Wellness

[Eileen in Virginia]

The urge to kill! You need to get this out of your system. I suggest you try RETAIL THERAPY. Do something or get something that's a splurge for yourself (not him). If he complains, tell him it's a non-violent way to work out the frustration you're feeling after his epiphany. Good luck!

[Auntie CC]

I BOUNCED FROM DOC TO DOC TO TRY TO FIGURE OUT MY HORRIFIC PAIN. INCLUDING 4 RHEUMATOLOGISTS.

VERY LONG STORY SHORT......IT WAS MY STATIN!!!

JUST SOMETHING NO ONE THINKS ABOUT. THE STATIN TOOK AWAY 12 YEARS OF MY LIFE. THERE ISN'T A DAY I DON'T FEEL SAD FOR THE TIME I LOST.

THIS IS MY STORY. I HOPE IT ISN'T YOURS

[Sweet Kitties]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I don't where to being.  There so minscinceptions here.   First.  I'm 109% certain that your husband does have arthritis in his hip.  There was absolutely no reason for the MD who is an orthopedic specialist to lie.  You can ask to see the xray yourself.  The steroid injections only work for about 50% of patients.  They don't know why.  It's not a cure, it's pain cintrol.  On average, it lasts about 12 weeks and over time, it loses effectiveness.  I know this because I get injections in my knee and I have had them in my lower back for sciatica.  And SCIATICA is not a disease or medical condition.  Sciatica just means lower back nerve pain.  It can come from many different things so when physicians diagnose sciatica, the next step is to find the cause and to treat the cause.  In my case, it's spinal stenosis.  I got injections every four months for about three years and they stopped being effective.   The nerve pain likely is the cause of your husband's numbness in his feet.   My big toes are numb.  Have been for years.  The vertebrae in my lower back out pressure on the nerves.   Venting is good but your husband needs to  be seen by an orthopod who specializes in spines.  There are things other than injections, which don't work for him, to relieve his pain.  And I think you need to step back and let your husband work with his doctors.  He shouldn't speak through you.  What's happening with him, isn't unusual.  Arthritis is common for many of us, as we age.  Maybe for most of us.  My husband who is an RN self diagnosed his shoulder pain as a pulled muscle from lifting and turning heavy patients.  He's had pain for months.  Long story short.  He has osteoarthritis in that shoulder.  Age related, wear and tear arthritis.  He's 65.  

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Very wise advice, chrystaltree!

[Mom2Dogs]

Thanks for the replies.

He is 84,  in very good health, no other health problems no drugs except eliquis to control his AFIB...weight is fine and as far as processed foods, very little of that in our house.  He uses heat, ice and the tens unit....and stays off his feet as much as possible.

He has yearly blood work, one year he was low in VD so the doctor put him on a high dose to get that back to normal.  Blood work is due again I think in April.

His primary is awful, he complains about him, I suggest a new doctor he listens, but I have to do the leg work, which I do..he goes to the doctor but sometimes I have to push him into going...but he goes, but really does not ask questions, yes I asked to go along..I put my foot down when the 1st visit to the chriopractor..asked questions.

 The chriopractor read the xray results from the Ortho doctor...he said there was very little arthritis and even the ortho doctor said he is not a candidate for hip replacement...so I tend to believe the chriopractor.

When you live in a small area, options are not plentiful..I have suggested a massage...went nowhere.

I understand I need to be patient...we work together (yes we still work, we enjoy our work) we are selling our business at the end of the year....he goes in every day and leaves early afternoon, to get off his feet.  My point is there is very little time we are not together....very worried about retirement, lol....especially if he is not feeing better as we are not able to get our much..I do run with my girl friends.  Every couple goes thru stuff, illness, etc....if we had answers that would make a huge difference...

[Mom2Dogs]

@chrystaltree   I did not say the ortho lied..he told my husband he has arthritis in his hip, but a hip replacement is years off.

Also, the ortho doctor has done NOTHING to discuss the ongoing pain and almost the inability to walk...they just push the shots...which do not work for him...he will not get another one.

I thought giving the Chriopractor 4-6 weeksish might solve the problem, or at least give him some relief.

The chriopractor, after reading the xray results said there were no obvious issues, stenosis, disk issue, etc.

His job (our small business) requires lifting and being on his feet all day...he has modfied his work load, as I have taken on a lot of that reponsibility so that he can stay off his feet....some things I cannot do but if I can, I have taken on that duty.

At 84 of course he will have some issues..it is to be expected.

I will look for an ortho that specializes in Spines...you would have thought the ortho doctor would give him some advice, but he does not.

[I am still oxox]

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@Mom2Dogs wrote:

Thanks for the replies.

He is 84,  in very good health, no other health problems no drugs except eliquis to control his AFIB...weight is fine and as far as processed foods, very little of that in our house.  He uses heat, ice and the tens unit....and stays off his feet as much as possible.

He has yearly blood work, one year he was low in VD so the doctor put him on a high dose to get that back to normal.  Blood work is due again I think in April.

His primary is awful, he complains about him, I suggest a new doctor he listens, but I have to do the leg work, which I do..he goes to the doctor but sometimes I have to push him into going...but he goes, but really does not ask questions, yes I asked to go along..I put my foot down when the 1st visit to the chriopractor..asked questions.

 The chriopractor read the xray results from the Ortho doctor...he said there was very little arthritis and even the ortho doctor said he is not a candidate for hip replacement...so I tend to believe the chriopractor.

When you live in a small area, options are not plentiful..I have suggested a massage...went nowhere.

I understand I need to be patient...we work together (yes we still work, we enjoy our work) we are selling our business at the end of the year....he goes in every day and leaves early afternoon, to get off his feet.  My point is there is very little time we are not together....very worried about retirement, lol....especially if he is not feeing better as we are not able to get our much..I do run with my girl friends.  Every couple goes thru stuff, illness, etc....if we had answers that would make a huge difference...

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@Mom2Dogs Elliquis is a blood thinner it prevents clots it does not control afib

[Mom2Dogs]

@I am still oxox    Opps, yes I know that....I stated it wrong...He has AFIB and that is one medication he takes...he does take something to help control the beat of the heart.

[goldensrbest]

Be patient with him.

[cindyNC]

@Mom2Dogs  Been there and have been furious, frustrated, annoyed w/BF.

Sometimes you just shake your head and wonder why you put all your energy into helping somebody when they won't help themselves. "why do I care more about his health than he does"

[FranandZoe]

He might do better to see a pain management doctor.  Even a back specialist.  There's another joint in the same area - SI joint or sacroiliac -  that causes a lot of pain to different lower areas.

Sacroiliitis is painful inflammation in the joints where your spine connects to your pelvis (your sacroiliac joints). It causes pain in your lower back, butt (your buttock muscles) or legs. A joint is a place in your body where two bones meet. Your sacroiliac joints are the connection between your spine and pelvis.

Similar symptons and can be hard to diagnose.

Was he X-rayed?  Unless the chiro did an x-ray or looked as his x-rays from dr - chiro could not necesarily diagnose sciatica.  He may have just been going by symptoms which could be something else.