Indian Matchmaking

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I watched this 8 episode show on Netflix after watching Dating Around (which was good). This show involves a woman who is a matchmaker, she makes matches for Indian men and women. It is said there are two kinds of marriages, love marriages and arranged marriages. I was confused, I thought an arranged marriage was arranged by the couple's parents, possibly meeting on your wedding day, not really having a say in the match. It seemed the couples met, they also could veto any matches. There was this one guy, he was such a mama's boy, she ruled his life and ruled her husband. She is so intrusive in her children's lives, one son is married and he and his wife live with his parents. She told the unmarried son he needed to get married by the end of the year because her other son and his wife need to start their family! I could never be with a mama's boy like him, you will never pry him away from his mother, also he'll never take your side. There was this woman Aparna, she was so abrasive, and so picky. She was looking for the perfect guy, there is no perfect guy. I'm not saying to settle, but you do need to make some concessions. There was a beautiful girl Nadia, she was stood up by this guy, she gave him another chance, he did it again! She ended up dating and liking a guy Aparna discarded. I know someone who who met her husband through a matchmaker. She got married last November (she is around 36). She was desperate to get married, she wanted a family. No one likes this guy, he is a convicted felon (from when he was younger), her sister won't leave her 2 year with her sister if he is around. I actually don't really think it mattered to her who she married, she is all about having a baby. She is due in October.

Houstonoilers · ‎01-07-2018

This was a truly fascinating peek into Indian culture. I never knew the Indian matriarch rules the roost!

Also, they are all beautifully dressed to the nines with hair, makeup and beautiful jewelry - I'm not seeing anyone schlepping around in baggy shorts.

I didn't like the mother who was pushing the son to get married so that she could push the already married son to have a child. She had also purchased gifts for her future daughter-in-law of very expensive jewelry, but none that looked like something a young girl would wear.

I think living with your parents and having a multi-generational household is somewhat common in India - personally, I would not want to live with my inlaws.

silkyk · ‎03-03-2011

I came across this show by accident and was fascinated with the clothes and jewelry. Fun to watch just for that!

Pezzie · ‎12-12-2011

We are enjoying the show. Fascinating look into the culture, that's for sure.

I really like the college counselor. He is so jolly and has such a great personality. Hope he finds someone special.

The jewelry designer, ( his name is long and I don't know how to spell it ) is so narcissistic ! No wonder he has turned down 80 proposals! Aparna, super opionated, and abrasive. DH kept saying, can you imagine being married to her! Lol

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Pezzie I wonder if any of the pairings led to marriage? The one guy with the overbearing mother did get engaged. The mother is just too much, I don't think she cares if he is happy or not, as long as he gets married.

Pezzie · ‎12-12-2011

@Jordan2

I just saw the engagement of "mama's boy". I actually feel sorry for him, bc his mom is so overbearing. She was stressing me out with her constant pushing and ultimatums, and I am just a viewer. However, he seems very happy with his choice, so I hope they have a bright future.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Pezzie wrote:
@Jordan2

I just saw the engagement of "mama's boy". I actually feel sorry for him, bc his mom is so overbearing. She was stressing me out with her constant pushing and ultimatums, and I am just a viewer. However, he seems very happy with his choice, so I hope they have a bright future.

@Pezzie I remember seeing his mother talking to the matchmaker, then realizing he was sitting there like he was a little boy! I do understand different cultures have their own ways, but I have to wonder if she is way over the line even in Indian culture. A child who is in their twenties should not have to be under the thumb of a parent, they should be allowed to make their own decisions, even if the parent disagrees with them.