Saying Goodbye During this Pandemic

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

DD's closest friend is moving this Thursday - far away. Her husband got a new job (before this all happened), and they still want him to move - much to my surprise. She and DD are part of a larger group of friends, but the two of them do a lot together. Her husband worked nights here a lot. She had a baby 6 months ago. I went over and babysat a lot so the girls could go to dinner, shop, etc. I so enjoyed babysitting my "honorary great-nephew"! In fact, I spent the afternoon with him right before everything here hit, and people realized what was starting.

Anyway, I saw pictures of him today all dressed up in his Easter suit, in his carrier, with his bunny on the lawn by their home. I've seen pics of DD's other friends' babies and toddlers in their Easter clothes. No one else around. No grandparents.

DD hasn't seen her since this all started. She doesn't go anywhere, like DH and me, because DH is diabetic. HE goes into work one or two times a week, but they all take precautions.

She has cried about her friend's leaving twice this week. She can't even give her a hug goodbye, because her friend is not around anyone who is immunocompromised so she is going shopping - while still being careful - but we just can't take the chance of bringing something into our home. The girls were all planning a huge goodbye party for her, which now of course won't happen. Everyone is upset about not being able to see her. She's one of my "other daughters"

They text and talk on the phone all of the time, and I've seen lots of pictures of the baby. I'm thinking of letting DD go over to say goodbye and give her a quick hug. If they both are wearing masks, and DD comes right home and jumps in the shower, I think it would be fine.

Sorry to be so long winded - this is breaking my heart some too.

What would you do? Do you think they can safely get together this way?

ItsME · ‎03-10-2010

I would keep my distance and stay safe. Maybe drive by and wave. Have a reunion when this is over.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@beach-mom It's too bad but a "quick hug" can cause ALL kinds of trouble.

DO NOT encourage this. And you say "let" your daughter? Sounds like she's an adult who doesn't need permission.

BAD idea. Really bad. And unsafe. And NOT social distancing.

A person can spread it without actually having it. And what if her baby were to get it after a "quick hug"????

Think about that.

lolakimono · ‎03-29-2012

@beach-mom

If DD's friend were dying from Covid-19 in the hospital, she wouldn't even be able to go and give her a hug.

Please listen to the experts. She can plan a nice visit with her stimulus check, and by then DD' friends will be thrilled for a visit.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

@ItsME wrote:
I would keep my distance and stay safe. Maybe drive by and wave. Have a reunion when this is over.

This ^ Why jeopardize at least 3 or more people for one hug.

~The only difference between this place and the Titanic is that the Titanic had a band.~

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

What if your daughter or her friend God forbid gets the virus, I am not sure you could live with yourself, this is not going to be forever and that is the way you have to look at it

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

Mz iMac · ‎07-26-2014

Is this a sick joke? WT...????

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference."

sissel · ‎08-13-2010

Two weeks ago I stood in my DD's driveway & she was in her garage we talked & got to see eachother, why can't they do that? or stand on the sidewalk & friend stand by her frontdoor.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

Thank you everyone. This is a hard one. We know what we should do, but all of us are saddened by this situation.

@Love my grandkids - I did say "let," and she IS an adult. But what I meant by it is this: I'm VERY protective of DH, and who I "let" near him. DD has been here since last Christmas and is not going anywhere soon.

@lolakimono - Good advice about the visit. We've been telling her this, but it's pretty far. On the other hand her best friend from high school lives on the other side of the country (They talk every night too.), and they go back and forth about twice a year. (Best friend's family is here.)

Again, thanks. I'm not going anywhere, and there's reason for that! I will talk to her.

ValuSkr · ‎03-15-2014

Don't let her go - if indeed you have that kind of authority over your adult daughter. And even if you don't, she shouldn't even think of going because it would put the health of her parents in danger.