On 11/22/2014 CelticAngel said: On 11/22/2014 Lannie said: On 11/22/2014 CelticAngel said: Hi everyone, as my surgery date draws closer I am getting more and more nervous. Found out that my onco (doing the surgery) will be going out of town the day after surgery. Im not happy abt this at all. We dont know if it will be lapro or open at this point. Maybe I should postpone until he returns?
You are having the pre surgery jitters - it's common as the day draws nearer! There will be someone on call for him the next day and for as long as he is gone - these things are planned out well in advance on their schedules so that if there are any issues a dr will be there for his patients, so don't worry.
It will be just fine and no, don't postpone it - then you will have an even longer period to worry! You will be so glad when it is over, they will take very good care of you. Wishing you the best,
Lannie
Thanks so much, Lannie. And also for your earlier post where you took great care in directing me to ask myself questions about how I would feel from the surgery. I very much appreciated it and you were right on that the emotional side of this was much more impt than I suspected. I am one who operates on logic in my job (research scientist) and in my life in general. Having emotions control me is very much out of the ordinary and my comfort zone. Turns out that while I'm not happy at all about doing this (still think someone will have to hit me over the head w/a hammer to get me into that operating room) I really don't have a choice unless I want to jeapordize my health in the long term w/much worse surgeries on the horizon.
Hello Celtic, I have not posted here for a long time but have been following the thread all along. I'm glad to know that you are moving forward with your surgery. I will be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts. The advice you have gotten about dealing with the emotional aspects of this experience is excellent. Please take that advice to heart. I had breast cancer surgery and radiation treatment in January and February 2013. I was unable to deal with the emotional aspects of my experience at the time for a variety of reasons. As a result, I went through what I consider to be a period of post-traumatic stress in January 2014. I was devastated during this period and had a hard time digging myself out of the black hole I got myself into. I am very much like you, very logical and prone to try to deal with things intellectually rather than emotionally. Take it from me - you will be much better off if you focus on your emotions during this period and deal with them now rather than later. Wishing you all the best as you go through your surgery and your recovery period. Sending you a hug along with the positive thoughts and energy.
To the rest of you beautiful ladies, I wish all of you a wonderful Thanksgiving surrounded by your loved ones or doing whatever is best for you to enjoy the holiday. It has been wonderful to follow your stories over the months when I did not post. I always felt that it was not appropriate for me to post given stories from the rest of you who had a much harder time than I did. Please know that I have always been very thankful for your help getting through my BC journey. You are an extraordinary group of women.
Finally, a special message to Cocoa/Diana. Sending you big hugs as you face this first holiday without your beloved Dennis. Your messages have truly conveyed the depth of your love as have your actions in the last months of his life. I have watched my Mom move through this same experience after she lost my Dad. They had been married 3 weeks short of their 60th anniversary when he left us. I admire her so much for the courage she has shown during the period after he passed and the years since then. I know that she went through a very difficult, painful period like the one you are in now. I hope that you will find a way to get through this awful experience and decide where you would like to spend the rest of your life and with whom you want to spend that time. You are lucky to have options. If you choose to move back to where you lived previously, I can't imagine that anyone would criticize you for doing so. I hope that you will not stay in a place where you will be lonely and sad just because Dennis wanted to go there. Anyway, my message is getting way too long. Please know that there are people who think about you and hope for the best even if you didn't know we were out here.
Happy Thanksgiving to all!
“Do not think only of your own joy, but vow to save all beings from suffering.”
Dalai Lama
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