Wellness

[qbetzforreal]

@smoochy- I too have gotten on the scale and screamed "Yikes!!!"  I totally get where you are coming from on all points.

[smoochy]

Do you live in NW Florida by chance

[Northray]

For me it's been an issue because I've had to learn to UNLEARN eating patterns that were thrust on me because first, yes, my mother's fear of me being too skinny as a kid and not getting enough nutrition.  This was a real fear because as a first-generation immigrant born in poverty in another country, she never got enough to eat.  So when she came to America she still had that fear and kept feeding me and feeding me.  We were not allowed to leave food on our plates because they (my mom and her brothers and sisters) never had enough food to leave on a plate.  We were given huge portions for kids.  And she thought it was a sin to throw food away.  

So, as a result, I was a chubby kid but then she saw how I had gained too much weight when one year on an elementary school clothes buying expedition I did not fit into anything and she had a fit.  Made me feel like a ****** heel for being fat and causing her stress.  So then she put me on a diet and I lost weight.  And it's been a struggle and yo-yo dieting ever since. 

[hckynutjohn]

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@Northray wrote:

  So then she put me on a diet and I lost weight.  And it's been a struggle and yo-yo dieting ever since. 

@Northray 

I have no idea how many people you know well. Let's go with 100! How many of that number just skip through life, not giving a thought to what they eat? 

I have met thousands, of both genders, and! The majority of them are not ones that eat everything they like, whenever and how often they like. So do they, as you say you do,  "struggle"?

To you, probably not, unless they tell you. Over the decades I have had many tell me "you are lucky to be so thin". Uh huh, " lucky"!  

I no longer "struggle" because over decades I kept learning what was best for me to stay at a chosen weight. As I years added up, my changes took work to find that same balance of "intake of food, versus output of energy". 

Was that easy? Would it be easy for you? If not for you, why would it be easy for me? 

I told the story about my playing in high school band and only 1 huge size uniform. You mentioned clothes, I mentioned I was too fat to get a band uniform. Then I had a teacher tell me in front of my whole English Class: 

"John, you would be good looking if you weren't so fat". Sophomore class, I was 14.

Did I blame my mother because she came over from Italy and I was a 1st generation born here? Was it her fault I was skinny as a rail till I was 10? Was it her fault when I gained 30lbs and was fat? NO,NO, and NO! It was John's fault.

"Struggle"?

hckynut(john)🥅🏒 🇺🇸

[ID2]

I find that weighing myself every single morning keeps me accountable. A few years ago, we changed our eating habits and walk to keep our extreme weight loss a forever thing. What works for me are no carbs. Sure, when we go out, I'll have a slice of pizza or a smidge of bread, but what I eat at home doesn't include one bit of carbs. But that's my formula, everyone is different. Good luck all on your new healthy lifestyle! Yay! 

[hckynutjohn]

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@ID2 wrote:

I find that weighing myself every single morning keeps me accountable. A few years ago, we changed our eating habits and walk to keep our extreme weight loss a forever thing. What works for me are no carbs. Sure, when we go out, I'll have a slice of pizza or a smidge of bread, but what I eat at home doesn't include one bit of carbs. But that's my formula, everyone is different. Good luck all on your new healthy lifestyle!

@ID2 

Thank you for those 2 words. Wish everyone wanting to control their body composition would use that method. Including forgetting the word "diet"(meaning weight loss, which it does not). It's real meaning is: "Way of Life".

hckynut 🇺🇸

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