Re: ? Text HAPPY MOTHERS DAY ?

meglet · ‎03-10-2010

I'm feeling a little snarky with the heat this evening, so I'll go ahead and say this...

Maybe some of the Moms who received texts saying happy Mother's Day should send texts to the sons, daughters, and in laws that you (and your husband if applicable) are thinking of putting the house and savings into a trust for pick your favorite charity. I'm pretty sure you'd hear something more than the ping from a text.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I only read 4 pages of replies, sorry if someone else mentioned this....

Mother's day isn't always about me (the mother). My DD and DDILs deserve to be honored also on Mother's Day. They are the mothers of my precious grandchildren.

And I do honor them.

There's no need for lavish gifts, and we don't have to get together on the day of....It would be hard because some live very far away---not a *days drive* with little ones for sure.

My own mother never acknowledged me on mother's day when I had my own children. I don't think it ever crossed her mind.

My MIL would melt in a pile before she would ever compliment me on being a good mother to her grandchildren. Mother's day she was to be treated like a queen.

That's why I started from the very beginning--letting my DD and DDILs know they are worthy of honor. They're all great moms.

As far as husbands giving a card, a gift or a kiss, it's very appropriate--you are the mother to his children.

CatLoverDogsToo · ‎03-10-2010

I am shocked by the "texts" or complete lack of "doing something nice" for moms on Mother's Day. My mother is deceased, but when she was alive I always gave her a card and a gift, or sent flowers if I was out of state at the time.

On my birthday I sent my mother flowers, because I knew what she went through on that particular day. I wanted her to feel appreciated for all she did for me.

My son takes me out for a nice dinner and my daughter gives me a nice present. I don't think it would have ever occurred to either of them to "text" or FB me.

For those of you who do so much for your DIL's or children, I would do a heck of a lot less until I felt I was being appreciated.

Remember, we teach others how to treat us. If you put up with it, it will continue. JMHO.

“The price of light is less than the cost of darkness.”
– Arthur C. Nielsen

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

They just don't understand. She'll think about it later, she has her new house on her mind right now. Doesn't mean she loves you any less and doesn't mean to be thoughtless. She's probably just processing things differently than you might think she would. Ahhhhhhh such is life. In years to come...she may understand better.

TaylorBrown · ‎02-19-2014

I cannot conceive of texting my mom Happy Mother's Day. As long as she is living I will always send a card and call her on that day. I do text other mothers who are in my contact list that I know I may not get to see and don't talk to on the phone regularly.

emmysmom · ‎06-22-2010

@makena wrote:
Same thing from my son. No card, just happy mother's day text. Not even "I Love You." It's heart-wrenching. I tried not to think about it all day. Seems I wasn't alone.

Even my husband didn't give me a card. When I finally mentioned it tonight, he said "I didn't know I was supposed to get you one. Oh well, I screwed up then." Then he had the nerve to say (after spending the day preparing lasagna) "thanks for making the day special." WTH! Special for who? It was Mother's Day and I cooked and did the dishes.

I feel your pain... of my 3 sons..2 called..my baby took me out to lunch and gave me a lovely card. We had a wonderful day! I always made Mother's day special for my mom..looked forward to givng her something special..but I think its because as a mother myself..I realized all she had done for me..!

Don't cry for a man who's left you--the next one may fall for your smile.
-- Mae West

emmysmom · ‎06-22-2010

@NYC Susan wrote:
@MalteseMomma wrote:
I have 4 adult kids and 13 grands and 5 greats and personally, I have always thought they should do away with Mothers Day. Too many expectations and too many broken hearts.

I had a wonderful day yesterday with most all of them............and usually it it a good or ok day.

BUT, Mothers Day doesn't always go as well as we would like . One thing or another inevetably goes wrong too many times...Sometimes (most times) it is a small thing and other times biggies

.. 20 yrs ago was a total disaster...and every Mothers Day since,I remember it My home was robbed by my own daughter as she sat next to me at dinner out in a restaurant. I was set up by her and her friends while we were out....... It not only cost me all my expensive Q jewlery and more ,but worst of all, 20 yrs later, I find it has cost me my priceless , beautiful grandkids and great grands.........because they moved wayyyy across the country and I will never see them.We talk on the phone and FB but I will never get to hold them or touch them.

I know for too many there is a lot of heart break on Mothers Day for one reason or another. It should be done away with and we should,personally, honor our moms other ways and on other days
@MalteseMomma, I am so sorry!

I know someone whose son arranged to have their house robbed and his own mother tied up. The heartbreak was unbearable all the way around.

I'm so glad you had a wonderful Mother's Day yesterday, and that you were surrounded by loving family.