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06-27-2023 07:55 PM - edited 06-29-2023 04:28 PM
@patticakes wrote:My 19 year old daughter has a boyfriend who seems to be a nice guy and we like very much; however there's one problem and we don't know how to deal with it. He's 21 so not fully mature either, and he drives too fast. Considering that she finally relented, when started driving, to letting us put Life 360 on our phones; we don't want to aggravate her and cause a bigger issue; but, we can see when he's driving entirely too fast with her in his vehicle. How would you address the situation in a way to defuse a bad situation rather than aggravate her?
@patticakes You say boyfriend is nice and you and your husband like him. Have you thought of sitting down together with both your daughter and her boyriend and discussing your concerns over his driving and your concern for both him and her? I would try being upfront before sneaking behind your daughters back unless there have been ongoing trust issues.
07-18-2023 05:22 PM
07-18-2023 11:32 PM
If you like her boyfriend very much, just remind him when he picks her up to drive carefully and be safe. Maybe if he hears it enough it will sink in. I would either disable or remove the Life 360 app. She is old enough to not be tracked by her parents. I would be more concerned that there is no drinking involved. I would mention that as tactfully as possible. You don't want to slam the door on your good relationship with her or her boyfriend.
07-23-2023 03:55 PM
'Gee', this is a tough one.......
I'd probably mention seeing speeding cars driven by late teens/young men with their girlfriends around town, and say something like:
'Gee, I hope your boyfriend (his name) drives carefully when you are in his car. If he speeds up, make sure you ask him to
slow down'.........
Also, add in:
'It's a sign of respect to those girls and maturity to not speed around town or anywhere. Too much danger which can end up a life of physical misery and even death."
07-26-2023 08:55 AM
@patticakesI can suggest exactly what to do! It's a bit unconventional.
Recalling an incident distinctly, I was on a date with very nice guy at the exact same age as your daughter. He was 23 at the time.
When I got home, my mother was not happy. She said I just got a phone call saying "she saw you 2 at the mall and blah blah blah blah."
I immediately demanded who called with the big mouth tattling on our goings on.
I will NOT repeat the "blah blah blah blah" part because it's nobody's business on this forum. It was gossip anyways.
My mother refused to name WHO it was.
So my point is this: do the same with your daughter. It worked for me. Next time she is at the house, tell her "so and so [insert name here] called VERY concerned about seeing your boyfriend driving his car speeding down this particular road or interstate at a very fast rate. [Gertrude] reported it worried her and called me out of worry for your safety." Don't name anybody you actually know. Keep that person anonymous. If they ask who it is, say it is confidential or they wish to not be identified.
Your daughter might be upset, but such is life. I was upset, but I got over it.
That nice guy I dated has been my husband for many happy years. I choose wisely. And he didn't have a lead foot!!
09-16-2023 10:30 PM
10-12-2023 08:23 PM
My mother tried that--attempted to control me and keep me under her thumb. All that got her was that I refused to speak to her for the last 5 years of her life.
I decided I'd had enough of her, and for those last 5 years it was like a heavy weight had been lifted off me. And I wasn't the last bit sorry when she died and I finally got her malign influence out of my life permanently.
10-13-2023 08:30 AM
Did you raise her right? Assuming yes, give her credit for being smart and having a bf you like. Show a little trust.
You lost the right to interfere when she turned 18. Let her learn to be an adult. Mommy hovering will not help her at all.
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