Wellness

[Annabellethecat66]

If they don't do alterations go to the places I suggested. I think they usually sell discounted bridal clothes, right? If they have a seamstress then have them do it.

[chiclets]

It is your obligation to address this circumstance responsibly.

No ifs, or buts, ASAP, go to David's Bridal and have them look at the dress on you. Let them determind what to do.

You must tell the bride about the issue. The bride must be included with the resolution.

Maybe the sales clerk did give you wrong advice concerning sizing but like it or not you are at fault for not checking, before now, to see if the dress fit. You developed the turn of events.

Regarding responses, individuals are not being nasty. Unfortunatley you are avoiding the severity of the situation.

[ChynnaBlue]

On 6/30/2014 Vivian said: 1. Bring the dress to an experienced tailor. Perhaps it can be altered but be prepared to pay big bucks for timing and skill 2. If that doesn't work, see if you can buy a little shrug or stole to cover the back. Maybe the tailor can make one for you. As the maid of honor, your outfit can be a bit different than those of bridesmaids. 3. Tell the bride as soon as possible. 4. Good luck!

I agree with all of this. Get recommendations for a tailor, if you can. You can also check review sites, like Yelp, if that's available in your area.

I had to have my dress taken in and shortened and it took several tries and two weeks to get exactly right, so you MUST address this ASAP. I was getting mine done during prom season, so she was very busy. At least you won't be fighting for her time with prom dresses.

Spot reducing is a myth and it can't be done. You won't lose weight in your back, you will lose it everywhere, and that might mean the dress won't fit well in other places. You must see a tailor for this.

[irishmama5]

August37 you are a new poster and I see no poster being mean to you. You said you've had your dress for 3 months and never tried it on, you must have tried it on when the alterations were done at Davids Bridal. Anyway the only thing you can do is go and have it let out. I have been sewing for decades there is fabric that can be added but just a small amount. So if you cant go back to where you bought, find a local seamtress

[WombatsMa]

This happened to me for my sister's wedding 22 years ago. Back then, the dresses were special ordered and due to the time frame of planning the wedding and a hiccup with the dresses themselves, they did not arrive until 10 days before the wedding. Back then I wore a size 10 (oh for those days!) and my dress was mis-cut and arrived a s.m.a.l.l. size 8 at best.

Because the dresses were velvet, they could not be let out, only taken in. The other two girls were fine and had to have theirs taken in here and there.

For 10 days (and I would NEVER want to do it longer) I drank water, water, water, ate salads with no dressing and gobbled grapefruit like you wouldn't believe. Each day for lunch I had a balanced, albeit small meal with some lean protein. No salt, no dairy, very little carbs and only then whole grain or what came from some vegetables and fruit.

Come the day of the wedding, that dress fit me like a glove, and I will say, that being that velvet is very heavy and pulls down if you don't fill it out, I looked fantastic vs the girls who had to have their dresses taken in. The wedding day WAS hard, as it was quite unseasonably warm, and honestly, I was a little wobbly at times. But I gotta tell you, I look at those pictures and I looked great. I never told her - I knew she would have lost her s**t, and I knew it could be done.

As other posters have mentioned, try the undergarment route, see how close the fit is. You WILL drop some water weight if you are truly determined and resolute, but you must be realistic. I dropped 12 lbs in those 10 days, but it was all back a week after the wedding. That was fine by me, but you have to be real about what you expect and can do. If you don't believe in your heart that it will work, you MUST find an alternate dress that the bride is comfortable with. This is her day and the pictures of her wedding party are forever.

[Classique]

On 6/30/2014 chiclets said:

It is your obligation to address this circumstance responsibly.

No ifs, or buts, ASAP, go to David's Bridal and have them look at the dress on you. Let them determind what to do.

You must tell the bride about the issue. The bride must be included with the resolution.

Maybe the sales clerk did give you wrong advice concerning sizing but like it or not you are at fault for not checking, before now, to see if the dress fit. You developed the turn of events.

Regarding responses, individuals are not being nasty. Unfortunatley you are avoiding the severity of the situation.

ITA! Now that I've reread this again, I think she's putting us all on as she says she's had this dress for THREE MONTHS!

Common sense and experience tells me there is something wrong here. I have been in many weddings and the dresses are usually ordered in advance, perhaps three months, but they are usually picked up just prior to the wedding. It has been a number of years so I can't remember exactly but seems to me maybe just a week or so before.

Who in their right mind would wait until now to discover the dress doesn't fit if she's had it three months? Or could this woman have known the dress wouldn't fit as she's been gaining weight and figured she'd lose it in time and now tries it on to find it won't fit and that her previous attempts at dieting have failed so rather than handle things responsibly and intelligently between herself, the bride and David's Bridal, comes here asking for help with losing weight and then implies she's been criticized when nothing could be further from the truth?

Get real!

[CelticAngel]

I'd agree with those who say you need to see a seamstress/tailor to get the garment altered. It is common to have wedding attire altered, so there's no need to worry. Definitely diet, wear Spanx, etc. if you'd like. But I know I wouldn't want the stress of having to lose weight to fit into the dress.

[LilacTree]

I was a seamstress at one time. I made two of my daughters' wedding gowns. One of them kept losing weight as the wedding approached, and I must have altered the top of that gown at least four times. And it was all sequins, so it wasn't easy!!

A seamstress can open the back of that dress and just add another section on each side according to how much you need. It would be helpful if you could get a hold of some of the original material.

[missy1]

You didn't try on the dress? It's been 3 months months!..... S*ck it up. and buy some Spanx or get a cleansing enema done..... I am sure your cousin is not going to be happy with this. 12 days before the big day. Go to a seamstress asap. Is there any quickie back alley lypo services? jk

[Starlight1_1]

On 6/30/2014 Classique said:

On 6/30/2014 chiclets said:

It is your obligation to address this circumstance responsibly.

No ifs, or buts, ASAP, go to David's Bridal and have them look at the dress on you. Let them determind what to do.

You must tell the bride about the issue. The bride must be included with the resolution.

Maybe the sales clerk did give you wrong advice concerning sizing but like it or not you are at fault for not checking, <em>before now,</em> to see if the dress fit. You developed the turn of events.

Regarding responses, individuals are not being nasty. Unfortunatley you are avoiding the severity of the situation.

ITA! Now that I've reread this again, I think she's putting us all on as she says she's had this dress for THREE MONTHS!

Common sense and experience tells me there is something wrong here. I have been in many weddings and the dresses are usually ordered in advance, perhaps three months, but they are usually picked up just prior to the wedding. It has been a number of years so I can't remember exactly but seems to me maybe just a week or so before.

Who in their right mind would wait until now to discover the dress doesn't fit if she's had it three months? Or could this woman have known the dress wouldn't fit as she's been gaining weight and figured she'd lose it in time and now tries it on to find it won't fit and that her previous attempts at dieting have failed so rather than handle things responsibly and intelligently between herself, the bride and David's Bridal, comes here asking for help with losing weight and then implies she's been criticized when nothing could be further from the truth?

Get real!

Yep! That is a lot of weight to gain in a few short weeks! GET REAL SPOT ON!