I don’t care anymore

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

I still love . . . But find I don’t care anymore about many things that I used to care about.

One of my daughters and her son, my grandson, live with me. They have been on a “cleaning out” project for several weeks now. Most of the things that are going are being donated to veterans organizations, some to storage, and a lot to trash. They ask me along the way and my response is mostly “I don’t care.”

I have moved many, many times and always found it hard to part with things I’ve had for a long time. Not anymore.

I am beginning to wonder what that means.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

nana59 · ‎05-12-2012

i feel that exact same way.......but i know my health plays a big role....i have a few chronic pain issues that strongly affect my attitude.....

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

It doesn't sound as if you're referring to the 'I don't care' that goes along with "I don't have hope." That would be concerning, but not caring about most material things is probably a good thing. I'm there with you. I work with a lady who cares waaay too much about what goes on during the workday. She'd be happier if she was more selective about what she gave her emotional energy to. I'd like to think I'm a recovering people pleaser. I'm much happier now. I also am leaning towards more minimalism.

Unless I'm reading your post wrong -- I think you're at a good place. ?

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

KentuckyWoman · ‎03-13-2010

As long as you haven't given up on life, I think the "I don't care" thinking is normal and you are okay.

Yesterday at church service, our minister quoted "we live life forwards but understand it backwards." I think as time passes we finally know what is really important. Things that are boxed up and put away in our attic and basements, things we never think about or look at or use, are just collecting dust and taking up space. I think "I don't care" can be a very good place to be.

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

@LilacTree I feel more and more that way... do not feel the importance of THINGS. It has little to do with our demise... but more I think a knowing and growing about what is truely important to us. And that takes years of living to get to that point. So do not read something into it that is not there. And remember what my Irish Mom use to say....ONLY THE GOOD DIE YOUNG.....

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@jeanlake wrote:
It doesn't sound as if you're referring to the 'I don't care' that goes along with "I don't have hope." That would be concerning, but not caring about most material things is probably a good thing. I'm there with you. I work with a lady who cares waaay too much about what goes on during the workday. She'd be happier if she was more selective about what she gave her emotional energy to. I'd like to think I'm a recovering people pleaser. I'm much happier now. I also am leaning towards more minimalism.

Unless I'm reading your post wrong -- I think you're at a good place. ?

Not really . . . I wish. My health is getting worse, but I won’t discuss that. I really don’t know what it is, perhaps changes in my brain? Old age? Boredom? That I look into the mirror and don’t see the woman I was? I do know that I feel this is not my own world anymore.

Makes me understand why old people don’t have much to say. Because no one is listening?

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

Justice4all · ‎12-22-2013

It means you've come to your senses! Love, Jusice

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

This isn't a comment about the OP, but when given a booklet on preparing for the death of a family member, it said they would not have interest in earthly things and would start pulling away from us.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@AuntG wrote:
This isn't a comment about the OP, but when given a booklet on preparing for the death of a family member, it said they would not have interest in earthly things and would start pulling away from us.

I would not say I am pulling away from my loved ones . . . If anything, they mean more to me than ever. But yes, possessions like jewelry mean nothing to me. I tell my daughter, keep it if you like it. If not give it away or sell it if it has value.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986