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03-19-2015 12:17 PM
Wink,
Very sorry to see you having to deal with so many things at the same time. I won't repeat the good suggestions others have given you here. I have found during my tough times that Optimism has helped me immensely with making it to the other side. My best to you and to your sister.
03-19-2015 12:26 PM
On 3/19/2015 lucylover64 said:Wink-
Just one of the issues you mentioned would be a lot to manage--when you add them together it results in so many feelings to process. The suggestions by other posters are very good ideas, so I won't "re-hash" them! One interesting and natural thing we humans tend to do when with our feelings is to try not to focus on/dwell on the difficult ones (such as sadness, anger, hurt, etc). This approach is clearly a positive one, but the difficult feelings are real and need to be acknowledged. All feelings are OKAY! It's how we manage them that sometimes becomes more of the problem: journaling can be a very powerful way to express yourself honestly and get the feelings OUTSIDE of you so they do not overwhelm you/overpower you (in addition to the other ideas posters have offered). A gratitude journal can also help: list 3 things each day you are grateful for (big and small!) Gratitude does not wipe out the difficulties, but it can help change our thoughts a bit to help with perspective. We cannot control our feelings, they are what they are; however, we can do things to help ourselves feel comforted and supported as we manage the realities of our lives.
Best wishes to you, wink, and I hope you are able to find some comfort as you process and manage all of these issues. Please keep us posted how you are doing!
Good advice. Actually I did one day sit down and just write out everything that has happened. At first I looked at all these bad things happening and you know that old saying about things happening in 3.
But, I was reading an article about changing how you think and bad things don't really happen in three, it's just the way our minds categorize them. The situation with my ex was going to happen sooner or later because he had a bad heart and the fact that my sister's cancer is curable is a good thing. I have tried changing the way I think and I believe it's working. I was having sleepless nights but for the past several nights I've slept like a baby. It's amazing what your brain can do. Thanks.
03-19-2015 12:47 PM
I think your adult children will be fine. Take care of yourself!
Your children could go through the house taking what they want, organizing all paperwork, then hire a reputable person that does estate sales. They will organize what's left and price it.
03-19-2015 12:52 PM
03-19-2015 12:54 PM
Great suggestions have been given here. I am sorry you are experiencing all of this at one time.
My suggestion would be to seek spiritual counseling and incorporate meditation in your daily routine. It is very healing and nurtures the soul.
03-19-2015 01:03 PM
The things that work for me:
exercise
talking about it
writing about it
meditation and repetitive prayer
laughing, watching a funny movie, reading a funny book
spending time with my pets, hug your dog, pet your cat
if all else fails theanine supplements, it's an amino acid that is derived from green tea.
03-19-2015 01:13 PM
Your kids will be fine....yes, they are stressed because of their dad's death and the mess he left but they will get thru it, we have all had to face difficult situations and come thru it just fine.
I understand the obligation to your sister and hopefully the mass your doctor finds will prove to be nothing serious, don't worry if you don't have to! My mom had b.cancer and did not even tell her kids (I am one of 5) until after the surgery because she did not want to worry us...while we were not happy about not being at the hospital for the surgery, it was her choice so you do not have to tell you children anything until you need to.
Hopefully after your appointment all will be fine and you can start to concentrate on your sister, who really needs you.
Best of luck to you
03-19-2015 01:36 PM
Will sympathy help? Because you really have mine; I feel so sorry that you're having to deal with all this. Please feel free to come here and vent, update us, etc., whenever you need to.
Many hugs and good thoughts for you (too bad there isn't a "hug" icon)
03-19-2015 01:53 PM
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