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[AngelPuppy1]

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@151949wrote:

@AngelPuppy1  Do you think that if , obviously more than once from your comment, when people are "making nasty and rude" comments to you, that most likely they are people who are trying to help you , and the comments aren't at all nasty & rude - but attempts to make you see that your behavior is inappropriate. I think you percieve them as nasty & rude but they aren't that at all.

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@151949

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[AngelPuppy1]

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@151949wrote:

@AngelPuppy1  Do you think that if , obviously more than once from your comment, when people are "making nasty and rude" comments to you, that most likely they are people who are trying to help you , and the comments aren't at all nasty & rude - but attempts to make you see that your behavior is inappropriate. I think you percieve them as nasty & rude but they aren't that at all.

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@151949

Yes, really?  I don't see the need for you to try and psycho-analyze me!!!  I suppose no-one in the ordinary course of life has ever said anything nasty and/or rude to you?  If not, then good for you.  And for you to post that this has happened to me because of "inappropriate behavior" when you do not know me at all is both ridiculous and inappropriate.  No further comment..... 

[violann]

OMGosh @Harpa, JUST YESTERDAY I was singing with our (sweet, pious, earnest, sincere but VERY amateur) Church Choir, and we did the most BEAUTIFUL arrangement of the Pie Jesu from the Faure Requiem, and I honestly had a tough time keeping it together.

It seems as though every Church season we do something that surprises me in the nicest way.l I always hope that’s God’s way of letting me know he’s content with me being there.

[Harpa]

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@violannwrote:

OMGosh @Harpa, JUST YESTERDAY I was singing with our (sweet, pious, earnest, sincere but VERY amateur) Church Choir, and we did the most BEAUTIFUL arrangement of the Pie Jesu from the Faure Requiem, and I honestly had a tough time keeping it together.

It seems as though every Church season we do something that surprises me in the nicest way.l I always hope that’s God’s way of letting me know he’s content with me being there.

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@violann

I love this piece!!

Yes, I know exactly what you mean! Which is one reason why I was never a singer, though I've done my share of choral work - in college as well as director. It's just so hard to keep it together with some of those pieces!! Especially when you know Who you are singing about!

Thanks for mentioning!!

[Ibby114]

People who spew nastiness so often have an agenda-  it gives them a sense of superiority to get under other people's skin.  I developed a thick skin and don't let comments get  to me-  I was taught this when growing up when the bullies teased my chubbiness &/or curly hair. I walked away and didn't give them the power!  Still works in 2018 !!

Another valuable lesson from my Mom growing up: not everyone is going to be your friend. I think there's such an emphasis on being 'liked' - why? People who aren't a part of your life shouldn't have an impact on you!

[LilacTree]

Sensitive . . . only about certain things. 

I have never cried over my health, no matter how bad the pain or how ugly my symptoms and disfigurements are.  When I fell and broke my shoulder, I was shocked, but did not make a sound.  I finally called my daughter's name loud enough (through two closed doors) for her pup to hear me and he started barking, so she came in to pick me up off the floor, as I could not move.

I never cried at work.  I always fought back, as a result I was never bullied.

I've never stopped crying over my sister's death.  I cry easily when one of my girls or grandkids are hurting. 

I easily cry at certain music, certain movies.  And I can't stand watching anyone else suffer.  I get angry at the TV commercials that exploit unwanted or mistreated animals, or children.  I turn them off immediately.

None of this means I can't be hurt.  I have been hurt hundreds of times.

So I don't know what to call all of that.

[KateE]

I, too am sensitive and yes it can become a love/hate relationship. There are two ways I look at this. My sensitive side I never want to lose, I am caring and extremely loving. I can detect what most people cannot see for themselves. With that said, my "nice" can set me up for the narcissistic people walking this earth as well. I have to be very careful who I share my feelings with, as many would love nothing better than to walk all over me and I've had my share of them. If not careful we become doormats, have relationships with one-way streets and forget we too need time for ourselves. For me, balance is hard but with effort can be done. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings, take time for yourself, be careful who you share the best part of you with, get to know people first. The younger generation is a book all their own. Sending compassion to you.