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[Venezia]

@Mom2Dogs - Feel free to vent away!  Many of us have been there, I'm sure.

My DH finally had a total knee replacement this past December, after years of putting it off, one excuse after another.  Until his knees finally gave out and he couldn't even walk around the house.

He had managed to find a surgeon who kept advising him to do nothing and I told him it was total BS!  Thankfully, he finally switched to another hospital and surgeon at my insistence, who was brilliant.

He's scheduled for the second one sometime this summer and he says he knows he should've had it done long ago.  In the meantime, I've had to deal with all the winter weather (New England) - plowing, shoveling, snowblowing - because he couldn't do anything after the surgery.

He thanked me for getting him to do something, but I don't think they realize the strain it puts on their partners.

[Sweet Kitties]

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@Venezia wrote:

@Mom2Dogs - Feel free to vent away!  Many of us have been there, I'm sure.

My DH finally had a total knee replacement this past December, after years of putting it off, one excuse after another.  Until his knees finally gave out and he couldn't even walk around the house.

He had managed to find a surgeon who kept advising him to do nothing and I told him it was total BS!  Thankfully, he finally switched to another hospital and surgeon at my insistence, who was brilliant.

He's scheduled for the second one sometime this summer and he says he knows he should've had it done long ago.  In the meantime, I've had to deal with all the winter weather (New England) - plowing, shoveling, snowblowing - because he couldn't do anything after the surgery.

He thanked me for getting him to do something, but I don't think they realize the strain it puts on their partners.

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I do understand what you're saying. I agree that it's hard on a person when they have an ailing spouse. However, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot & your husband was venting about you online? Someday you're going to be a burden too. It happens as we age. It comes with life and death. Couples need to be there for each other during difficult times. I know she's there for him by telling him what to do, but in the end it's his decision. Yes its frustrating. My husband went through some life threatening health problems a year ago. By the grace of god, he has recovered. I wouldn't dream of going online & venting or complaining about it and making it all about me instead of him. I took my marriage vows seriously. I'm done with this thread. I tried to give constructive ideas to help her. She let us know she's interested in just venting & discounting possible solutions. It's my fault that I didn't heed the title "venting."

[Trinity11]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

I have mentioned this in the past.... my husband has been dealing with hip/leg pain since probably October last year...not exactly sure.  

He was diagnosed by the ortho with arthritis in the hip...he has had two injections a round of steroids, no relief..before the 2nd injection I  stepped in and made an appt. with a chriopractor.  He diagnosed him with sciatia...doctor said he has very little arthritis.....he has seen the chrio for about a month, with little relief.  2nd shot did not last.

Out of the blue this am he said I wonder if part of the pain is because my feet have felt numb...WHAT, this is the first I have heard of this..I was irked to say the least...he said maybe I have a blood clot!    

I have decided that I am not a caring person, I have lost total patience with him...I am trying not to let this discussion this am set the tone for the day...thanks, just needed to vent.

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Please, please don't label yourself as "not a caring person " @Mom2Dogs . I know you are very caring from your history here. Sometimes, we all need to vent. ❤️

[Love my grandkids]

@Mom2Dogs Oh my gosh, feel free to vent. I understand somewhat .  Many years ago my late DH had a nagging cough that would not go away. I begged him repeatedly to see the doctor. "Oh it's okay" he said.

Then he finally got sick of my "nagging" and came home with a diagnosis of cancer. That one type was cured but subsequently about a year later he was diagnosed with another type that caused his death.

A tiny part of me was angry with him for a long time for waiting so long to see his doctor (and no I never said that to him). Sigh. I feel for you.

[Mom2Dogs]

@Love my grandkids   Gosh, that was awful...my dh will go but does not ask necessary questions, etc...I do a lot of talking under my breath, lol...because once it comes out of my mouth I cannot take it back...

[Mom2Dogs]

@Sweet Kitties    This is not a public message board....we have been married 46 years I know what it means to be there for each other.

[ThinkingOutLoud]

@Mom2Dogs 

I haven't read the replies but just wanted to mention something I heard of recently. There's a device that helps with pain and neuropathy. I haven't used it but you may want to look into it. It was developed by a physical therapist and there are videos on youtube as well as info on the website*. rezzimax -dot- com

*vibration can be used to aid in healing the human nervous system...Using the device for just a few minutes a day was helping to drastically reduce chronic pain for many people

I have no ties to this person or company in any way - just sharing in case it helps

[Love my grandkids]

@Mom2Dogs I gotcha. I know I can't reach in the air and pull my words back, if only LOL. I wish you both all the best.

[Q-Checker]

@I am still oxox @Eliquis is prescribed as a blood thinner for people who have been diagnosed with atrial fibrillation per the Eliquis customer web site.

[I am still oxox]

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@Q-Checker wrote:

@I am still oxox @Eliquis is prescribed as a blood thinner for people who have been diagnosed with atrial fibrillation per the Eliquis customer web site.

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@Q-Checker I know I have a fib and take a different med, but it does not stop Afib.