deep grief - Page 4

dotdddd · ‎09-08-2011

thank you all!!!, I'm sorry I haven't responded soon enough for some, but I'm dealing w/alot more than a loss right now . There is sooo much more then a funeral to do when dealing w/ an estate. Please don't judge me unless you've walked in my shoes.

pistolino · ‎07-04-2011

On 4/7/2014 StuffyBug said: I'm curious why the OP has not returned to this thread, if only to acknowledge other posters' gracious comments. I believe she started another thread before this one, to which she never returned.

How utterly rude. Good thing the rest of us understand losing someone you love.

pistolino · ‎07-04-2011

On 4/3/2014 JamaicaJammer2 said:
Oh, dear dotdddd, please, do NOT let anyone make you feel you should be "over it", "moving on", etc.

As others have said, everyone grieves differently, and some just don't, period.

My beloved dh, my soul mate, died when he was 34. His folks didn't even stay for the entire viewing the evening before the funeral....they were bored. Yep, bored.

About 2 wks after the funeral, I told my MIL that I was still hardly able to breathe, let alone do much more than brush my teeth and care for our babies. She said well, the funeral day was kinda hard, but every day after that has gotten easier.

WHAT???

But then, my dh and I were the only 2 folks teary at his grandma's funeral 6 mo. before his own death.....he mentioned how blown away he was that his mom - an only child - seemed to be so emotionally removed from any grief or sadness.

OMG how awful for you. I'm so glad your husband had the fortune of marrying a woman who could share her emotions with him.

betteb · ‎03-09-2010

On 4/7/2014 dotdddd said:
thank you all!!!, I'm sorry I haven't responded soon enough for some, but I'm dealing w/alot more than a loss right now . There is sooo much more then a funeral to do when dealing w/ an estate. Please don't judge me unless you've walked in my shoes.

((((((((((((((((dotdddd))))))))))))))))

It's still hard for me to post about it, but I lost my mom and the my husband a little over a year apart, and it just takes time. I'm still in the process, but it does get better.

Please ignore the mean girls and post when you can. I think a lot of us here understand.

It's God's job to judge the terrorists. It's our mission to arrange the meeting. U.S. Marines

StuffnSuch · ‎06-17-2010

On 4/7/2014 pistolino said:
On 4/7/2014 StuffyBug said: I'm curious why the OP has not returned to this thread, if only to acknowledge other posters' gracious comments. I believe she started another thread before this one, to which she never returned.

How utterly rude. Good thing the rest of us understand losing someone you love.

I didn't express myself rudely, utterly or otherwise, and I'm not a "mean girl." When someone expresses heartfelt sentiments and is looking for comforting responses, and receives them from a number of people, I thought a brief acknowledgment from the OP would be appropriate.

Sweeteapie · ‎08-19-2010

I am so sorry for your loss. My sister died 5 months ago. She had been battling lung cancer for 15 months. She died in her sleep (heart attack or ?). Even though I miss her terribly I am happy she didn't have to suffer anymore. I loved her so much. I am hoping things will get easier as many have told you. You were obviously devoted to your Mother and you should be very proud of yourself. Best of luck to you.

NanaS · ‎04-21-2010

My Mom passed away 6 years ago at the age of 93. She wasn't sick and was still sharp mentally..........her heart just got tired and gave out. She was my best friend .

I feel for you because of where you are in the grieving process. Its very painful and your heart does hurt. Mine still does....... I think because of the fact we did have our Moms with us for all those years makes it even harder to adjust without them. I kind of thought she would be with me forever ! We were very blessed to have had them for so long .

Take it a day at a time. Cry when you want to and don't worry what others think or where they are in their lives. I have my Mother with me in thought all the time ....I have pictures...little gifts here and there from her all over my house....one of her favorite robes in my closet and many other things that fill my house with her memory, and I might add my dear Dad's also.

It will get easier.....I know thats really hard to believe at this point but it does. Not to say you won't just break down in tears when something reminds you of her ....but it will get easier!

Take care !

Yuban3 · ‎03-10-2010

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Maybe talking one-on-one with a grief councilor in conjunction with your group therapy will help you.

Was Yuban, then changed to Plaid Pants due to forum upgrade, and apparently, I'm back to being Yuban.

FastDogWalker2 · ‎03-10-2010

I would like to extend my sympathy to you and your family. I think the answer, in addition to support which it sounds like you are getting, is time. I hope you will come to feel peace. Prayers to you and others who suffer.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

So very sorry. Everyone grieves differently and you were with her all the time so naturally it would be harder for you. It's only been a short time so don't think you should be where everyone else is in the grieving process. The support group should also be a great help to you. Grieve you own way and that's the only true healing. Don't suppress your feelings or other issues can occur. Concentrate on the good times and be thankful you were there for her. Cry it out as often as you want and in time things will get better. My mother died over 20 years ago and while I have moved on, there is still a part of me that grieves every day at some point. While it doesn't consume my life and hurt as badly s it did it will always be there.