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[emmysmom]

I called and talked to someone this morning and she told me I couldn't talk personally to a judge. If I want to plead not guilty, then I will have to go to trial. I am sure additional court costs would be applied. Also, the policeman in question would have to appear, along with any video evidence etc! I don't want to see him again or be put though this so it looks like I have to pay the fine. I thank all of you for your replies and kindness. I am so disappointed, especially after what the woman told me yesterday! But its not surprising~

[twocent]

I was so afraid the information you were given yesterday- was incorrect. I know here , there is no speaking to a judge, outside of open court.

Sometimes in life we have to do what doesn't feel "right" - when we know we were wronged. There is no justice being served here. The cop's word would be taken over yours and that is one reason, they have the attitude that some of them do.

I know that felt so demeaning , by what my dh went thru with the traffic ticket dh received. The smirk and smile on that cops face when he told dh , "I only need one." You "knew" he knew it was the vehicle that flew past dh, but he didn't care. They know the courts will back them.

It killed me to pay that fine and us not speak our peace. But we knew how our day in court would go, the nerves until the court date, feeling demeaned once again when the judge ignored "your side" and went with the officer . We would leave the court with a larger "court cost" and feel just as defeated , if not worse.

Again, I am so very sorry emmies. ((((hugs to you ))))

The best thing here doesn't feel like the "right thing" - but there is no win here.

Take care.

[emmysmom]

On 3/20/2014 twocent said:

I was so afraid the information you were given yesterday- was incorrect. I know here , there is no speaking to a judge, outside of open court.

Sometimes in life we have to do what doesn't feel "right" - when we know we were wronged. There is no justice being served here. The cop's word would be taken over yours and that is one reason, they have the attitude that some of them do.

I know that felt so demeaning , by what my dh went thru with the traffic ticket dh received. The smirk and smile on that cops face when he told dh , "I only need one." You "knew" he knew it was the vehicle that flew past dh, but he didn't care. They know the courts will back them.

It killed me to pay that fine and us not speak our peace. But we knew how our day in court would go, the nerves until the court date, feeling demeaned once again when the judge ignored "your side" and went with the officer . We would leave the court with a larger "court cost" and feel just as defeated , if not worse.

Again, I am so very sorry emmies. ((((hugs to you ))))

The best thing here doesn't feel like the "right thing" - but there is no win here.

Take care.

Hugs to you too sweetie, you are my new bf! lol, thanks for caring! My best to you and your dh too, he's a lucky guy to have you!Btw..you reap what you sow..it will come back on that cop that hurt your dh..! I feel that way about the cop I dealt with, their mouth will get them in trouble one day!

[santorini]

I didn't read all of the original thread, so someone may have already mentioned it, but in some places, you can take a Defensive Driving course (a few hours on a Saturday) and have the ticket dismissed (if you haven't had a ticket in years). You might want to check into that.

[emmysmom]

On 3/20/2014 santorini said:

I didn't read all of the original thread, so someone may have already mentioned it, but in some places, you can take a Defensive Driving course (a few hours on a Saturday) and have the ticket dismissed (if you haven't had a ticket in years). You might want to check into that.

Thanks santorini!

[pachutabelle]

It's possible that the policeman will not show up and case will be dismissed. Didn't see original post but wish you well with this aggravation.

[LooPY]

emmiesmom--I'm sorry that you didn't receive the right info yesterday. After you pay the ticket and the dust settles, there is something you can do. When my daughter was about a year and a half, (45 years ago) I was stopped by a cop--for what, I couldn't imagine. He made me move my car four different times until he was satisfied that I had pulled over to the appropriate spot of his choosing. Like you I was flustered and and he was very gruff, demeaning and nasty, raising his voice to make his point. At that point my daughter in her car seat began crying, upset by what was going on. What was my heinous crime? An expired inspection sticker! I paid the ticket, but wrote a letter detailing my experience and though I can't remember exactly, alluded to the fact that we want our children to feel that the policeman is our friend, not someone who makes us cry. I received a letter from the police department that this was conduct unbecoming of a police officer, and that my letter would be part of his record. I was not looking for that to happen, but I would imagine, particularly today, it's not a bad idea that these sorts of behaviors are noted and recorded.

[depglass]

In our state if you take the course, at a cost of $100.00, you get the points dismissed, but not the fine.

[emmysmom]

On 3/20/2014 LoopyLoo said:

emmiesmom--I'm sorry that you didn't receive the right info yesterday. After you pay the ticket and the dust settles, there is something you can do. When my daughter was about a year and a half, (45 years ago) I was stopped by a cop--for what, I couldn't imagine. He made me move my car four different times until he was satisfied that I had pulled over to the appropriate spot of his choosing. Like you I was flustered and and he was very gruff, demeaning and nasty, raising his voice to make his point. At that point my daughter in her car seat began crying, upset by what was going on. What was my heinous crime? An expired inspection sticker! I paid the ticket, but wrote a letter detailing my experience and though I can't remember exactly, alluded to the fact that we want our children to feel that the policeman is our friend, not someone who makes us cry. I received a letter from the police department that this was conduct unbecoming of a police officer, and that my letter would be part of his record. I was not looking for that to happen, but I would imagine, particularly today, it's not a bad idea that these sorts of behaviors are noted and recorded.

I'm so glad you sent that letter and he would get reprimanded. We don't need cops like that! I may send a letter..thats a good idea, thanks LL!

[gazelle77]

pay it and be done with it.... is it really worth the stress on you? NO! It is just not worth it.