Wellness

[Lila Belle]

We'll find out in the next few years.

[151949]

I just hate when someone writes a post like this - if you can't tell us the story then probably it shpould not be here at all. I am not into trying to figure out riddles.

[sunshower]

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@151949 wrote:

I just hate when someone writes a post like this - if you can't tell us the story then probably it shpould not be here at all. I am not into trying to figure out riddles.

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Double life meaning one which is public and the other a secret.

[cotton4me]

Here is an old article (1992) from the LA Times about leading a double life.  It's entitled:  

“Leading a Double Life Is More Common Than Many Suspect : Psychology: Who harbors the mysteries of a secret self? It could be just about anyone, the experts believe. Even you.”

Some excerpts:

"Leading a double life would seem to be the exclusive domain of professional spies, fictional secret agents and undercover operatives with foreign accents.

But seemingly ordinary men and women sometimes hide extraordinary secrets from those closest to them: their families, friends and co-workers.

Consider the well-respected chief executive who embezzles funds from his company. The man with two wives and two sets of children who know nothing of one another's existence. The housewife who moonlights as a prostitute. The married corporate executive who wears lingerie under his business suit."

Link to article: http://articles.latimes.com/1992-11-29/news/vw-2591_1_double-life

There seem to be a lot of articles on the web about leading a double life. 

[cotton4me]

From the New York Times entitled:

The Secret Lives of Just About Everybody

Excerpts:

"The urge to act out an entirely different persona is widely shared across cultures as well, social scientists say, and may be motivated by curiosity, mischief or earnest soul-searching. Certainly, it is a familiar tug in the breast of almost anyone who has stepped out of his or her daily life for a time, whether for vacation, for business or to live in another country."

"It used to be you'd go away for the summer and be someone else, go away to camp and be someone else, or maybe to Europe and be someone else" in a spirit of healthy experimentation, said Dr. Sherry Turkle, a sociologist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. Now, she said, people regularly assume several aliases on the Internet, without ever leaving their armchair: the clerk next door might sign on as bill@aol.com but also cruise chat rooms as Armaniguy, Cool Breeze and Thunderboy."

Link to article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/01/11/health/psychology/the-secret-lives-of-just-about-everybody.html?_r...

[Abrowneyegirl]

@cotton4me I have to agree! Lots of people lead 'double lives' to some degree.  No big deal and usually no huge scandal!!!

We all know people at  work who keep to themselves do not share every moment of their lives.  They chose to keep there work persona separate from their person life.  

I recently learned a quite, shy, middle -aged acountant I work with races cars on weekends- top driver in his class!  No one at work knew this, several worked with him for many years.  Double life scandle!!!!.  oooooohhhh

[SilleeMee]

I would not label living a double life a "personality disorder" because usually the person is aware of both sides and  usually doesn't have a medical problem. Otoh, multiple personality IS a disorder...a medical one usually treated with medication or therapy of one kind or another. I personally knew a woman who was diagnosed with MPD and she was treated with electro-shock therapy and drugs. 

[sunshower]

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@Abrowneyegirl wrote:

@cotton4me I have to agree! Lots of people lead 'double lives' to some degree.  No big deal and usually no huge scandal!!!

We all know people at  work who keep to themselves do not share every moment of their lives.  They chose to keep there work persona separate from their person life.  

I recently learned a quite, shy, middle -aged acountant I work with races cars on weekends- top driver in his class!  No one at work knew this, several worked with him for many years.  Double life scandle!!!!.  oooooohhhh

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It sounds like the race car driving simply didnt come up in his work environment.You didnt indicate that when this was discovered that his reaction was negative. Im thinking this wasnt a secret,we all enjoy a little privacy.

[sunshower]

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@SilleeMee wrote:

I would not label living a double life a "personality disorder" because usually the person is aware of both sides and  usually doesn't have a medical problem. Otoh, multiple personality IS a disorder...a medical one usually treated with medication or therapy of one kind or another. I personally knew a woman who was diagnosed with MPD and she was treated with electro-shock therapy and drugs. 

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Your comparatives helped to give new direction in answering my question,thank you.

[sunshower]

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@cotton4me wrote:

From the New York Times entitled:

The Secret Lives of Just About Everybody

Excerpts:

"The urge to act out an entirely different persona is widely shared across cultures as well, social scientists say, and may be motivated by curiosity, mischief or earnest soul-searching. Certainly, it is a familiar tug in the breast of almost anyone who has stepped out of his or her daily life for a time, whether for vacation, for business or to live in another country."

"It used to be you'd go away for the summer and be someone else, go away to camp and be someone else, or maybe to Europe and be someone else" in a spirit of healthy experimentation, said Dr. Sherry Turkle, a sociologist at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. Now, she said, people regularly assume several aliases on the Internet, without ever leaving their armchair: the clerk next door might sign on as bill@aol.com but also cruise chat rooms as Armaniguy, Cool Breeze and Thunderboy."

Link to article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/01/11/health/psychology/the-secret-lives-of-just-about-everybody.html?_r...

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Thank you for your research,both interesting articles.