  I worked for the federal government for 7 years before I had my first baby, then I quit, used the little money in THEIR retirement program on our first house.

So I don’t get social security.  Luckily he did well, so it’s invested and I get his social security money.

I can’t imagine what I’d be doing!  Maybe she’s set financially?

What would make them want to be apart after all these years? 

It’s a cold hard world out there, especially when you are old(er).

Even trying to find a job would be impossible!

i wonder what they are thinking.😦

[ECBG]

There are many married couples that are just friends whom enjoy each other's company after romance has fizzed.  Maybe it wasn't good to begin with.  Also emotional support in important. 

If she awoke and realized that she wasn't  in love, perhaps she found (or he found) love and want a loving relationship  in their life.

[Anonymous032819]

It's funny how some just automatically assume that it was the man who cheated, or that the sex as bad, whenever there is a divorce.

I swear, to read some of the posts on the boards, it's a wonder that women get married at all with the awful way that they speak about men.

I have seen posts that have basically called men, stupid, clueless, lazy, cheats, liars, idiots, etc.

Lot of women who hate men out there.

And if it's the woman who cheats, well, she's justified, because men are dumb, stupid, clueless, idiots, and the woman deserved to find happiness, even if it wasn't with her husband.

Yet, if a man even glances at another woman, it's "Kick him to the curb!"

Bottom line, there are many, many, many reasons why couples divorce, and it's not always because it was the man who cheated, or because it was the man who was bad at sex.

Women can be bad at sex too, you know.

Women can be cold, and frigid, but you'll never hear anyone saying that on these boards.

[nyc1]

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@Reever wrote:

If I had to conjecture I would believe he was caught cheating. I see no reason otherwise to divorce at that age.

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@Reever  NOPE ...  you missed the mark on this one.  We have several sets of friends who have been married over 30 years and over 40 years who divorced and had NOTHING to do with cheating.  There are so many other factors that contribute to a relationship and staying together.