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[Etoile308]

Perhaps it's where one looks. I'm reading thread after thread of fellow posters offering advice, requested opinions, descriptions of clothing items past and present, holiday foods and recipe suggestions and so much more. All good.

I think the positive far outweighs any negative.

Some people thrive on drama. They'll seek it, create it, wallow in it, perpetuate it. It turns more entertaining when they play the victim. I use to feel empathy until I realized things went beyond a pattern and post seemed carefully crafted soley for reaction.

[geezerette]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

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@SilleeMee wrote:

To me it seems there are a lot of unhappy people everywhere and not just here. Could be b/c of the current state of affairs affecting so many people on many levels of life and having to live with it. No escape except to vent for many of us. 

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@SilleeMee.  That certainly is reflected in the disrespectful, nasty way people are treating each other and is reflected in the large number of serious road rage incidents.  First time I've ever seen lobby signs in hospitals and clinics warning that mistreatment of their employees won't be tolerated.

Everyone seems to be angry and upset.

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Those first went up in my area during the pandemic.

[We rescue cats]

@Shanus I agree with you, some of the negativity and nasty comments of late is just sad. There are a few folks that make me wish I had the ability to block so that I don't have to read their posts.

[Janey2]

@Shanus  I was just thinking the exact opposite. I think for the most part people are generally kind and helpful here. There are a couple of posters here who state something and when people try nicely to respond they come back nasty and rude, until people get fed up and respond in kind. This went on yesterday and again today. Listening to people who have different opinions makes a person better equipped to respond to a situation. And also reading something is not the same as talking in person. Not everyone understands humor or sarcasim, and that is ok.

i also think one or two people come here to start arguments. They probably have been like this their whole lives. They have to come back at you no matter what. Attention seekers and have nothing else to do, yet they keep posting and fighting. Not smart enough to walk away.

[rockygems123]

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@tansy wrote:

When posters get a negative reaction time after time, and their threads are often deleted, it would make sense to not post so much personal information.  

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@tansy 

Thankfully the political posts seem to have dwindled which is great.  And since they are against forum policy it makes sense that they are eventually deleted.

Way too much personal information is given from posters when on that topic.

[rockygems123]

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@Etoile308 wrote:

Perhaps it's where one looks. I'm reading thread after thread of fellow posters offering advice, requested opinions, descriptions of clothing items past and present, holiday foods and recipe suggestions and so much more. All good.

I think the positive far outweighs any negative.

Some people thrive on drama. They'll seek it, create it, wallow in it, perpetuate it. It turns more entertaining when they play the victim. I use to feel empathy until I realized things went beyond a pattern and post seemed carefully crafted soley for reaction.

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@Etoile308 

Very well said.

[tansy]

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@rockygems123 wrote:

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@tansy wrote:

When posters get a negative reaction time after time, and their threads are often deleted, it would make sense to not post so much personal information.  

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@tansy 

Thankfully the political posts seem to have dwindled which is great.  And since they are against forum policy it makes sense that they are eventually deleted.

Way too much personal information is given from posters when on that topic.

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Hey! Is that aimed at me? 🥹  😝

[Bella8888]

@Shanus 

Having participated in a few social media sites over the years, I find this one to be negative-light in comparison.  

One case was the Amazon Top Reviewer Forums where there were very long threads that were full of creativity and excellent thought-provoking posts that added to the quality of my life until around 2015.  At that time, those forums went to heck in a handbasket, to put it mildly.  

I was a 'top reviewer' for a time. Initially, I was very nervous joining in on conversations but eventually it was a lot of fun and  quite touching at times.  I developed friendships that continue to this day via email.  One person lived near me and we met regularly in person until she passed.  So, it was very productive and enjoyable use of my time.

It was good business for Amazon, which is why those forums were there in the first place.  Moderating kicked in and blocking other posters was allowed when people were physically threatened or got doxxed, etc.  But that did not stop anyone from making a 'sock-puppet' account and continuing doing their thing.  

When the negativity seeped over into the reviews getting strafed  with down votes, reviews became unreliable and bad for Amazon business, so they closed the forums down.  Some posters went to Goodreads or other locations to continue their on-line friendships.

What I learned:  People can be seriously kind and people can be seriously mean-spirited.  This reflects the overall human condition.  Perhaps more so lately because people, at the bottom line and underneath the negativity, are ....  scared, and for various reasons.  And I learned to ignore and look at my own stuff that comes up in reaction to ...  whatevers.  It is the most and least thing I can do. 

I hope this helps and wish you all well in all of life's ebbs and flows.  Being human can be easy or not.

[Bella8888]

@Shanus 

I also meant to say I appreciate you're bringing this subject up.  It is kind.

[BalletBabe]

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@geezerette wrote:

Heck, this place is mild compared to other social media.

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@geezerette   You are so right!   It is terrible and not getting any better.   It is kind of sad.  There is a girlI was following on You Tube that has Cancer and another channel started and they are ripping her to shreds.  Who does that to a Cancer patient?  I won't go back there.