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Re: Ben Affleck Back in Rehab/Jennifer Intervention


@Tique wrote:

@q-girl   thank you for your post. It was quite enlightening.

 

@chessylady   congratulations on your sobriety.May you continue to have the strength to not relapse.


 

@Tique. . . .   I realize that this may not be everyone's experience. However, between my husband and I we have dealt with this situation with one parent and two siblings. What I posted came from our experiences with their addictions. 

 

As as much as you love your family members and want to help and support them you just get to the point where you can no longer allow their addiction, and their refusal to seek help for their disease, negatively impact your own family - you, your spouse, your children. And it will. Oh, believe me it will. The constant drama of their addiction, the lies, the drama, the lies, the stories. . . . did I mention the lying? 

 

It's a rough, tough life for anyone with an addiction. No doubt about  it. But for the loved ones whose lives the addict has tainted with his/her addiction? Those loved ones are left with shadows of pain and bitterness on their hearts. And many sad and hurtful memories that take way too long to get,over.

 

Thank you, my friends, for letting me vent a bit. It's easy let the sunshine and sweetness in once you vent the bad things out!

 

 

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Re: Ben Affleck Back in Rehab/Jennifer Intervention

What a world of difference between Jennifer Garner and Angelina Jolie.  I don't think I've ever read anything nasty from Jennifer about Ben Affleck and I bet she had some real humdinger stories to tell.  Instead, she graciously helps him because she understands that their kids need their father.  

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@puttypiesmom wrote:

What a world of difference between Jennifer Garner and Angelina Jolie.  I don't think I've ever read anything nasty from Jennifer about Ben Affleck and I bet she had some real humdinger stories to tell.  Instead, she graciously helps him because she understands that their kids need their father.  


She has so much grace and cares for her family, which Ben seems to still be a part of.  Like Jennifer Aniston never saying an unkind word in her divorce.  Angelina could take lessons from both women especially J. Garner.

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@Phantom41 wrote:

He'd be a tough guy to love.  It looks like she's the only ex that cared enough to show up and help him.

 

There are no ex wives.  Jennifer is the only wife he has ever had and she isn't an ex, they are still married.


 

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there is hope - a positive note:

 

 

'It’s easy to assume that rehab won’t be effective after someone has already gone through treatment before, but it “absolutely” can be, addiction specialist Neeraj Gandotra, MD, chief medical officer at Delphi Behavioral Health Group, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. And, in fact, going back into treatment is pretty common. “Once someone recognizes there’s a problem with a substance use disorder, quite frankly, it does take several attempts in most cases,” he says.

 

“Sobriety is a lifelong process,” psychotherapist Kathryn Smerling tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Battling the demons and avoiding the triggers is a lifelong process. And yes, it often takes several intensive sessions to flesh out the triggers of addiction. Relapsing is, therefore, often a common part of the recovery process.” 

 

Addiction is an ongoing issue, Gandotra explains, and if someone needs to seek treatment again, it shows that their treatment needs to be refined. Going back to rehab “provides a person insight into what worked in the past and what wasn’t working and hopefully can give them some better information in terms of how to attack the problem once they return to the community,” he says. “Absolutely going to rehab again, if it’s a good place, can achieve all of that and much more.”

 

For the record, there is no number of times after which rehab isn’t helpful, Gandotra adds. “There’s an idea in treatment that we have to meet the patient where they’re at,” he says. “If at that moment they’re willing to go back into treatment, whether it’s the first or 21sttime, they have recognized that they need help. That is when we need to act and ensure safety.”

 

Research has shown that the longer someone is engaged in treatment, the more likely they are to stay sober, Gandotra says. Once a person leaves a treatment facility, if they stayed at one, that’s generally followed by regularly visiting a substance abuse counselor or therapist and enrolling in a program where they have to submit to regular urine testing for drugs or alcohol, he says. “That way, if there is any change in behavior, it is detected well before something bad happens.” '

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@chessylady wrote:

Beth, you summed it up so well. I have been clean and sober for two years. I was able to stop drinking without rehab but could not have stayed sober without AA and my sponsor. There are many reasons alcoholics drink but it is a disease and the alcohol is a form of self-medication. I have not relapsed but most alcoholics relapse more than once. Some never find their way back to sobriety. I hope that Ben Affleck went to rehab to help himself become the person he is meant to be and not just to make his family happy. I hope he never relapses again.


 

@chessylady . . . .   Congratulations on two years of being clean and sober. My wish is that you may always have the peace in your soul and the strength in your character to continue to make the choice for sobriety every day. You, my friend, are one strong woman who absolutely has my respect and admiration.

 

 

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Admittedly, I don't know much about addiction, but for those posters saying Jen getting him into rehab is enabling him, how is her getting him into treatment for his alcoholism enabling him?  She's not buying him booze or looking the other way when he's fallen off the wagon.  She's the one that's stepped up & convinced him to enter rehab.

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@aubnwa01 wrote:

Admittedly, I don't know much about addiction, but for those posters saying Jen getting him into rehab is enabling him, how is her getting him into treatment for his alcoholism enabling him?  She's not buying him booze or looking the other way when he's fallen off the wagon.  She's the one that's stepped up & convinced him to enter rehab.


@aubnwa01, I also don't see this as enabling him. He is the father of her children, seems like he is crying out for help, I also don't think love really ever dies, I'm sure on some level she still loves him and wants the best for him (yes I know there are cases where someone is an SOB, I don't think this is the case).

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That girl has been through it with him. We know her children come first. He is their father so of course she wants to see him getting help and staying sober. He has an addictive personality not just with alcohol but in other areas of his life. One plus for him he picked an acceptional wife and mother for his children.