Positive Attude - Page 2

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

recipeholic wrote:

How does one keep a positive attude? I have a couple of tings going on in my life right now and I'm tring to keep positive but my thoughts keep drifting toward the negative. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks.

@hovis

First thing, I have been an optimist since age 15. My young life was probably different than many here for several reasons. Since that age and during my whole adult life, I always looked at everything in my life with optimism.

Many times it included being good, and/or the best during my Auto Racing days. I never thought about losing, only what I needed to do to win. I was very successful in this sport, and was known by many auto racers around the Midwest, for many years.

I could list many of my personal accomplishments in other such things as this, but I will spare everyone those oft told stories. What I will say is this. The reasons for my accomplishments were because I was optimistic, but also knew that "nothing comes easy". It takes determination/dedication, and the willingness to work very hard to succeed.

Fast forward many decades and I have faced many life and death health issues. As I have said to many here, one of my reasons for being able to survive things that kill thousands every year, my best and most loyal reason for my recoveries, was my Optimism. Without that? I am not sure I would have survived my first battle for life.

Everyone has bad things happen in there lives, some they can control, others they cannot. Worry about things one cannot control, in my world is a waste of time/energy and bad thoughts running rampant through ones mind, like the "what if".

These things I mentioned have never failed me during my rather long life, but they do not come easy. I wish you the best during your bad times.

hckynut(john)

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

@Trinity11 wrote:
@hovis wrote:
How does one keep a positive attude? I have a couple of tings going on in my life right now and I'm tring to keep positive but my thoughts keep drifting toward the negative. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks.
You have to live in the now and not project about the future. I speak from experience..there is an ad on television for heart failure medication saying for heart failure patients tomorrow is not a given. Having had a serious heart attack and now in heart failure, I enjoy each day as it comes. Today was a good day...I had lunch out and walked around a beautiful town with a lovely shopping district. I so much notice the little things now and try in being appreciative of whatever time I have left.

I wish you you happiness and hope you can live in the here and now... Remember to smell the roses.

@Trinity11,

Glad to read the above. You know that I could not agree more with what have said to try to help the OP of this thread. Unfortunately it takes many to have a brush with death in order to put their lives, and things that happen to them, in perspective.

So glad you seem to me to be getting stronger, both physically and mentally. Many heart patients I have met have a tougher time getting the mental aspect under control than they do the physical part of their recovery.

My best to you.

hckynut(john)

IamMrsG · ‎08-29-2010

@hckynut John, you are a nice man.

Strive for respect instead of attention. It lasts longer.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@hckynut wrote:
@Trinity11 wrote:
@hovis wrote:
How does one keep a positive attude? I have a couple of tings going on in my life right now and I'm tring to keep positive but my thoughts keep drifting toward the negative. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks.
You have to live in the now and not project about the future. I speak from experience..there is an ad on television for heart failure medication saying for heart failure patients tomorrow is not a given. Having had a serious heart attack and now in heart failure, I enjoy each day as it comes. Today was a good day...I had lunch out and walked around a beautiful town with a lovely shopping district. I so much notice the little things now and try in being appreciative of whatever time I have left.

I wish you you happiness and hope you can live in the here and now... Remember to smell the roses.

@Trinity11,

Glad to read the above. You know that I could not agree more with what have said to try to help the OP of this thread. Unfortunately it takes many to have a brush with death in order to put their lives, and things that happen to them, in perspective.

So glad you seem to me to be getting stronger, both physically and mentally. Many heart patients I have met have a tougher time getting the mental aspect under control than they do the physical part of their recovery.

My best to you.

hckynut(john)

Hi John....thanks so much.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

I go through periods where I get hit with so much stuff all at once that all I can do is laugh! It's either that or fall apart completely! I even joke someone has put a curse on my family (sometimes it doesn't feel like a joke, tho!)! I give myself time to be miserable for a while (you have to face what's going on in some manner, me, I wallow a while!) then I start planning! It depends on what the problem du jour is, but I either look for a doctor, I google the problem, etc. trying to figure out how to recover from the worst of it first, usually when that one is dealt with, the others have gone away, or weren't as important as I thought they had been! My advice? Cry (or mope ),think and plan, face the problem with new knowledge, resolve, and laugh! Truly, a lot of laughing helps! Even if it's pretend laughing!😉

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

I know how you feel and as you see from the posts, many of us do know how you feel.

Unfortunately, there are the bad, dark times in our lives, where we feel like things are never going to get better and this is how things will always be.

But, fortunately, things do get better. We really can't change a lot of things happening but it is true that we can change the way we respond to them.

I have found since i have gotten older that if I get really miserable, say for instance, I am having a horrible day at work, and then, I project this out, to everyone else, then all I do is make my day worse. I am surrounded by more negativity and therefore, I have an even worse day. So, I try and the key word is "try" to project some positivity. I don't mean that I necessarily have to be Little Miss Sunshine, but that I try and smile and make a few comments to people here and there. Many times, my mood gets broken and I feel a little better.

If I try and get out of my own head and focus on other people, then I feel less negative and don't dwell so much on the bad things that are happening with me. I might ask a co-worker --- how is your mother doing or something like that. And the next thing you know, I am thinking about someone else and am not so mired down in my own problems.

I am not saying that I am always successful but I find that many times that negativity breeds more negativity.

Another thought though is --- it's not good to keep things all bottled up either. If you have a trusted friend, perhaps, you can take a time, maybe a walk or something, and just vent. Tell them how things are going and how you are quite worried about everything. Problems seem less large when shared.

Keep your chin up. It happens to all of us!!!

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

At the worst times in my life - when my first husband was killed and when my parents were in a horrible car accident costing them their lives - I was a nurse working in ICU. It isn't difficult to look around the ICU and realize that despite what was going on in my life I was infinitely better off than these poor patients who were , literally, struggling for every breath they took. On ventilators and drugs to maintain their BP - septic shock - yep it made me realize my problems weren't anywhere near as bad as their's.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@hovis,

The situation I prayed about is now resolved thru test results received today. Nothing abnormal was found, and the doctor is satisfied with the results. I'm so glad this drama is over, and that I trusted God to carry this burden for me. Feeling very relieved, and more blessed than I deserve. God is good! Continued best wishes for you.

Q4u · ‎03-17-2010

@Imadickens wrote:
I go through periods where I get hit with so much stuff all at once that all I can do is laugh! It's either that or fall apart completely! I even joke someone has put a curse on my family (sometimes it doesn't feel like a joke, tho!)! I give myself time to be miserable for a while (you have to face what's going on in some manner, me, I wallow a while!) then I start planning! It depends on what the problem du jour is, but I either look for a doctor, I google the problem, etc. trying to figure out how to recover from the worst of it first, usually when that one is dealt with, the others have gone away, or weren't as important as I thought they had been! My advice? Cry (or mope ),think and plan, face the problem with new knowledge, resolve, and laugh! Truly, a lot of laughing helps! Even if it's pretend laughing!😉

I'm like you.... I'm for learning as much as I can and then attack the problem. I also have a rather robust sense of the ridiculous..... which will usually make me laugh, like "of course this is happening...timing couldn't be better." But for the most part I don't dwell, I move forward, make the best of it I can and laugh a how ridiculous the whole situation is....

*~"Never eat more than you can lift......" Miss Piggy~*