My Daddy Is Gone - Page 7

Rainbows and Roses · ‎06-04-2011

I am so so sorry. I hope you will take time to rest in the memories and I know he knew you were there.........the heartache never goes away.......I am sorry.....praying they will find out a cure for this horrible disease....praying for you and your family for comfort and peace.

Rainbows and Roses · ‎06-04-2011

Please don't feel guilty for giving yourself time to grieve and be with your mom and just rest.......you don't have to know what to do right now........when you are ready it will come and you will know what to do. Right now it is just a moment at a time. Be easy on yourself.

Mistic · ‎12-08-2010

I am so sorry for the loss of your Father. I know your heart is hurting. ""Try"" and focus on some of the best times with your Dad. I know it hurts so bad. {{{hugs}}}

If you want to change the tenor of your interactions, you must become aware of the impact of your words...Karen Casey

Bestdressed · ‎04-18-2010

On 4/7/2014 luvboyds said:
I am here. I'm sorry I haven't been here in the past several days. I have been helping mom take care of things and filling out Thank You cards to everyone. I went back to work today which that is my routine but I kept wanting to call mom to check on dad. I get home from work and I'm used to rushing around to get what I need to do done before going to my parents to help get dad cleaned up and ready for bed. Everything is just WRONG this evening. I feel like I am living in someone else's world right now. I have cried as I don't know what to do with myself. My life hasn't been mine for a long time, so it's like starting over and I have no idea how. I still have my Beachbody Coaching that is kinda keeping me busy but I am thinking "how can I help others when I can't help myself right now?" I just miss him so much. I'm trying to take it day at a time but I don't know what I'm doing honestly. I guess it will all come with time.

I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories with me of your family and what you have been through or what you have facing you. My heart goes out to all of you. Such beautiful stories of the love you have for your families....(((hugs))) to everyone.

luvboyds...I am sorry you going though such a hard time. Your experience sounds like mine. You described how I felt too...when you didn't feel like your life was yours for a long time. I hope can reflect back and be grateful for the time you spent with your dad in his declining days. Think of everything you did to help him out and just know what a good daughter you are.

NOW is your time to slowly get your life back. It is ok to feel sad and miss your dear dad. But please, just know you helped him transfer softly, gently in a better place and he is no longer suffering. I hope in time you will feel better knowing you are a wonderful daughter.

luvboyds · ‎03-10-2010

Thank you so much for you kind words. It is three weeks today since dad has been gone and it feels like yesterday and seems like forever all at the same time. The grieving has finally caught up with me this week as I have done nothing but cry. Not sure if it's because of returning to work the second week in a row or if it's that I realized that I don't have to go be with him every evening and weekends now. I keep hearing in my head that I'll never see my dad again while here on earth but I know I will in heaven again. I wish it would shut up because it really makes things more difficult. I went with mom this morning to start dads probate and it just makes it that much more real.

I go home from work with every good intention of getting my house cleaned up for spring but once I'm there I have no desire to do anything. I did decide to call Stanley Steemer to get my carpets done, so that is a little normalcy and maybe then I'll get more cleaning done. It's just I really and honestly don't know what to do with myself. I'm still so lost. I have given myself until after the first of the month before really getting back into coaching because of the very fact that I'm still overwhelmed with grief and I do need this time for me.

We had a really hard time with dad this past year because he was so aggressive and required a lot from us emotionally and physically but we wouldn't have anyone else in there doing it for us. That makes sorting through the emotions even more difficult because at first it was hard to separate it but now it has gotten a little easier. Last night I was able to look at some pictures and remember my dad as my dad instead of my dad with Alzheimer's. I so hate this disease and my heart goes out to anyone having to go through it.

(((hugs))) to all of you for helping me through this, your kind words and prayers.

phoenixbrd · ‎03-27-2010

I am so sorry for your loss.

OCGurl · ‎03-10-2010

Luvboyds, I just saw this! I am very sorry to hear of your loss. And while it is hard for us to go on here and we grieve, you do take comfort in knowing he is now free in heaven & you will see him again soon, be kind to yourself & cry when you need to! (((Xoxo)))