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JB116 · ‎10-12-2016

I don't celebrate Mother's Day. It's a long story but I hate Mother's Day so it's not talked about in my house.

BUT, if I did and any of my kids did that I wouldn't be upset because at least they thought about me. It's a new world now and we are in the digital age. It's just how much is done.

Gayle2 · ‎07-12-2011

I had a pleasant Mother's Day. I do not know if it is odd, but really, I like "regular days" best. With that said, regular days hold no real drama, unrealistic expectations etc. I tend to dread special events/holidays...I have felt this way for a long time. Does anyone else feel this way?

granny me · ‎09-05-2014

@JB116 wrote:
I don't celebrate Mother's Day. It's a long story but I hate Mother's Day so it's not talked about in my house.

BUT, if I did and any of my kids did that I wouldn't be upset because at least they thought about me. It's a new world now and we are in the digital age. It's just how much is done.

It maybe a new world, but in this home we still believe in old fashion traditions. I am blessed and thankful that my daughter wouldn't forget me; as she grew up she learned we celebrate each other. A handwritten note on the back of a dirty napkin would be better then a text message in my book.

Starpolisher · ‎03-10-2010

@Gayle2 wrote:
I had a pleasant Mother's Day. I do not know if it is odd, but really, I like "regular days" best. With that said, regular days hold no real drama, unrealistic expectations etc. I tend to dread special events/holidays...I have felt this way for a long time. Does anyone else feel this way?

@Gayle2

I often do. That way there is no dissapointment!

"Kindness is like snow ~It beautifies everything it covers"
-Kahlil Gibran

MalteseMomma · ‎03-09-2010

I have 4 adult kids and 13 grands and 5 greats and personally, I have always thought they should do away with Mothers Day. Too many expectations and too many broken hearts.

I had a wonderful day yesterday with most all of them............and usually it it a good or ok day.

BUT, Mothers Day doesn't always go as well as we would like . One thing or another inevetably goes wrong too many times...Sometimes (most times) it is a small thing and other times biggies

.. 20 yrs ago was a total disaster...and every Mothers Day since,I remember it My home was robbed by my own daughter as she sat next to me at dinner out in a restaurant. I was set up by her and her friends while we were out....... It not only cost me all my expensive Q jewlery and more ,but worst of all, 20 yrs later, I find it has cost me my priceless , beautiful grandkids and great grands.........because they moved wayyyy across the country and I will never see them.We talk on the phone and FB but I will never get to hold them or touch them.

I know for too many there is a lot of heart break on Mothers Day for one reason or another. It should be done away with and we should,personally, honor our moms other ways and on other days

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@MalteseMomma I'm so sad for you but perhaps one day your grandchildren will come to you and you can have a relationship with them.

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NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@GSPgirl wrote:
Yes, I got a text from my 34 year old from a different state. Sometimes she sends flowers. Nothing this year. That's really OK because she does some wonderful things for me throughout the year and I had just had a 3 hour phone conversation with her a few days earlier. My son, who is home for college, made me homemade from scratch cupcakes. That was the first time he has baked cupcakes. It was so thoughtful.

I think you have a great attitude!

My kids each did something for me for Mother's Day, as they always do. Only one lives in my state, the others are far away. Cumulatively, I got flowers (from one), phone calls (from 2), cards (from 2), and the son who lives closest to me took me out to dinner. They each did what they themselves had decided to do, and although each one did not do what would have been absolutely perfect, what they did came from their hearts.

The last thing I would ever want is to tell my kids that I "require" something, or to guilt them into doing something they'd rather not do. Forcing people to do things rarely ends well. I choose to treat my kids as adults, I respect their choices, and I am a very grateful Mom because I know that what they did is what they chose to do, and I am grateful for the thought that went into it. I felt very loved and cared for yesterday, so - although certainly not perfect - I had a very nice Mother's Day.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@GSPgirl wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
I think kids who are so thoughtless on Mother's Day aren't very thoughtful and considerate in general. They never have been, they were so involved with themselves that the day gets away from them. They do love you and I think a week ago, they had good intentions but other things just crowded it out. I would have been heartbroken but I cannot even envision my girls being that thoughtless. We're a family who actually talks to each other and if something like that did happen, it would have been a once in a lifetime thing because this mother would have been all over the inconsiderate, selfish brat. They can still be brats at 30...lol We actually celebrated the day at our house yesterday and the girls gave me their gifts and cards but they texted me this morning and both sent me pictures of the babies and their own celebrations.
I think you are wrong. You over generalizing. I'm glad you have perfect kids. I'm sure you were the perfect mom.

Yes, my thoughts too.

I also think that some very nice people are just not very good with holidays. Lots of people believe that treating others nicely the rest of the year is more important than feeling forced to buy a card, send flowers, etc. Some people think it's better to surprise a loved one with flowers or whatever on a random day instead of doing what the world (and card companies) expects them to do.

One of my best friends in college came from one of the nicest families I had ever met. Her parents were adorable, so sweet, generous, welcoming, and loving to everyone, and they clearly adored their kids. They were a tight-knit family in every way. So I was really surprised to learn that they didn't make a big deal - at all - about birthdays. In my family, birthdays were always a huge deal! But in hers, they weren't. So on the surface it might appear that parents who pretty much glossed over a child's birthday were uncaring and cruel. But it couldn't be further from the truth. They were a perfect example of people who were kind to each other every day, but just weren't into the whole holiday/celebration thing. I know other families who are borderline dysfunctional (and some not so borderline!), and they're very good about giving each other Christmas gifts and Mother's Day cards and all the rest. All the on-the-surface stuff. But the rest of the time, they're not so nice to each other. Which kind of family would most of us rather be part of if the choice was one or the other? I know what I would choose.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
@NicksmomESQ I think we're talking about two different scenarios......

Personally, I'm fine with a MD text; at least they thought of me, but I'm not big on holidays anyway. I don't attach that much importance to one day. You know if you and your child have a close relationship or not.

I AM very big on holidays, but I agree with you. I care much more about my overall relationships with my kids, and I give them lots of credit for good intentions.

There are many posts here re forcing kids to do what their Moms want. The reality is that it's not a good idea. Expressing feelings (without actually commanding adult children to do our bidding) is one thing. But going further than that is a bad idea. Forcing people to do something (whether they're our children or not) can easily lead to resentment, and rarely ends well.

I also don't want flowers because I asked for them! Or a phone call or a card or anything else. I want my kids to do what they want to do. I hope they'll want to do something for me on Mother's Day, but I wouldn't dream of masterminding that in any way.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Gayle2 wrote:
I had a pleasant Mother's Day. I do not know if it is odd, but really, I like "regular days" best. With that said, regular days hold no real drama, unrealistic expectations etc. I tend to dread special events/holidays...I have felt this way for a long time. Does anyone else feel this way?

I don't feel that way, but I worked in the mental health field for many years, and what you describe is not uncommon. Some people have had past experiences that make them feel that way. Others are just comfortable in a more controlled setting, or they fear being disappointed, have social anxiety, or other reasons.

As I said, I don't dread special events or holidays, but in a way I do understand because from time to time I feel a little bit "I like regular days best" too.