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Re: Do you find tears healing?

Tears may be an emotional release, but I don't find them healing.

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Re: Do you find tears healing?


@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

Tears may be an emotional release, but I don't find them healing.


 

Neither do I.

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Re: Do you find tears healing?

I have a framed sign in my bathroom that says

 

the cure for anything

is saltwater:

sweat, tears or the sea.

 

                            - isak dinesen

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Re: Do you find tears healing?

I find myself tearing up almost every morning these days.  I cannot awaken and just get up, as I have to take my meds and lie there for at least an hour.  That's when all the losses pile up and I feel the tears spilling.  I almost feel I need to do that in order to face the day.  I do it quietly and only when I am alone.

 

When my beloved sister died almost five years ago (I can't believe it has been that long), it was on my "off" day . . . we had been going up, a two hour ride, every other day.  I wanted to be there to hold her at the end and I wasn't.  As one daughter called me to tell me she was gone, my other daughter was crashing through the front door.  I was making animal sounds that I've never heard coming out of me before.  I had no control over it.  That wasn't crying, that was howling like a wounded animal in the woods. 

 

However, I do agree that weeping (tearing up) does release a lot of tension and is helpful most of the time.

 

 

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Re: Do you find tears healing?


@pugvette74 wrote:

I have a framed sign in my bathroom that says

 

the cure for anything

is saltwater:

sweat, tears or the sea.

 

                            - isak dinesen


I like that quotation a lot. It is from Danish author, Karen Blixen, using one of her several psuedonyms. She had a fascinating life and certainly knew a lot about tears. One of her most famous works was her autobiograhical book, Out of Africa, later made into that luscious movie. I'm a huge fan of hers.

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Re: Do you find tears healing?

Not really. The last time I cried was when I watched the vet  end my cats life last month.

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I get angry and swear. My husband passed away this year and all I could think of why were you so stubborn and not try to take care of yourself. You brought this on yourself.

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Re: Do you find tears healing?

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I have always been a very tender-hearted, sensitive person, and can tear up in an instant over the least little thing, even hymns in church, patriotic music, or a marching band playing in a parade.   Releasing a few tears often makes me feel much better, but it basically depends on what is on my mind at the time.   I think I cry less as I get older, and feel a lot of that is due to realizing that the maternal side of my family were heavy grievers, which influenced me far more than I realized.  

 

I do not cry when I visit my dads grave, or any other family members graves, as I am at peace with their deaths.   

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Re: Do you find tears healing?


@halfpint1 wrote:

Not really. The last time I cried was when I watched the vet  end my cats life last month.

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I get angry and swear. My husband passed away this year and all I could think of why were you so stubborn and not try to take care of yourself. You brought this on yourself.


@halfpint1

I am sorry for your loss.

 

I always try to tell myself, they did the best they could do, at that time.

 

 

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Re: Do you find tears healing?

 

If the eye had no tears the soul would have no rainbows.

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Re: Do you find tears healing?


@RedTop wrote:

I have always been a very tender-hearted, sensitive person, and can tear up in an instant over the least little thing, even hymns in church, patriotic music, or a marching band playing in a parade.   Releasing a few tears often makes me feel much better, but it basically depends on what is on my mind at the time.   I think I cry less as I get older, and feel a lot of that is due to realizing that the maternal side of my family were heavy grievers, which influenced me far more than I realized.  

 

I do not cry when I visit my dads grave, or any other family members graves, as I am at peace with their deaths.   


 

@RedTop

Thank you, for your words, I too am finding I am at peace...  I guess visiting my mothers grave for the first time after two years, is always the hardest.