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The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

Good grief!

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-5479229/Pamela-Anderson-BLASTS-Tommy-Lee-alcoholism.htm...

 

Tommy Lee's full statement to TMZ 

Truthfully this whole situation has become so depressing and out of control. My heart was broken when my son punched me. Should I have posted it on social media? Probably not. But I couldn't believe that he was not apologizing or responding to my messages, and didn't care that he knocked me unconscious and filmed my unconscious body laughing. This isn't what I want for anyone.

I love my sons. I've given them everything I possibly could. People hold my past against me, but I haven't had any altercations or issues in 20+ years. The thing that started all this was Pamela going on a barrage of interviews talking about the past, right as soon as I got engaged to my fiancé, who I have a beautiful relationship with. The fact that Pamela would ignore my pleas for her to stop, pushed me over the edge. I messaged her several times asking her to stop taking these interviews, that was hurting me and the boys, and she would ignore me.

When I first started dating my fiancé, she would send me messages of old couples, and things like that saying, "this will be us one day". I suppose my non-response set her off. She thought she'd forever have me as a backup plan. Do I drink? Yes. Do I drink more than the average Joe? Yes. Have I ever hurt my sons or acted out of turn with them because of my drinking? No. My fiancé barely drinks. 

We don't do any hard drugs, I haven't in years. No matter how much people wanna pin me as this deviant alcoholic abuser, that isn't me. I'm a happy fun loving guy. I'm joking around all the time, and people take it the wrong way sadly.

All I wanted from my son was an apology. And my heart is so broken that he would lie about the whole situation. He came in the room angry about my response to Pamela's relentless press about our old relationship, with his dukes up, telling me to get up and fight him. When I stood up he pushed me into a wall. I didn't want to hit my son. I never have and I never will. If I wanted to clock him I would have knocked him on his ass. He had no problem knocking me out. I asked him to leave and he spun around and sucker punched me. Knocked me unconscious. Listen to the 911 call that's made its way online.

I have an abusive past, which people will always bring up. But I've changed. I don't hurt people anymore. I've learned, I've served time; I’ve taken a long hard look at myself. It's hard to grow and move past things when people are constantly bringing up the past. All I wanted was an apology, something to show that he actually felt bad, but he doesn't. 

The boys have been poisoned against me sadly. Because I was on tour working; making money to pay for their private schools and their cars, and their future, so they spent more time with their mother. She became the hero. And I've come to peace with that. 

Always love my kids, but I won't let them abuse me. I won't let them be in my house and disrespect me like they did. I think they just need some time to learn how to be on their own. They've been given everything their entire lives, never been reprimanded, never had to work for anything. I want them to get jobs, stable jobs, consistent jobs, not their inconsistent modeling and acting work here and there that doesn't make enough money for them to survive.

I want them to learn what it takes to take care of yourself. My alleged "alcoholism" has nothing to do with this. I've been in therapy and working on myself, my fiancé is the one who got me into therapy! The boys never once came and talked to me and told me they felt I had a problem. However my fiancé has been helping me since we've been together. I love my boys, I will always love my boys, I just want them to learn that you cannot hurt people without repercussion. 

 
 
Pamela Anderson's full statement: 'Alcohol is the devil' 

For the record.

I have made NO comment anywhere to anyone before this -

Beware of tabloid gossip.

This is a matter of life and death.

I am surreally calm

- I feel justice is at work.

I am not frantic or ‘as reported’ -

devastated. I am hopeful -

This is not new to us -

I am staying in France for the moment.

I have complete faith in Brandon and his team to resolve this unfortunate and sad situation regarding his father.

I pray Tommy gets the help he needs.

His actions are desperate and humiliating -

He is a disaster spinning out of control.

and he is not acting like a father.

But this is nothing new.

My sons have made every attempt to help him in recent months -

staying with him to make sure he’s ok.

Just by being present with him they were hoping he’d feel loved

and act differently.

I feared things might escalate.

But-

knew this might be what it took to heal old wounds.

Him blaming his son or us for anything is delusional.

We have all tried to

protect him and help him for too long.

Hoping he’d look after himself better.

I do not like to comment about this.

But feel like it’s necessary because of Tommy’s ‘Trump style’ no thought out rampage on twitter and IG?

This matter is ideally between just a father and a son -

And rehab if the stars align.

I will never talk to Tommy again before he is sober and in his right mind.

Though he’s made attempts to contact me. I have blocked him.

It is impossible to reason with crazy.

I’m sure the world can see the truth.

I stand beside my son who acted out of self defense and was scared for his life.

Nobody understands the lifetime of disappointment this man has brought our family.

Consistently the centre of sadness,

drama and confusion.

Jealous of his sons talent and beauty from the day they were born.

He is sick. The definition of narcissist/sociopath-

His fiancé keeps him drunk - this is what he wants - someone to behave badly with.

It’s terrible

and unfortunately he has made this private matter very public.

I have always tried only to set record straight.

Trying to paint him as not a bad guy.

Just one who is human and made mistakes -

He still cannot handle the guilt about his abusive behavior and has never taken responsibility for what he has done.

Let’s hope this will be his saving grace.

I can only pray for him.

And protect my sons

Who also fiercely protect me.

Brandon has asked me to stay in France and not come home right now.

He is happy and content that I am safe and loved where I am at -

He has invaluable support and has everything under control.

His heart amazes me.

He still does not want to see his dad in Jail

He just wants him to get sober. He was puting together an Intervention (along with friends and people Tommy works with and admired). So that whatever is left of his life can be healthy and peaceful and maybe he will be a healthy part of their lives one day.

Maybe a positive part of our future grandkids life.

Brandon has risked everything to save his father.

He takes his career very seriously.

He does not touch alcohol or drugs - (he understands his genetics) and is an example to many.

He is a tremendous talent that will show the world-

But he has put all on hold for dealing with this.

his family - his brother and our family is his priority.

Believe me

He punched him in the nose for all of us who he has hurt -

Now

Tommy feels humiliated - and is attempting to destroy his own son.

This is the Devil - This is the disease of alcoholism.

 
Respected Contributor
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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

I think it's a shame that they all want to air their dirty laundry in public. 

Attacking each other on social media in not the answer.

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

It's just so sad.

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

So they don't talk to each other, but fight back and forth over social media.

 

 

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

This couple should get some class

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

Sad all around.

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

It sounds like they really should all just stay away from each other and stay off social media.

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

Maybe the sons should stay away from their father, until he gets some help..Hasn't he had a drinking and drug problem in the past? Not saying he does now, but if he does, and doesn't want to seek help, then stay away........It is a bad situation all around!

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

The only thing I got out of this article was,

- Brandon Lee looks exactly like his father

and

- We are seeing the beginnings of a 21-yr old abuser

 

Tommy/Pamela both have a well-documented wheel’s-off history.

Tommy Lee has a history of physical abuse...now his son officially does. 

 

(bringing out the Sidsmom Crystal Ball)

I predict this will not be the last time we hear from Brandon Lee.

He will hurt someone else...who is not a family member.

Just a matter of time.

 

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Re: The Tommy Lee ~ Pamela Anderson saga

 With all the problems in this world today. Who needs the drama of that weird family. They make their own drama then go public wanting sympathy. They are all just a mess.