Short term memory loss!

emmygrace · ‎02-12-2020

I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@emmygrace

To me it sounds like your son is the one with the problem. In my view if someone gets po'd because someone forgets? They obviously don't have a grasp on what real problems exist.

I meet different people about every time I go ice skating. I introduce myself and they usually respond with their name. By the time I skate around the rink a few times, their names? Beats me.

Ask me something over 70 years ago and not many things I do not remember. And I am sure many here can relate to the "why did I come into this room" question we ask ourselves.

Absolutely you are right. The problems rest with him, period!

hckynut

hckynut(john)

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!

@emmygrace Tell him next time you might forget to write him in your will.

JYWilliams · ‎03-10-2010

I'm sorry this is happening to you. And yes I agree with another poster, your son has the problem. My cousin has memory loss cause of Dementia. It's not bad yet but she does have it. She typed up a letter to her kids explaining her memory loss and how some days she may not remember things and for them to try to be understanding and not get frustrated with her. And she gave a copy to each one. I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

henderson · ‎03-18-2010

My husband passed out from low blood pressure in the garage and hit his head. This was August 2018. Had a brain bleed. His short term memory was affected and sometimes he has problems processing what I say. It could have been worse. So sorry that your son is giving a difficult time.

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

@emmygrace That would be hurtful. Maybe you need to have a more serious discussion with your son (perhaps a family meeting), when you feel the time is optimal. I know you've done this before, but revisit it, in a more formal way. Let him, and family know how upsetting it continues to be, when others don't try to understand, your condition.

Remind him/them that it's nothing you can willfully control, AND, that it's frustrating for you, too. Stand up for yourself. But, all that said, have a wonderful Christmas. And if you want to add a lump of coal in your son's stocking, we wouldn't hold it against you .

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

My late BIL taught me how to deal with this type of situation. With courtesy.

Your son needs to be reminded to have some patience with you.

After my strokes my speech was affected even more that my thinking. One thing we need to do is to admit to ourself that we are now in the pleasantly "retarded" and to be at peace with it. We need to be understanding too.

emmygrace · ‎02-12-2020

@hckynut wrote:
@emmygrace

To me it sounds like your son is the one with the problem. In my view if someone gets po'd because someone forgets? They obviously don't have a grasp on what real problems exist.

I meet different people about every time I go ice skating. I introduce myself and they usually respond with their name. By the time I skate around the rink a few times, their names? Beats me.

Ask me something over 70 years ago and not many things I do not remember. And I am sure many here can relate to the "why did I come into this room" question we ask ourselves.

Absolutely you are right. The problems rest with him, period!

hckynut

Thanks so much!..its sad how bad its gotten..I don't remember much of anything..names, places...anything!

emmygrace · ‎02-12-2020

@SeaMaiden wrote:
@emmygrace wrote:
I suffered short term memory loss...(many years ago when I had twins).! 1993!!! I had a stroke and thats how it happened. I was talking to my oldest son today and he got upset w/me because I forgot things we talked about a couple days ago...I reminded him about my memory problems....doesn't make any difference...I get hurt!!!...WHY can't HE remember WHY I can't remember....lo! Crazy...but its true, right?? Think I'll say that next time! BTW...hope all of you have a Merry Christmas!!!!
@emmygrace Tell him next time you might forget to write him in your will.

Fabulous!!!!!!!

emmygrace · ‎02-12-2020

@JYWilliams wrote:
I'm sorry this is happening to you. And yes I agree with another poster, your son has the problem. My cousin has memory loss cause of Dementia. It's not bad yet but she does have it. She typed up a letter to her kids explaining her memory loss and how some days she may not remember things and for them to try to be understanding and not get frustrated with her. And she gave a copy to each one. I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

One of the twins wrote me today...and he said. J has always been like that with everyone...he's a narcissist..!