Wellness

[jeanlake]

On 3/19/2015 jaxs mom said:

The things that work for me:

exercise

talking about it

writing about it

meditation and repetitive prayer

laughing, watching a funny movie, reading a funny book

spending time with my pets, hug your dog, pet your cat

if all else fails theanine supplements, it's an amino acid that is derived from green tea.

So agree with the above (as well as other posters' good advice) Believe that 'This, too, shall pass.' I embrace these lyrics -- 'There are better days ahead, and many more where those come from.' (Elder's Band) 'Tis true. Take very good care of yourself. Rest and try the things Jaxs mom spoke of. Blessings and peace to you.

[Sister Golden Hair]

""One day at a time"". Sometimes taking one hour at a time. We can't change the past so just go forward.

[ANewHue]

First I would like to extend my sympathy . My life is crazy filled with stress and it's an issue because I have a chronic illness that is affected by stress. I tell my doctors this constantly for years and they look at me like I'm crazy. Not only do I care for my elderly mother but I have a sister who is mentally disabled . I also have my own family and I'm home alone most days. As much as I try to not let things get to me it does, there is always something happening. I workout as much as I can and that does help. I don't take pills for it. My favorite thing to do is to lock myself in my bathroom with my favorite Wen and treat myself to a spa experience. I use the oils on my head when I know I won't be going out for a few days and the aromatherapy helps.

[Momobing]

Hello, Wink...first, I'd like to offer my prayers and sympathy for all that is happening. Life can be very overwhelming and I hope you feel the love here. I understand worrying about your children, but other than it being a loss for them to grieve ( you can offer them your love and presence to help with that part of it), the other stuff is just a nuisance and they will be fine. Stress can become debilitating, so please make sure to discuss all this with your doctor. If you can, try to set aside a few moments each day to feel all your feelings, stuffing them down will work against you. While acknowledging them and feeling them, please try not to get trapped in them. Allow yourself to focus on the things to be grateful for, as well. Some days, you might have quite a long list and other days, you may struggle to find one or two, but it will help to steer you toward the positive. Breathe deeply and try to do something that relaxes or pleases you each day. I pray that yours and your sister's health news is all good from here forward.

[blackhole99]

You can't do for others if you aren't well yourself, step back and take a deep breath and look at the big picture. I'm sure you raised your children well and they can handle what's come their way. I think no matter where your sister's kids live they should make accommodations for their mother. I would just turn it over to G-d, clear your mind and follow your breath.

[lucylover64]

Thinking of you, wink! Sending you positive thoughts and best wishes.

Life is one minute at a time....

[Reever]

Lucy have you talked to your physician about getting a prescription for Xanax? I have stopped drinking wine due to health concerns about arsenic in the wine. I dont know what else relieves stress. Seems like every day a new study comes out.

[wonderfulworld]

Reever, I just saw a segment on TV about this. Only really cheap wine....all under $10.00 and most under $5.00. Drink the good stuff.

[Moonchilde]

If you are able to financially and time-wise, make it a point to pamper yourself a little. Go have a spa manicure and pedicure, or a massage. It's okay to be good to yourself, and it's definitely relaxing.

[game-on]

Wink.... I know your children will want to talk to you.... how about asking them to tell you funny stories about what they are finding.... encourage them to laugh, so you can laugh.... hug them.... that way you both have "skin time".... it is so healing.... if they feel sad, tell them you feel sad too.... cry together.... but don't take any blame on or any burden.... just share emotions..... they have feelings and you have feelings.... you don't have to tell them what the emotions are about.... you just need a safe place to emote....

If you need someone to talk to.... I suggest the journal(talk to yourself).... also a support group.... if that is not enough, get a professional counselor....

Encourage your sister to do some of these things so she doesn't just count on you....

Stress can cause someone to become physically ill.... Eat well (healthy), exercise, pamper yourself (showers or baths), quiet times, tune out others' pain and enjoy laughter.... children can often evoke laughter.... go to a playground, a zoo, a library.... see children and just enjoy them....

I wish you the best....