@Yesyesyes568 wrote:
I'll be praying for husband. I'm in the same position. I've been on HRT for 40 years and you can just repeat your story with my name in it. So I developed lung blood clots and was told to stop HRT. Well I can't because I'm addicted to them just like DH is. So I researched and found a dr that specializes in HRT to have her keep me on them or take me off the right way via whatever the right way means. She kept me on them because tests show HRT didn't cause the blood clots.
You have to get your husband to a non VA Dr. Another person suggested psychiatrist and I agree. Make it with a Therapist first to get a foot in the door and go from their. This is nothing to play with. I was married to a combat viet nam vet. I understand it. For 18 years. Divorced him for a completely odd terrible reason. Please MAM take your DH to get him where he stays on this drug or the consequences could be dire.
Also, this should be a reason to get veterans disability. If he's already getting it then spend some of it to go to non military government Dr. Or request the VA that your husband is displaying signs of severe depression that may lead you to believe that he may be suicidal and taking him off of their mistake of over 30-40 years ago of keeping him on it, is now something they have to reconsider and to continue because your DH is suffering. You must tell them that.
Take this very seriously and these suggestions for solutions. Or go to an attorney. Talk to your family. Talk to your Dr. Maybe go to a therapist yourself for consult. You both get Medicare that pays.
Good luck
Best to you.
oh by the way....I went 120 miles to get the Dr I went to see at the Cleveland clinic. So it's how serious are you about doing and getting something done. Or are you going to sit by and let things happen. Prayers help but HE wants those to help themselves too......
Ask that Dr to give you a reason why your DH should be taken off of that medication, if he can't have a solid answer then tell him you want him to stay on them. If you can't go be with him in the exam then ask for a supervisor.
STAY STRONG
Hi, @Yesyesyes568 Thanks for your post. I identify with almost everything you say. I have insisted many times that DH get help and and even issued many "ultimatums" down through the years. Once, I even left him for 4 months. That was many years ago. He went begrudgingly to counseling but he went! Had he not listened we would not still be married. We celebrated 52 yrs. of marriage 2 days ago!
I need to let you (and others) know that..... last night I went over his medications and no wonder he's having so much trouble. He has been taking his medications all wrong! He totally misunderstood his instructions for almost two weeks....so now we start over.
DH does get a sizeable pension. He was heavily exposed to Agent Orange and was offered no counseling. He suffered a serious wound and almost lost his leg. He spent 6 months at Walter Reed. We married soon after that. Right now he is doing everything his doctor asks and is not ready (in his mind) to get counseling. Make no mistake, I know after 40 years of being on Ativan, that this will not be easy and I do take it very seriously. I have had several health issues myself this past year and the thought of going through something like this seems (at times) is overwhelming to me. I do have a strong faith and believe that is what has taken me through a lot over all these years. He has never physically abused me. I wish for people to know that. I would not stay with someone who did that. Emotionally ( well that's another story) but thank God he was willing to get to counseling all those years ago. It is what saved our marriage.
I'm so sorry for all you have been through. I could write a book on it myself. My 91 yr. old mother thinks I should but that is definitly not a talent of mine. Ha!
Believe me, I do take it very seriously and I appreciate everything you have shared and your concern. It is a good reminder for me to be on top of things. I'm sure trying. Please, be well.
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