Q Talk

[MG Chris]

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@ROMARY wrote:

Imo, better than frequenting bars.

Church/temple/etc. after services coffee get- togethers would be a good place, imo.

Now-a-days, it's probably much easier to find prospective partners online at popular online dating services.

That way, a person can do a bit of investigating before they actually meet in person.

Once 'their person' is found and the relationship is progressing and serious, I would suggest hiring a licensed private investigator.

Just to be sure the person is honest and safe.

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There are plenty of background checkers out there. I have a subscription to one and run everyone through before meeting. I had one guy volunteer his full name and birthday so I could vet him before meeting. I have had several men tell me they have run background checks on me. It is pretty common practice. 

[DottieBlue]

Shouldn't judge WHERE you meet a person, it's WHO they are that matters.

A very close friend of mine met her first husband at her church.  Everyone thought he was a nice guy, even friends of hers who went to the same church.  They married after a year of dating, and come to find out, he drank, ran around on her and when he became physically violent with her, she left him.  No kids with that SOB thank goodness. Marriage lasted 18 months.

Two years after her divorce, she and a girlfriend went to a bar for a girls night out.  She met a guy there, they dated and a year later they married.  He was a very nice man, and was very good to her.  They had 2 kids.  They were happily married until she died of cancer at the age of 39.  They were married for 14 years until her death.

So, she met a bad guy at church and a good guy at a bar.  Never know.....

[september]

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@MG Chris wrote:

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@SharkE wrote:

Better watch Dr. Phil. evening news, etc.

I wouldn't trust those people as far as I could throw 'em.

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Wow, I am on Bumble and have dated attorneys, dr’s, and a local politician. I also have met some great women on Bumbles BFF option.

My 81-year-old mom is dating a 75-year-old man who is well-educated and very wealthy whom she met on A dating site.

You are very closed-minded. 

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@MG ChrisThanks so much for adding something I wasn't aware of...there is a BFF option?

After losing my husband nearly five years ago, I'm thinking of checking out online dating sites, but would also like to meet some single female friends.  Everyone where I now live, both males and females....all married.  

[MG Chris]

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@september wrote:

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@MG Chris wrote:

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@SharkE wrote:

Better watch Dr. Phil. evening news, etc.

I wouldn't trust those people as far as I could throw 'em.

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Wow, I am on Bumble and have dated attorneys, dr’s, and a local politician. I also have met some great women on Bumbles BFF option.

My 81-year-old mom is dating a 75-year-old man who is well-educated and very wealthy whom she met on A dating site.

You are very closed-minded. 

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@MG ChrisThanks so much for adding something I wasn't aware of...there is a BFF option?

After losing my husband nearly five years ago, I'm thinking of checking out online dating sites, but would also like to meet some single female friends.  Everyone where I now live, both males and females....all married.  

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First of all I am sorry for your loss. ❤️

Yes, I have some really terrific women on BFF. One group I go out with was started by a woman from Bumble BFF and there are seven of us who get together all brought together through the BFF. A couple of the women are married but wanted to find some female friends. 

I saw this group on TikTok called the Women's Social Club. They have chapters all over the country and are adding more all the time. They just added a chapter near me. The dues are $35.00 a month.  They do various activities each month. They post videos of different things they have done and it looks fun. I am thinking of joining. 

[ManyMeows]

Lisa Robertson was very guarded about releasing any personal information of any kind. During her years at QVC, she was aggressively stalked by at least three different men, resulting in restraining orders and courtroom appearances/trials. One man actually followed her to her home town in the Carolinas while she was vactioning, and she was not aware of this until she returned to Philly. During the trial, he told her in the courtroom that he was in the movie theater behind her, and told her "he was so close he could smell her popcorn." One of her stalkers was sentenced to jail time. Talk about Chilling .......

I'm not as trusting as so many out there, and I know that saved me from a few shaky situations. I'm glad to be happily "settled in" with my hubs of many years. Otherwise, I might just skip the dating thing.

[Teddixat]

@SharkE. Maybe not watch Dr. Phil

[Estellee]

To each his own, I guess.

[Love to Run]

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@SharkE wrote:

Better watch Dr. Phil. evening news, etc.

I wouldn't trust those people as far as I could throw 'em.

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Millions of people connect online. Of course television capitalized on the sensational exceptions, I wouldn't base by interpretation of reality on that.

[Love to Run]

Divorced my husband of 28 years in July 2019, met my current husband through a mutual Facebook group in December of that year, and married in July 2021. We dated long distance throughout the pandemic and I relocated to DC after the wedding. 

After being married for over half my lifetime I'm so thankful that I continued to be open, learn, and live my life out loud. I wasn't even looking, and my soulmate found me, and I'm eternally grateful.

[RetRN]

Everyone's situation is different, no right or wrong answer. I don't believe it really matters how or where you meet, outcomes don't come with guarantees.