@BarbiHollywood wrote:
@drizzellla wrote:
Barbi
Please see a elder Lawyer. Yes, your Father has a will BUT are you the Executor? My parents will was in their safety deposit box. I was Power of Attorney. BUT Power of Attorney ends at death. My parents died within 5 days of one another and I was unable to get into their safety deposit box in order to probate the will for over a year. Finally I refused to pay for the rental on the box and wrote to the President of the bank.
Also, you do not know what crazy thing your step mother might come up with. You need to protect your Dad. And have it in writing.
Your stepmother may be a kook but she may also be clever as a fox too. Please talk to a lawyer.
@drizzellla I'm very sorry to hear about your parents' passing. That's so sad. Good call on Wifey being "clever as a fox" because I've wondered about that also. ALL my Dad's important papers are in his house (he's meticulous about all that stuff), but when I asked him to tell me where it all is so that I can look at it and make some copies, he very timidly told me "no." I found THAT to be odd. I know from conversations years ago that because I am the only family they both have, I was to inherit everything from both of them. Now, well, I assume she must've changed things on her end (who cares!), but I need to see that HIS stuff is still directed at me. I need to find this out. This is gonna be tricky. Thanks for the tip.
My Dad had a stroke and was in a nursing home for 10+ years. He was the one who handled all financial and legal matters up until his stroke. Mom was content to sit back and let everyone else take care of everything. Well, after Dad's stroke Mom decided to take charge. My Dad had previously bought the "best" health care policy for them. He figured that since they were getting older they would need and probably use it. So when he had his stroke, insurance paid for his 6 months in the rehab facility. The insurance company was first rate. The first thing my Mom did after my Dad's stroke was buy the cheapest health care policy she could find.
Then she cut my one brother and me out of her life insurance policy. She wanted all the money to go to "one brother". She also gave "the one brother" $$$$$$$. When their lawyer found out about all the money she was giving to my "one brother" the lawyer insisted on an addendum to their will stating all the money gifts my Mom gave "one brother". Well, Mom came up to my house and shredded the addendum so that I would have not record of the money gifted to "one brother". Plus copies of all cancelled checks and bank statements.
I was paying their bills. By this time both of them were in a nursing home. But Mom insisted that we keep their house and she also insisted on keeping her assisted living apartment, in addition to her nursing home private room. I only had Power of Attorney to one checking account. But she took the checkbook away from me and gave it to a nurses aid. I had no idea where the checkbook was and between their house, assisted living apartment and 2 nursing home rooms - I had bills that had to be paid.
By then I got the Social Worker involved. And I had no idea until after they died that Mom was trying to have me removed as Power of Attorney and Executor. I think she wanted "one brother" to be it. But he only came to see her when he wanted money or every 5 years.
This was my own Mother. Who I spent every weekend buying her groceries, getting her prescriptions filled, mowing her grass and trimming scrubs, buying her clothes (only to have to return them because she didn't like them). I am sure that your Step Mother is capable of hurting you and your Dad. Please protect yourselves.
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