Mom to Mom

[sktchy]

I have never had a conversation with my Son's Girlfriends Mom.  I have spoken to Dad when dropping off blankets for the animals winter 2016 - when it was cold.  The conversation was friendly but ...

My question is this:  my Son has been dating this girl for 3 years.  She LIVES with my Son in his Father's large home.  The mileage between the my Son's GF Mom and Dad is 2 miles at best.  

My ex-Husband - my Son's Father - has a history of violence.  He was a horrible person prior to my meeting him and my Son's GF's Family - her Mom and Dad know this because they grew up around my son's dad.

I am divorced from the turd but my question is this:  should I invite the Mom over for Mother's Day (there will be other people there).

 I have NEVER had a conversation with the woman.  Additionally my Son said the parents are distance to him (they are also divorced but friendly) - and I tried to explain that he needs to have a talk with - AT LEAST - the Dad to reassure that not only will his Mom beat his butt (along with the her Family) - but he will begging the Police to come and get him if there was any violence.

I get where they are coming from.  I never KNEW PEOPLE LIKE THIS EXISITED.

YEP - THAT BAD.  Thanks to my ex-'s brother being a NOW retired Baltimore County Cop - nobody trusts the Police to handle any domestic violence calls ... it was BAD

[jaxs mom]

Is your son and his GF going to be at your house for Mother's Day? If so I'd ask her how she feels about you inviting her mother. 

[151949]

I can't make heads or tails of this convoluted story.

[roxxy1]

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@151949 wrote:

I can't make heads or tails of this convoluted story.

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@ Me neither !

[roxxy1]

OOOPS I meant @151949 me neither.

[embgm]

I think we are missing parts of this story. How we went from inviting her son's girlfriends mom to dinner to kicking her father's butt for violence I have no idea. And what does her retired family member have to do with it all?

[lovemybichonfrise]

Include me :::eyeroll:::

[happycat]

@sktchy, what do you really want to do? That is what I would do. I have had get togethers at my home and invited people who I really didn't know very well at all, and was halfway surprised when they came. But, they seemed to enjoy being here and I was thrilled that they accepted my invitation.

[RedTop]

I personally would not invite someone to a family get together if we had never met, or even spoken before.   However, I am just weird that way. 

[Love my grandkids]

HUH??? Not following. However, to me dating and living together are two different things!