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[Big Sister]

Hello, @1208, Try to deal with only one day at a time and try really hard to not have any regrets.  That will give you some peace after your DH is gone.

[jewel3]

I am so sorry your family is walking down this path. That is a question for your oncologist or a hospice nurse who has helped his/ her patients as their disease progresses. The oncologist can help as each case is a bit different and your doctor knows or will soon know where your husband's cancer is growing most aggressively and how your husband's body responds to medications to keep him comfortable or slow cancer growth. 

[Pinkstylus]

Dearest One: We may not all have the answers to your questions. How I wished no one would ever have to experience these things in life. But this is life, we all may have to go through trials and tribulations during our journey in life. This is not only a place to shop, but this is truly a community of love and support. Keep that strength and perseverance as you walk through this, I will keep you and your husband in my prayers that he may find comfort during his ordeal. Put in writing what you feel, what doubts you may have, fears and anxieties. We may not have the answers, but we are all here to listen and comfort you even through writing. We may all be oceans and miles apart, but we all have that one thing in our hearts......compassion and a lending ear to someone who may need it. Stay strong, and be positive, persevere in prayers.....for soon it will be over.

[software]

Cancer widow here, I am so sorry.   Not only will you be his caretaker, you must be his advocate also.   The cancer & the meds may cloud his judgment so be cautious when he doesn't seem to make sense or seems to make a wrong decision.   Don't take NO for an answer from the professionals if it feels wrong.   If you have a close friend, or sister who can partner with you through this, let them.   When someone says, can I help?  tell them YES.    Cut the grass, take out the trash, make a grocery store run, run the dishwasher.   And in all that, take care of yourself.   

Praying for you & your family.   

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@1208 wrote:

Anyone have someone close to them die from this horrible diease? What will my husband experience? Thank You for your input and honesty.

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[Kimi Eliz]

I am so sorry and am praying for you both. 

[meallen616]

[MomCat]

Bless you and your family.  My uncle had this and it's not an easy road.  Embrace the good days!! 

[SeaMaiden]

My Father at age 95 succumbed to bladder cancer last May. He had survived polio, brain  aneurysm, colon cancer in his life of 95 years... but died from bladder cancer in just 4 months after diagnosis. I hope they find a cure for this and other cancers in the near future.  Blessings to you both.

[Ms X]

I don't know how practical this advice is, but try to concentrate on life as much as possible.  Try to do things together, even if he can't go out a lot.  Try to help him to enjoy each day.  Make sure he's comfortable in terms of pain control.  Keep your eye out for new therapies that might help him.

[RedTop]

My best friends father died of bladder cancer within 6 months of his diagnosis.   He immediately went under Hospice care, and his doctor made sure he received what was needed medication wise to keep him very comfortable in his last days.   My friend was so thankful her dad didn't suffer.  I remember him being uncomfortable and more restless that last week, but know he received more pain meds which resulted in him sleeping almost round the clock until he passed.   

Sending prayers to your family as you cope with this life changing news.