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[CalminHeart]

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@Slitslattly wrote:

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Since this is your first post, I will warn you that there is an army of Q supporters who will dish out snark at the slightest criticism. It's easy to be snarky or just plain mean hiding behind a keyboard.

Don't let them scare you away or get under your skin.

[THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes]

I see absolutely nothing wrong with using the word "hostess."

Now the forums have a word usage police squad.

I will use "hostess" as frequently and as often as I like (unless forbidden by real moderators.)

Perle Mesta, the "Hostess With the Mostess";  as portrayed by Ethel Merman in Call Me Madam!

[walkingal]

@THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes   👍 

[RescueLover]

That’s NOT True @CalminHeart


When we go out to dinner often the first person to greet us is …

The HOSTESS 🥴

[THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes]

Ethel belts out "I'm the Hostess With the Mostess!"  It's fabulous!

[cjm61]

@CalminHeart 

Yes @RescueLover and @THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes , hostess is a term used to this day. My niece, in her 20's, told me she is a hostess at Ruth Chris. She had no trouble with that title. 

[Suneshine]

I requested the book from my library and it seems to be very popular.  I am number 13 on the wait list  Thank you for the suggestion. 

[CalminHeart]

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@THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes wrote:

I see absolutely nothing wrong with using the word "hostess."

Now the forums have a word usage police squad.

I will use "hostess" as frequently and as often as I like (unless forbidden by real moderators.)

Perle Mesta, the "Hostess With the Mostess";  as portrayed by Ethel Merman in Call Me Madam!

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I remember Ethel Merman and 1953's Call Me Madam. 

No word usage police squad. It's matter of respecting women for the same work a man does.  

It's simply thinking of others' feelings, realizing times change, and intent of words change. We don't live in 1953 anymore. 

I'll never understand why people are so intent on using words that can disrespect others. 

[CalminHeart]

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@cjm61 wrote:

@CalminHeart 

Yes @RescueLover and @THEY CallMe Mr Wilkes , hostess is a term used to this day. My niece, in her 20's, told me she is a hostess at Ruth Chris. She had no trouble with that title. 

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I remember being 20 and wouldn't have given it a second thought then either. 

Wait until she's older or goes into another profession. Sexual harrassment, less pay than a man in the same position, and other biases come with many words. I worked for nearly 50 years and have seen a lot of it. I was subjected to it as well.  Zero tolerance from me. 

I want the same title a man would have.  

[CalminHeart]

That's fine if they don't care.  But how do you know if they care? 

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@RescueLover wrote:


That’s NOT True @CalminHeart


When we go out to dinner often the first person to greet us is …

The HOSTESS 🥴

If that person calls herself a hostess, go for it. Maybe it's what her boss calls it or requires. We don't know.

For me, I want the same title a man would have if doing the same job. I don't want a female version of it. 

I have been paid less than men for doing the same job with the same title. I have been the subject of sexual harassment. I was an executive and men would ask me to take on secretarial duties in serious meetings (I asked my admin to do it).   

I've seen so much in my leadership positions over 50 years of working that I don't want a title, pay, or anything else that's different than a man would have in the same position.