Q Talk

[katie1859]

I needed a place to be honest. A daughter who was to elope in the spring. Then, it changed to a BIG wedding.
In the interim, the bride discovers a baby is on his way.
Then, with a dropped ball that no one picked up, I did and am organizing the bridal shower.
The topic is that I have nothing to wear for the big day, wedding. I'm struggling to live life with the economy . Caregiving and primary parent for a son with a disability and doing it solo. When they say you live on a fixed income, it is fixed. Nothing extra in or outhe mother t.
I'm being asked over and over what is my color, I just keeping avoiding the conversation.
Has anyone been in the situation where they can't afford someone's party?

[fthunt]

Tell DD to go with Plan A   (elope).......b/c you're booked.

[Janey2]

I am not sure I understand your problem. Is it that the bride wants you to pick a color for your dress now for a spring wedding or you can't afford to buy a dress?

[QVCkitty1]

@katie1859 , Does the bride not understand your situation ?

[LizzieInSRQ]

@katie1859  depending on the size of your city and if you are a conventional dress size, you may want to look at comsigment shops for mother of the bride type dresses.

Also please know there are TONS of inexpensuve options online. A friend of mine bought three WEDDING dresses online each actually being less than $100.00

With that said, there are a couple of very savvy fashion people who post on this board that can maybe help find these bargains. 

You would have to help drill down to what you are looking for by supplying some details. I would imagine

• Dress size
• Length you want
• Is it a daytime or nightime ceremony
• Fancy or not ( beaded vs no embellishment,)
• What month
• And, yes, what colors YOU would enjoy wearing
• Price range low to high.

If anyone else has criteria ...please add....as ive never been the mother of the bride. 

i did buy a dress in my friends wedding colors as somewhat of a bridesmaid tho she didnt have any official ones standing up with her but i helped a ton...all for $99 as i had little $ and got tons of compliments and i was plus size.

[Love my grandkids]

@katie1859 Lay it on the line with the bride just exactly as you did here. You don't have the money, tell her to elope and get it over with. IMO she should pay for your dress considering your situation but that's just my opinion. If they can afford a wedding, she should buy her own mother a dress for pete's sake.

[katie1859]

You made me laugh.....ty.

[Love my grandkids]

@katie1859  Who?

[kitcat51]

Your post is confusing...is a daughter your daughter? Planned to elope in Spring  2023 or 2024? When is the BIG wedding? When is the baby due? Hosting a shower is expensive so are the couple getting married paying for it? And finally if money is tight try borrowing a dress from family, friends or shopping resale  There's no reason to avoid the dress color conversation, just tell the truth & don't be embarrassed. I wish you well @katie1859.

[We rescue cats]

I think it is time to sit her down and have a very honest conversation with her. Tell her that you cannt afford it and will not be contributing to the wedding not the shower(s).