Mom to Mom

[Big Joanie]

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@JBKO wrote:
Thank you for taking the time to reply. She is taking her to the pediatrician tomorrow. I know the baby is much more affectionate with her father.

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If thats the case .. is she being day cared by a woman ....??

[Carmie]

I knew fairly early that my youngest son had some problems.  All the doctors and specialists told me he was fine, but I knew something wasn't right.  When he started school, his problems progressed and became more pronounced.

I think most mothers know their child well.  if mom thinks there could be a problem, there probably is.  

Time will tell.  I am just glad your sister is aware and not in denial as some families are. I am sure she will keep on top of things.

[LTT1]

@JBKO 

Interesting you mentioned that she is more responsive with her father.

So was DGD.

I wonder if, in infants, their attachment preferences are due to hormones?

This responsiveness to her father always mystified me... but this preference was obvious to me even when she was first born.

As I mentioned,  DGD seems to now prefer her mom and the fact that mom is (mostly) her role model...everything is as it should be now.

[Mindy D]

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@JBKO wrote:

Hi everyone,

I'll keep this as brief as possible. The child in question is not my daughter but my niece. She's 15 months and her therapist mom is going crazy thinking that her daughter has delays. I don't know all the details but she says that she feels that the baby is regressing and not talking as much. She doesn't like to cuddle, she doesn't give hugs. etc. 

Is my sister overanalyzing and looking too deep into this? Is this common among therapists? I always remember coming across some woman on a reality show like 15 years ago mentioning that both of her parents were psychologists and how that added to her dysfunction or instability.

TIA

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She is not over analyzing. The behaviors you mention are signs of autism. At 15 months she should be saying a few words. If she was talking more and now she is talking noticeably less, your niece is not over reacting either. If a lack of eye contact becomes noticeable, that would also be a sign. 

[JBKO]

Thank you everyone for your comments. My sister took the baby to the pediatrician (same one she's been seeing since she was born) and took her time explaining her concerns--all of them. Her doctor was not too concerned but said some it could be explored. She suggested my sister have the baby evaluated if she wanted and my sister has made an appointment.

[lovesrecess]

15 months is too young to diagnose a child as having autism without stronger and more overt symptoms. She needs to tell her pediatrician her concerns and follow his suggestion. The timeline for talking, etc. is all over the place. One of my grand babies said nothing but grunting sounds until she was 14 months old..I was very worried she was deaf...but her hearing checked out as fine....at 14 months she began talking nonstop...every child is different. Some babies seem to prefer one parent over the other sometimes....for no apparent reason....the mom needs to find some reassurance from the pediatrician.

[mom2four0418]

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@lovesrecess wrote:
15 months is too young to diagnose a child as having autism without stronger and more overt symptoms. She needs to tell her pediatrician her concerns and follow his suggestion. The timeline for talking, etc. is all over the place. One of my grand babies said nothing but grunting sounds until she was 14 months old..I was very worried she was deaf...but her hearing checked out as fine....at 14 months she began talking nonstop...every child is different. Some babies seem to prefer one parent over the other sometimes....for no apparent reason....the mom needs to find some reassurance from the pediatrician.

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THIS 

[Jersey Born]

I am of the opinion that a mother's intuition should never be discounted.  Mothers notice every freckle on their child's face, and fret over every sunburn and fever.  Mothers know their children better than anyone else, and mothers know when something is off, or wrong, or unsettling before anyone else does.  I hope that the child in question does not have an ASD, but it is good thing that the mother loves her child enough to be proactive in investigating her fears, because if her child actually has an ASD, getting help at the earliest opportunity will help her child attain better success in achieving proper speech and many other (fine and gross motor, proprioception, etc.) skills, too.  I applaud this brave new mom for taking action to help her child.  

[cherry]

Thank goodness she is staying on top of things. Hiding your head in the sand is never wise..the child might be perfectly fine , just not advancing as fast as her mother wishes, but, it is always good to get another opinion

[ninjawife]

I evaluate children with autism and 15 months may be on the early side but it still can be diagnosed at that age.  The fact that she is regressing is concerning.  During an evaluation they will look at her social interactions, communication skills both verbal and non-verbal and look for any repetitive interests,