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12-23-2015 07:54 PM
On Monday a toxic friends 50 year old Son died. Five months ago he was found unconcious and foaming at the mouth. After 24 hours - and his Son flying in from the West Coast - he made a miraculous recovery.
This event was blamed on sleep apnea. However this man does a history of pill abuse and was in recovery a few years ago. His ex-wife/roommmate lives wi
th him. Her Muslim Husband died 3 years - he 'died in his sleep'. He also had a problem with pills.
So now - at the same residence which claimed the life two men - we are wondering if the Medical Examiner will look further into these deaths.
In the meantime - I WAS friends/confident of the Mom of the man who died. I say WAS because the relationship became toxic.
Now that the Son has passed - I feel like I should call her - but I do not want to resume a relationship with her. I feel so bad - and I feel like I abandoned her ... we where very close but I 'ghosted' her - NOW THIS.
12-23-2015 08:07 PM
No need to engage in conversation with her, send a sympathty card and she will know you are thinking about her. If she calls you don't have to answer.
12-23-2015 08:08 PM
Let's see...you say she's toxic.
You didn't say anything nice about the son.
If you "abandoned" her you had a reason.
You don't want to resume a relationship with her.
What do YOU think you should do?
12-23-2015 08:16 PM
Stepping away from someone who is toxic is not abandoning them. It's self-preservation.
12-23-2015 08:30 PM
I will get her a card and some flowers when she returns to her job - which is the receptionist where I live.
She and her Son where very very close. I am close with my Son too, but not to the extent she depended on her Son.
Tonight I went to meet another neighbor in the Lobby where I live and she was on the phone with my close girlfriend/neighbor I was going to dinner with. She asked the neighbor if anyone else was standing around .... and my fellow diner said NO.
I just take myself back to the vapid life-sucking moments with her and I feel better. Card, plant and a wave when she is working.
I lost a best friend/ex husband (yep) and it took the life out of me. I cannot imagine her grief ... but then I just need to think back ...
12-23-2015 09:38 PM
@sktchy wrote:I will get her a card and some flowers when she returns to her job - which is the receptionist where I live.
She and her Son where very very close. I am close with my Son too, but not to the extent she depended on her Son.
Tonight I went to meet another neighbor in the Lobby where I live and she was on the phone with my close girlfriend/neighbor I was going to dinner with. She asked the neighbor if anyone else was standing around .... and my fellow diner said NO.
I just take myself back to the vapid life-sucking moments with her and I feel better. Card, plant and a wave when she is working.
I lost a best friend/ex husband (yep) and it took the life out of me. I cannot imagine her grief ... but then I just need to think back ...
Just the card.....more than that would be sending her the wrong message.....
12-24-2015 07:30 AM
@nana59 wrote:
@sktchy wrote:I will get her a card and some flowers when she returns to her job - which is the receptionist where I live.
She and her Son where very very close. I am close with my Son too, but not to the extent she depended on her Son.
Tonight I went to meet another neighbor in the Lobby where I live and she was on the phone with my close girlfriend/neighbor I was going to dinner with. She asked the neighbor if anyone else was standing around .... and my fellow diner said NO.
I just take myself back to the vapid life-sucking moments with her and I feel better. Card, plant and a wave when she is working.
I lost a best friend/ex husband (yep) and it took the life out of me. I cannot imagine her grief ... but then I just need to think back ...
Just the card.....more than that would be sending her the wrong message.....
True/I agree - I just want her to return to being the receptionist and I will just be a resident.
12-24-2015 10:09 PM
@sktchy wrote:On Monday a toxic friends 50 year old Son died. Five months ago he was found unconcious and foaming at the mouth. After 24 hours - and his Son flying in from the West Coast - he made a miraculous recovery.
This event was blamed on sleep apnea. However this man does a history of pill abuse and was in recovery a few years ago. His ex-wife/roommmate lives wi
th him. Her Muslim Husband died 3 years - he 'died in his sleep'. He also had a problem with pills.
So now - at the same residence which claimed the life two men - we are wondering if the Medical Examiner will look further into these deaths.
In the meantime - I WAS friends/confident of the Mom of the man who died. I say WAS because the relationship became toxic.
Now that the Son has passed - I feel like I should call her - but I do not want to resume a relationship with her. I feel so bad - and I feel like I abandoned her ... we where very close but I 'ghosted' her - NOW THIS.
My son died unexpectedly at age 15. I appreciated all the lovely cards I got during this sad time. I didn't have any expectations of those who sent them either. I was too busy grieving. Send a card.
12-26-2015 05:24 AM
@fortune wrote:
@sktchy wrote:On Monday a toxic friends 50 year old Son died. Five months ago he was found unconcious and foaming at the mouth. After 24 hours - and his Son flying in from the West Coast - he made a miraculous recovery.
This event was blamed on sleep apnea. However this man does a history of pill abuse and was in recovery a few years ago. His ex-wife/roommmate lives wi
th him. Her Muslim Husband died 3 years - he 'died in his sleep'. He also had a problem with pills.
So now - at the same residence which claimed the life two men - we are wondering if the Medical Examiner will look further into these deaths.
In the meantime - I WAS friends/confident of the Mom of the man who died. I say WAS because the relationship became toxic.
Now that the Son has passed - I feel like I should call her - but I do not want to resume a relationship with her. I feel so bad - and I feel like I abandoned her ... we where very close but I 'ghosted' her - NOW THIS.
My son died unexpectedly at age 15. I appreciated all the lovely cards I got during this sad time. I didn't have any expectations of those who sent them either. I was too busy grieving. Send a card.
I'm sorry about the loss of your son, fortune.
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