Tired of this

ANewHue · ‎11-21-2011

I'm sorry but I need to vent this out because if I don't I'm going to explodde. Why can't people just live without having to insinuate something bad is going to happen to you because you are over 50. I've had/have way more than my share of bad health in my life and when I feel good I feel great. Age is just a number to me, life to me is a state of mind. Nothing is more of a bummer than when someone gives me that "oh you look good " remark. It doesn't just happen, it takes a lot of work to look good at any age. I just happen to like to workout and have been doing it most of my life.

a few months ago, a relative who had band surgery asked me in front of others "when are you going to gain weight". I was so annoyed I replied "now why would I want to do that , just to have to lose it?" IMO that was as rude a remark if I were to say to her "when are you going to lose some weight". I couldn't resist and followed it up with "I dont eat". She's probably telling everyone I'm sick. I just feel people are wishing you bad because you took care of yourself. Can't people just live after a certain age.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

You're to be commended. It takes a lot of work to keep yourself in good shape as you get older. Don't let those who don't have your tenacity get you down. It is of course just simple jealousy.

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Annabellethecat66 · ‎03-12-2010

You can't let what others say about you bother you. Here's what I used to hear growing up:

"If you let someone annoy you and give you a bad day you are giving them the power over you to control the kind of day you'll have."

Don't let anyone affect your day! It's fine to get angry but then move on. It hasn't always worked for me, but when it has, my day is better.

Jasmine19 · ‎07-16-2012

I read somewhere that seniors are their own worse enemy. Younger people can't help but think we're decrepit since many of us (including this writer, heck especially this writer) make negative comments about getting older. How many times have you heard yourself say, "my hearing isn't what it used to me, I'm having a senior moment, I'm getting blind as a bat, or the old joints are creaking today"? We point these things out as though they are an expected part of aging and then wonder why people treat us the way they do.

ANewHue · ‎11-21-2011

@Jasmine19 wrote:
I read somewhere that seniors are their own worse enemy. Younger people can't help but think we're decrepit since many of us (including this writer, heck especially this writer) make negative comments about getting older. How many times have you heard yourself say, "my hearing isn't what it used to me, I'm having a senior moment, I'm getting blind as a bat, or the old joints are creaking today"? We point these things out as though they are an expected part of aging and then wonder why people treat us the way they do.

what do mean especially this writer? And you are the one bringing up being decrepit, so you must be.

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

It sounds to me that she made an attempt to tease you that didn't go over well with you.

Jasmine19 · ‎07-16-2012

@ANewHue wrote:
@Jasmine19 wrote:
I read somewhere that seniors are their own worse enemy. Younger people can't help but think we're decrepit since many of us (including this writer, heck especially this writer) make negative comments about getting older. How many times have you heard yourself say, "my hearing isn't what it used to me, I'm having a senior moment, I'm getting blind as a bat, or the old joints are creaking today"? We point these things out as though they are an expected part of aging and then wonder why people treat us the way they do.

what do mean especially this writer? And you are the one bringing up being decrepit, so you must be.

Yes, by "this writer" I meant myself. I'm actually in very good shape but I do find myself making these self-denigrating comments on a regular basis. I think it's more of a habit than anything. I find that many others in my age group do the same thing. Not good, since it reinforces the idea that seniors are not as capable as younger people.

ANewHue · ‎11-21-2011

@Jasmine19 I am sorry that I misinterpreted your original post. I don't wish to be young again, I've accepted my age and I'm happy. Just sick of ill wishers. I don't don't voice my downfalls but I know I have them but no sense announcing them to the world.

Julie928 · ‎04-08-2013

Unfortunately, you don't have to be over 50 to experience the ignorance of some people. I've lost a lot of weight ~ I went from a size 16/18 to a size 6/8. I remember visiting a garden center the first spring after losing all the weight. I'm a regular there so many of the people who work there know me. One of the ladies came up to me and immediately asked me if I was sick. I told her that I feel great, actually never been better. She responded with something like (don't remember the exact words) ~ you're so thin, you must be ill. Really? Some people just can't be happy for others or throw out a compliment. It used to upset me but now I figure if they go to such great lengths to try to get to me then I must be doing something right! :-)