The Mothers Day TEXT

branny · ‎01-19-2012

Do any of you wonderful mothers out there only get a text on Mother's Day? No call or card or visit. It makes me feel very sad especially when I am always there with so much love for them. Just asking.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@branny. Putting things in perspective, I'd be hurt to only get a text on the fly. However, I'd be grateful to get anything or even have my child, as he died in 2006. It's been a long time and I'll always have a hole in my heart but I'm not grieving, so please, no sympathy.

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haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

I'm sorry you are feeling sad. I would be too if I only ever received a text. Some might not get anything.

You could always let them know that you are disappointed and would appreciate more than a text. If they don't care then just send them a text for their birthdays.

I told my DH years ago that certain holiday were important to me and he started the kids off when they were little on Mother's day by bringing me breakfast in bed. I didn't really care about that but they were so excited to do that. Now they still make an effort on Mother's Day & my birthday. I'm having them over this afternoon.

I think you should do something special for yourself to feel a bit better. I know it's not the same.

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

Sorry this is troubling you. But different people do things differently.

How about a reverse call to tell your kids how glad you are to have them in your life?

spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

Kind of ironic, right before I read this post I got a text from my youngest daughter to me and my oldest daughter saying happy mothers day sorry no card I got busy. It doesn't bother me at all she is a busy career woman.

She did call a few days ago to tell me she wanted to adopt an elephant for me she knows I wanted to do that and she called to have me pick one. I'm seeing my oldest at a brunch.

If they have a busy life I probably wouldn't get upset, cats in the cradle and all. I agree about doing something for yourself.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@branny wrote:
Do any of you wonderful mothers out there only get a text on Mother's Day? No call or card or visit. It makes me feel very sad especially when I am always there with so much love for them. Just asking.

@branny A text does not mean they love you less than you love them.

I would never tell them the text hurts because then you will appear as ungrateful. I don't know why they only sent a text and it would be too easy to speculate.

I suggest calling and tell them you received the text and thank them.

Being hurt doesn't change what happened. You still have them and they still thought about you.

Take comfort n the thought. How it's delivered really is secondary, even less than secondary.

Be well.💕

ETA I would not reciprocate by stopping sending cards and just sending texts back to them for birthdays, etc. That may make you feel better as in getting even but don't do what hurts you to them.

Do what makes you feel better by sending a card and even a phone call

We don't do for family with expectations. Those are just premeditated disappointments.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

Also the day is not over, here in CA its only 9:30 am. A phone call or flowers could still be on the way, or not but try to enjoy the day either way.

LizzieInSRQ · ‎12-27-2010

@branny wrote:
Do any of you wonderful mothers out there only get a text on Mother's Day? No call or card or visit. It makes me feel very sad especially when I am always there with so much love for them. Just asking.

As soon as id get the text, id call them back. Id say, " im calling bc I do not want to text back. How are you?" Etc. Etc. If it went to voice mail, I wouldve said, "hey, i got your text, thx but call me back love you, miss you Mom ( or whatever your normal way of saying it goes)".

We teach people how to treat us if just texting made you sad, and I frankly agree, show them without anger or sadness yet not accepting, but rather mom-style in love without any room for interpretation. You are not their buddy, neighbor or coworker...you are Mom. They tested a boundry of laziness, show them where your boundry of expectation is if not in the least, out of shear manners you want them to have.

foxywoods · ‎05-28-2010

Sorry, a text is just not acceptable for a Mother's Day greeting. On the other hand, I would prefer to say nothing rather than complain. I usually get a phone call late in the day and it always feels like an afterthought. My birthday too. A call sometimes on a differnt day.

I always made sure to send my Mom flowers and a card and at least call on Mother's Day and her Birthday. My mother was and continues to be a difficult woman even at 95. She was never happy with any gift. Even a cellphone I gave her once so she would have a phone in her car for emergencies. She complained about the phone and that strangers called all the time. I showed her how to block numbers. She could barely figure out how to make a call.

Janey2 · ‎06-07-2010

It is not what a person does one day out of the year. How about how you are treated on all the other days of the year? So it was a text. I see nothing wrong with it. How about inviting inviting your child over to visit?