Wellness

[HappyDaze]

If so, how did it go? I doubt I will get any responses but just in case someone has...

[Kachina624]

It seems to have disappeared now but there used to be a TV program called "Intervention" that actually paid for stints in treatment centers. Many of the interventions were dicey and not terribly successful. Few of the users finished their rehab. Having a friend or relative who is addicted to something is a very sad situation for all concerned, but I'm convinced they have to be ready to accept treatment or it's pretty much futile.

[qvcfreak]

We did for a cousin, but it wasn't successful. As soon as treatment was over, he was only clean for a couple of weeks and then he was back with his old friends doing the same thing. I think the person with the problem has to make the decision that they want to change on their own and separate from the people that enable them and decide for themselves that they want something better.

Good luck but our cousin was in his 20's and he is now in his 40's and still doing drugs.

[HappyDaze]

thanks kachina, I use to watch that show alot and yes, I remember that it seemed like they mostly agreed to go but more often than not, they bailed early from the treatment center. I remember feeling frustrated that there was so few successful outcomes! Sad thing is, the Intervention show probably aired the ones that were the most "successful" and yet, like we both stated, even those weren't too impressive in terms of results. I suppose they left out alot of the ones where the people stormed off during the intervention and never came back or simply never agreed to go in the first place.

I agree with you, they truly have to be ready to accept treatment and really want to go in order for them to stick with it long-term but was hoping to hear some success stories.

[HappyDaze]

On 4/8/2014 qvcfreak said:

We did for a cousin, but it wasn't successful. As soon as treatment was over, he was only clean for a couple of weeks and then he was back with his old friends doing the same thing. I think the person with the problem has to make the decision that they want to change on their own and separate from the people that enable them and decide for themselves that they want something better.

Good luck but our cousin was in his 20's and he is now in his 40's and still doing drugs.

thank you and yes, I agree with you. We did the intervention on Sunday and it was not successful. She is in her late 30's and has been doing meth for 13 years now. She has never once asked or wanted help and she freely admits to using, doesn't even try to deny it. It was just our last ditch effort to try to get her to get help, as she is receiving a HUGE inheritance and I fear it will literally be the death of her.

I appreciate your response.

[mimi91]

Not personally but my sil is a therapist. She was hired to intervene at a client's home. The client hoped to get his wife into treatment. The client, children and sil were waiting for the wife to come home. The wife was taken by surprise and was furious with her husband and children and sil. She refused to talk and screamed and threatened sil. She ordered her out of her home. No intervention. This was several years ago and maybe therapies have changed. Maybe a more experienced therapist would have been successful. This was a popular theory a few years ago. I don't know if it still is.

[Lacey1]

I had a SIL that had several interventions/rehabs. Sadly, nothing worked and she overdosed. Her brother found her in her apartment 3 days, after she had died. Horrible.

I have NO patience for drug/alcohol abusers, so I only participated because she was exploiting and abusing my MIL. MIL was an enabler and we could not get her to stop allowing herself to be used.

Good luck to anyone that has to deal with this. I hope never to have to again.

[HappyDaze]

Our Interventionist did an amazing job and was able to calm her down on multiple occasions. It just comes down to the addict wanting to get help, everyone else can only do so much to urge them to go. And when there is a mental health component to it as well, it makes it even harder to get them to go. How do you get through to someone who can't hold a train of thought from one minute to the next? She said yes several times so when we'd get up to go she'd then say no. It was up and down like that throughout the whole process. She finally agreed to go and we did get her in the car and drove to the airport but she bailed before the flight.

[HappyDaze]

On 4/8/2014 lacey1 said:

I had a SIL that had several interventions/rehabs. Sadly, nothing worked and she overdosed. Her brother found her in her apartment 3 days, after she had died. Horrible.

I have NO patience for drug/alcohol abusers, so I only participated because she was exploiting and abusing my MIL. MIL was an enabler and we could not get her to stop allowing herself to be used.

Good luck to anyone that has to deal with this. I hope never to have to again.

That is really sad but, unfortunately, often the outcome.

I know what you mean about exploiting and abusing family members. That is one of the problems I think of this intervention- one family member, the one responsible for executing the will for her inheritance, was/is totally naive about drug addicts and refused to stop enabling her. Had I known that in advance, he would not have been a part of the intervention. Everyone needs to be on the same page and if one person is not, then it can sabotage the whole process.

[Cyndog]

Meth literally changes your brain function, 13 years is a long time. Young people can get away with some occasional use, although it rarely stays occasional. At 43 or so, I think the bad effects will start to double. She probably doesn't even think straight at this point although I'm sure she is thoroughly convinced she is. Once she gets that money, it'll be party time for the whole meth crowd. By having the intervention, I think everyone has done what they can and need not have any guilt that they didn't try.